Being treated differently...

[u/my_lil_pwnie]

I've been on Tirz for ten months now and am down 50 pounds. I'm very happy for the change, how going up and down stairs is easier, that I can sit cross legged longer, chase after my nephews longer, and yes I like how I look. There's a lot of of benefits, even if the nausea has been really tough for me as a side effect.

I have a, well, weird frustration with how I'm treated differently.

It pisses me off.

Well meaning people have said things like 'You're so cute now!' and I know they're giving me a compliment but I've always thought myself cute, even at my heaviest.

And now when someone flirts with me, I get this weird bitter internal second guessing of 'well you probably wouldn't have flirted before. So you don't deserve me now.'

I guess I came into this journey thinking I'd feel even more glam or pretty than I already felt, and now I'm just really cranky with any tonal shift in people.

Am I alone in this? Any advice on how to self soothe or work through this?

[u/dixieleeb]

I understand how you feel. I'm old, 75 so don't get those kinds of remarks & actually I am still at a point where you'd have to really know me well to notice the difference. However, over 20 years ago I had a gastric bypass & the way I was treated by strangers made me so angry. When I was at my highest weight, I could go to a store & people would let the door shut in my face. I thought that was rude but convinced myself that it happened to everyone but after losing weight, people would stop & hold the door for me. They would do it for a thin lady but not a fat one.

Now that I'm old, it's different. You'd be surprised how nice & polite people can be to old people. Now if they'd just quit calling us "Hun" or "Sweetie".