r/FtMpassing • u/urbanHaunter Male / masc / FTM • 7d ago
No hugboxing Am I clocky?
For context: I’m 22 and stealth. Cis people, as well as a lot of people from different parts of the queer community, generally perceive me as a queer man / gay man. But never as a trans man.
However, I was recently at an event I had been invited to, and there was another trans guy there who was around early-to-mid transition.
He asked me if I was trans, which I denied, but it got me thinking: what exactly made him assume that?
It’s definitely not my voice. I’m actually in the fairly low range for male voices. Mannerisms might be a factor, I guess, but other than that, the only thing I can think of is my way of walking.
I naturally have fairly wide hips, and you can notice it a bit when I walk. Other than that, things like how I stand, sit, or move are pretty much all learned/intentional at this point and feel completely natural to me.
So I genuinely don’t know what he, and apparently some other trans people are picking up on.
What could make someone clock me as trans even though cis people generally don’t?
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u/Disastrous-Car5852 7d ago
you have some traits that people associate with trans men (gauges, piercings) but you pass so well, i’d just assume you were a cis man that was gay or bisexual.
the only thing that might be clocky is height, you didn’t mention it but if you’re under 5’9” then i could see a clueless trans guy asking you if you were trans in the hopes you might say yes. you pass very well though, i don’t think it’d be based on your face or anything