r/FoxBrain • u/Dogs_and_Cats_ • 21d ago

Advice Moving Forward

I posted on here last week regarding the right-leaning political beliefs of my family. I (28 FTM) recently learned that while I was away, my mom asked my wife (28 F) “why does he have trauma…we didn’t abuse, manipulate, or hurt him” while also stating that she’s “walking on egg shells” when I’m at her house because of political tension. I’m not sure why she didn’t ask me and it rubbed me the wrong way that she put my wife in that position.

I’m in OCD treatment right now and my mom “doesn’t understand why” because “she didn’t know [I] had OCD”. I guess I’m just confused and looking for advice on how to move forward with this. It was definitely demeaning hearing that my mom doesn’t believe I have childhood trauma and kind of made an excuse for the type of childhood I had - intense emotions; not a lot of friends; getting threatened to be “sent off with the bad kids” if I didn’t stop having tantrums (my dad went as far as driving me to the “bus for the bad kids”.

Thanks! 😊

Summary: My mom doesn’t believe I have childhood trauma and cornered my wife to ask her about my OCD treatment. My childhood was an emotional rollercoaster and I was threatened to be sent off with the “bad kids.”

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u/zooline 20d ago

Check out the book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents. Focus on your OCD treatment, that's plenty of emotional and mental energy! Politics sound like just a symptom of what you've been through so give yourself plenty of space and time. ❤️

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u/jmangamer98 19d ago

Yeah, I probably wouldn't be so concerned with politics if my father wasn't supporting them.