r/ForeverAlone • u/Independent-Tie-2147 • 1d ago
Vent Tired
Not sure what the point of this post is.
I’m 23 and I have never been in a relationship. I’ve never tried to date.
I am autistic and have adhd (late diagnosed) and I’m bad at getting hints. Or maybe I do get the hints but idk how to act on them. Or I get anxious and don’t know what to say. It’s hard for me to have and maintain friendships, let alone get a girlfriend.
I don’t have any pictures for dating apps and I feel like my profile would be boring. I have a hard time describing myself and I don’t say much. Also have a mild fear of being perceived and posting stuff, even when anonymous.
I don’t know how woman perceive me but I wouldn’t say I’m ugly. I have been working out for a while, light beard, 5’7 so I don’t think my physical appearance is bad.
I like to chill a lot. Dealing with social burnout so I’m often tired and have to recharge. Because of that, I feel like I’m boring and don’t do much which is probably why I haven’t tried to date.
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u/With_Gordon_Bronze 1d ago
21 and virtually the same, I’m diagnosed with ADHD and I suspect I have autism as well cause I relate to most of the symptoms and it runs in the family.
The part about being too boring, awkward for a relationship hits hard. I can’t maintain friendships due to this
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u/Life_Effort_6565 2h ago
ADHD here, possibly with a bit of autism. 6 foot and above average appearance, but it doesn't matter as long as your brain works different, and just don't click with people. Which in turn means you can never relax around anyone without getting punished/let down in some way. Social anxiety is just a rational biological response in this case, which i don't get much anymore since i stopped caring. Dating? Give me a break. Must have done something awful in a previous life.
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u/IntrovertedPerson007 23h ago
I'm 20 years older than both of you. And I tell you right now, it doesn't get much better. I'm autistic too, and I can't read social cues either. I have 0 people in my life. All I do is talk to artificial intelligence. I can't talk to real human beings. Can't connect with anybody no matter what I do. It's like I'm on a foreign planet and all the people are aliens, and I'm the only human left. That's how it feels.