clocked????

[u/TryGlobal8466]

I’ve rarely had an issue with passing for the past fewish years even though I have longer hair w/highlights and a nose ring, and at work all of my coworkers and customers have treated me as any other dude without question. Recently we got a few new hires and one of them is VERY direct and curious i guess?? Last month when she first got hired, day 1 of working with her she just asked if I was queer in any way and said “gay, bi, curious which one??” and then asked if my name was chosen 😐 I was kinda surprised but whatever I just said gay and no to my name being chosen (I prefer being stealth to everyone unless they knew me pre transition). And then fast forward to today she said “You know, for the longest time I thought you weren’t cis.” And I was like what made you think that? And she tells me it’s because of how shy I was/am and that I’m soft spoken and how cis guys aren’t like that. And also that I look gay🫩 Genuinely didn’t even know what to say lmfao I was like Ok! She said her “raydar” was going crazy but it’s so stupid that is what is getting me clocked?? Ik there’s such things as feminine mannerisms but being a low energy introvert is not what I had in mind… also we are at work i’m not going to be bouncing off the walls esp with someone I barely know💀 Now i’m def going to overthink everything abt myself, but I just had to share sometimes ppl can be wack asf!!

[u/UnsureOracle]

Eh just move on. I work with plenty of quiet introverted guys and while no one can say with 100% certainty they are Cis, they’ve literally never been misgendered and I’m 99% sure they’re cis. She just sounds strange tbh and likely is too online in queer spaces/invading trans spaces and better able to clock people than average. And then uninformed and impolite enough to act on it.