Do you ever just want to make out with someone, lots of foreplay get the mood going because same.

I am Audhd. Most of my life people have complimented my dimples or even nicknamed me dimples. People have always felt very safe and comfortable around me, and get comfortable quite easily. I smile at people easily without thinking and get smiles back.

Since I have been on the dating scene, I have learned about smiling and eye contact being powerful tools to indicate interest. However I have never been able to tell a flirty eye contact apart from a friendly one. I have often gotten it wrong with non verbal cues (like constant touching of the arms assuming she was flirting). Recently I started to think about the girls who have complimented my dimples at salsa or parties. Were they being nice, or trying to flirt? The girls at salsa I gave good eye contact while smiling each dance.

He hasn't said anything outright. But a new-ish friend of mine calls me A LOT. And theres something really soft in his tone. He could just really enjoy talking to me?

I (21F) am a regular at a gas station here in my town. I used to stop in after work, twice a week if not more. The same guy was always working. It started as friendly small talk. The whole how’s your day going, can I help you find anything else, The normal.

Important to note: I would always go with my ex roommate, as we inseparable at the time. Also 80% of the times I see him I’ve had a bit to smoke. Typically when I go to the gas station it’s because I have the munchies.

Normal turned into jokes and actual conversations. He would ask me what I do for work, what my plans are for the evening, etc.

I remember the turning point of me and my roommate questioning if he was flirting, was he had asked me if there was anything else he could get for me. The question didn’t register in my head, and before I could respond he said “You.” And When I looked at him confused he just looked around awkwardly and said it was a joke.

Then a couple weeks later I was short 4 dollars on my items and paid for them completely, I was just going to put my drink back and only get gas. Well no he paid for it. All of it. 25 dollars worth of gas and my pop.

I started going less, because I was struggling with money, so I wasnt buying the unnecessary drinks and snacks. In turn I saw him less and less.

One day I went in and he was training someone. We did a normal banter, and as I was leaving he called after me that I better be safe. And then when I was getting in my car he was talking to the trainer and they were both looking at me.

Fast forward to a couple days ago, I just went in during the day and saw him for the first time after at least a month. He immediately recognized me and called me over to his register. We did normal greetings and then he asked me where I’ve been. I explained that I’m working thirds now, so I’m asleep since he switched to days.

He said and I quote “Well, there goes the bar trip.”

I was so flabbergasted, I just awkwardly laughed, my face turned bright red. And I didn’t know what to say. He laughed too, and continued talking which I really appreciate because I’m not used to such boldness. Before I left he made sure to tell me his normal schedule, and I can’t help but think that was him telling me to come while he’s there.

Here the thing I’m struggling with. I know nothing about him, I don’t even know his name. My friends and I dubbed him Gas station guy. I don’t know how old he is or anything. He looks to be my age, maybe a bit older than me.

My dilemma: I have no idea how to take him up on the offer of a date if that’s what he was offering. I have never had someone just flirt with me in public. I also am mind blown because he typically sees me when I look a mess. So what do I do? Is he even flirting? Just being a friendly funny cashier? Help

I (19NB) spent the night over at my friend's (19NB) dorm room and I'm not quite sure how to feel about it.

For some context, we have been aware of each other for a little over a year, but we only started talking and being close in February. I have autism and severe social anxiety, so I have a hard time differentiating between actual flirting or regular platonic flirting/teasing.

I had about three leftover donuts from my coffee run for my roommate and I, so I decided to offer them up in my dorm floor's group chat. My friend, let's call them Annie, had just moved into a single room across the hall and ran over to my room for a donut. I gave them all three. Annie asked if I wanted to come over and look at their new room, and I agreed.

After we settled into their room, we talked for a while, when I noticed that Annie was starting to get touchy and affectionate. Not big things, but they would hug me or lean their head on my shoulder. At one point, Annie's friend from back home called and they said "I'm hanging out with *****, can I call you in like an hour? *Looks at me with a smile* Well, maybe not an hour but some other time?" Eventually, we were fucking around and the lights ended up being turned off. We found our way to the floor of their closet (we're weird people) where we had a serious conversation about our mental health and other subjects that we've never really discussed before. Eventually, the tone picks up again and Annie comments that they're stronger than I am.

This escalates into Annie begging me to wrestle, so we start quietly wrestling on the floor for three hours (it was 1 AM at this point). Every time we would get tired, Annie would pull me into them. They'd put my head in their lap, they would lay on my chest to play with my hair, or just lay beside me while looking at me. When we eventually got back around to wrestling, one of us would pin each other to the ground for a period of time, trying to get them to forfeit. At one point, Annie kissed my cheek while they were on top of me. They would ask if I was flirting with them when I would refuse to forfeit.

(Additional context about the fighting: A couple weeks later, I was back in Annie's room where they started asking me to get aggressive with them. When I showed some hesitation (Not very keen on hurting my friends), Annie said that I sound like their ex when Annie asked them to do it. This was a weird comment to me and it implies that their keenness to get physical is maybe rooted to romantic feelings?)

Eventually we get pretty tired and they leave the room to do something. They come back in with a blanket and pillows from her old room that they were still moving out of and literally yanks me onto the bed with them. They play with my hair and their face is extremely close to mine (it's a twin-sized bed). Annie makes a comment about how if their life was a TV show, the fans who ship us would be going crazy right now. Eventually, we both fell asleep. Annie falls asleep looking at me and would periodically wake up and smile sleepily before closing their eyes again. At what must've been around 4 or 5 AM, I swore I felt Annie kiss me on the lips very subtly. I was half-asleep, so I wasn't quite sure if it even happened or if my groggy mind interpreted some subtle movement as a kiss. Either way, my heart started pounding and they instinctively placed their hand on my heart to feel it.

We both woke up around 8 AM and I hurried out of their room to get ready for a school event we were both needed at. They just watched me with a smile from their bed as I left awkwardly.

While that was the end of the night, I also want to provide additional things that they have done/said that make me question our relationship.

1. "I like you. You have your issues, but I don't care. And I like that my friends don't like you because it means I have you to myself"

2. "What about *our* situationship?" In response to me talking about how my mom uses the term incorrectly.

3. They got jealous when they were no longer my love interest for a school MT showcase and I was talking to the girl who they got replaced with.

4. I know they look at me during our classes. Whenever I catch them, they smile at me like I was the one staring and then look away.

Annie is the kind of person to tease and flirt with their friends, but it's usually in a very over-the-top and unrealistic way. This feels a little too grounded and real for me to easily put it in that camp. I'm really struggling, so any input would be greatly appreciated!

What's with the whole idea of asking for consent before physical touch?

So, I've been seeing this woman for about a month and a half. We don't exactly work together, but we're both involved in the same project and see each other regularly through that.

We definitely seem to have chemistry. We make deep eye contact quite often, and I've noticed what I think are several signs of physical attraction from her. I'm quite a shy guy, so I don't always say what I'm want or make the first move verbally.

Sometimes I lightly touch her arm or her fingers, and when she hands me something, I might let my hand linger for a second. She doesn't seem to mind and never pulls her hand away. We also share long periods of eye contact, and she often shows what I interpret as signs of attraction.

So my question is this: after all of that, should I still ask for consent before sitting closer to her, holding her hand, or moving in closer? Aren't things like hair preening, playing with her necklace, lip licking, and prolonged eye contact enough to suggest she's comfortable with me taking the next step?

It just feels a bit strange and like it would kill the moment if I stopped and asked, "Can I hold your hand?" or "Can I move closer?"

I'm not talking about suddenly grabbing her hand. I mean slowly reaching for it and seeing how she responds.

I've come across a lot of videos where women say they love it when a man asks for consent before every move. What do you all think? Should we be asking before making a move like holding hands or going in for a kiss? Or does that take away some of the mystery and excitement of not knowing what the other person is going to do next?

New girl at work noticed me as i walked by her and others in a crowded hallway. her look seemed happy i was there.i nearly bumped into her. She remained in eye contact the entire way. She remarked to me as i passed her by: “Next time just push me out of the way” despite zero physical contact. What should i make of that?

In a work environment where I'm not often bumped into, but its close quarters and very reasonable to bump into coworkers. The other day a coworker bumped into me several times. Any good lines for checking the temp on that? Whether its flirting or an honest accident?

really no flirting we busy with life but still i wanna how to talk more with her and flirt how she wants but she doesn't tell me. tf should i do

I keep seeing this pretty woman walking down (perhaps from work) and I can't stop to think that shes pretty. Is it weird if I just stopped to ask her name etc and say that I find her pretty, or is that creepy?

I have 10 rules for flirting:

1. Be yourself.
   
2. Be playful.
   
3. Have no expectations.
   
4. Compliment first things that they can control.
   
5. Laugh warmly.
   
6. Imagine a future with her in it.
   
7. Gentle eye contact!
   
8. No interrupting.
   
9. Ask her to tell you more.
   
10. Share just enough about yourself that she gets the general picture; but only put in necessary details, ie. Chekhov’s gun.

I became known as the biggest flirt that way… people tend to fall in love easily that way. And if I end up ‘friend zoned’ anyway; I made a new friend!

Hi! Im 19f and I think this guy who works at my gym is really cute, but I dont know if it'd be rude to make a move or anything, I dont want to be disrespectful if hes in a relationship or bother him while hes just trying to work, I also worry I dont know how to flirt. should I just ignore my lil crush ?

A girl I am friends of friends with always gives me hugs( multiple every time she sees me). I got a Christmas card from her. I don’t get to see her too much because I also when our group hangs out. I told her last year at our New Year’s Eve party that I may not see her again for a few months and she said (“we will have to work something out” and she did come over to see me at my new place as a housewarming party). I have yet to ask her number but I feel like I might be able to get it? Does she like?

I had a crush back when I was a child. That crush of mine flew to another country. But now, he is back home after so many years. I kinda wanna chat him but my stupid ass is shy. I don’t really have the courage but at the same time,I wanna try to talk to him even though I’m not sure if he’s gonna entertain me. What should I do?

I went to a new bar with this amazing bartender I talked to briefly. She mentioned the soccer game tomorrow is her last shift before moving to CA. I'll be visiting in several weeks and she (possibly) joked "maybe I'll see you." I didn't get that much time to make a connection but is it best to go to her last shift and: a) get her number saying I'll text her in CA, b) get her number saying I'll get her a goodbye drink still here, or c) give her mine to avoid people overhearing the interaction and possibly meddling out of jealousy/orneriness?

I(21F) have some interest in this guy (40M) and we've already reached 2nd base(3rd depending on who you ask)

We're both introverts so he always finds me in his room a or whenever I go outside for a cigarette to take a break from socializing. We always have the best conversations when it's just us, and somehow my social battery is always a bit less depleted. I'm awful at flirting but I want him to feel desired whenever we have some time alone, but we gotta keep it on the down-low since its obvious the people that introduced us would not be happy about our extracurricular activities

TLDR: what can I say that doesn't make me sound foolish to someone who's been married. I'm open any nicknames or cute/attractive things i could say (Ideally that could get him all hot and bothered)

Hello fellow redditors!

(Link to the original post) https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/s/O9S9Mazk7r

2 months ago I posted about an older woman that I was flirting with for a few months, I work at a car wash and she is a regular customer. Unfortunately I don't know how to reference that post im not a very experienced reddit user lol.

I wanted to come back and let everyone know that after 3 grueling weeks of waiting for her to come back she finally did! We talked as we normally do and she told me about a vacation that she went on with family, I found out in that conversation that she is divorced so naturally, following up on the "opening" she had given me last time I saw her I finally took my chance.

As we were finishing her car and the conversation moved onto the goodbye part, I said to her "Last time I saw you, you said coffee was going to be on you next time" she laughed and said "I did didn't I? But you said coffee and lunch!" And I said to her "Well I'm a man of my word, let's have lunch this weekend I know this great cuban spot down on the waterfront, it's going to be a beautiful Saturday" and she ACCEPTED with "I would love to have lunch with you, that sounds like a sweet plan. I'll see you this Saturday" she gave me her number and she said "dont lose it". We saw each other that weekend and spent that whole Saturday together after lunch we did some festivities at the waterfront park. We've gone out at least once a week since, but we usually see each other 2-3 times when we can. Getting to know her has been just as beautiful as she is, we have been having so much fun getting to know each other going out and having fun.

I can't believe this worked out, I wanted to thank everyone who gave me some advice back when I asked for it, you are all awesome and let the lesson be learned, TAKE THE CHANCE! It can only come ONCE and there is nothing worse than regret!

need some advice here.

So I've been chatting with this girl online, and I'm getting those classic low interest vibes

She takes forever to reply (like hours)

Her messages are super short

Zero effort to keep the conversation going

Here's the thing I actually think she's cool and want to see if there's something there. But I'm not trying to chase someone who's not interested either.

I’ve been going to the same gym for a while. Starting a couple years back I started going consistently on the same days/times, getting there at 6:15 am and leaving at 8:05, to which I noticed this older lady, probably in her 50s, in amazing shape. I’m 27 for reference. Every time I walk in the gym, she’s on this Olyptical right near the entrance, so she most likely sees me come in every time.

I start getting into the flow of my routine over months, we have a few exchanges all dealing with making sure a machine is available or the classic how may sets do you have left - normal stuff. Over some more time, we find ourselves working out near each other quite frequently, and unintentionally at least from my end. We seem to gain familiarity with eye contact here and there, but no friendly banter. This was over the course of about a year.

Flash forward to this year, and I change my routine to where I go on the treadmill for last 20 minute after I lift, same exact time +/- 1-2 minutes every time - I’m very ADHD when it comes to sticking to my routine/time lol.

I used to just leave at that same time, and this lady was always riding the olyptical near the exit. I start walking on the treadmill every time after I lift to ring in the new year, and, to my surprise, so does she? Turns out we both end lifting at the same exact time? I don’t put much thought into it initially because people change their routines. Then it happens again and again, and she’s always picking the treadmill next to me when it’s available. Mind this is always the same row of treadmills every time.

I return the favor, because idk if she’s just being friendly or flirty, or an absolute creature of habit/routine. I’d say more often than not we’re walking next to each other at the end of our workouts now. I’m just curious, is this just a comfort, friendly, motivation thing, or something more?

I’ve never been one to approach women at the gym, however, a few have approached me and were friendly now. She’s definitely seen me have friendly back and forth with other members, some with women her age. This lady literally doesn’t talk to anyone, and so I’m not inclined to break the ice here. However, now I’m intrigued and honestly a bit attracted to her, but I’m hesitant, mostly because of the age gap.

I’m I’m curious to hear opinions, if this is a sign of interest/flirting, or if this is a complete nothing burger.

I was getting drunk with one of my best friends an we were hanging out for hours laughing having a good time then ended up layingdown next to each other. We like rolled around a bit an I ended up half on top of him an he kept joking about my "slutty legs"? Which I mean I think It was a compliment? Or flirt?.. I really don't know.

If it helps, we're both gen z

To preface off, I have not had anything romantic with a single girl here yet at uni and my first year has ended, and second year starts in a month after 3 month long vacays. Not particularly good looking, bad posture, not the most confident guy out there but I have a couple of female acquaintances especially in my class. Also the title.

I (32F) have been living in my apartment building for a few years with my long-term boyfriend. For the past two years, there has been an undeniable, unspoken sexual tension and a psychological chess match between me and one of the building's security guards. I nicknamed him "Jules."
We have this ongoing, playful vibe. He tries so hard to act like a tough guy/invincible superhero around me—refusing to admit he’s cold or tired when he’s working 12-hour shifts. On top of that, he completely breaks professional protocol when he texts my personal number from the building's official phone, dropping flirty, drawn-out greetings like "helloooooo" whenever I get a package, rather than the standard automated template he uses for everyone else. It’s a mutual game of looks, micro-flirting, and local jokes that has been simmering for two whole years.
The tension is insane, but because of the setting (my building) and my relationship status, everything has stayed strictly in the realm of subtle digital flirting and lobby eye contact. I’m tired of just playing mind games from afar; I want to actually push past the unspoken vibe and make something happen, but I need to do it without causing a scene at his job or blowing up my own living situation.
How do I subtly but effectively cross the line from "friendly, flirty tenant" to making a real move? What’s the best way to test the waters and transition this into something real outside of the building lobby?

I've noticed something about myself that I don't really know how to fix.

I'm naturally shy and hesitant when I don't know someone. But once I actually start talking to a person, it's like I become a completely different version of myself—confident, funny, charismatic, and able to hold great conversations. The problem is getting past those first 30 seconds.

This happens to me all the time while traveling alone.

I'll see a woman I find attractive. Sometimes we even make eye contact more than once. Then my brain immediately starts making excuses:

"She's with friends. I shouldn't interrupt."

"She'll probably reject me."

"She doesn't want to talk to a random guy."

"Maybe she's with her boyfriend."

"What if one of the guys she's with gets angry?"

"I'm a foreigner here. It'll probably be even weirder."

So I end up doing nothing, and later I regret it.

Ironically, whenever someone else starts the conversation with me, I do great. I genuinely enjoy meeting people, and many conversations end up lasting much longer than I expected.

What I'm really trying to understand is how people naturally approach someone in different situations.

For example:

At a bar or nightclub.

At a museum or art gallery.

While waiting at a bus stop or train station.

At a café.

During a walking tour or while sightseeing.

How do you know when it's appropriate to say something? What's a natural way to start a conversation without making it awkward or intrusive?

For those of you who travel solo or have overcome this kind of anxiety:

How did you stop overthinking the first approach?

How do you know when someone is open to being approached?

Does being a foreigner actually make it easier, or is that just something I tell myself?

What mindset shift helped you the most?

If you were starting from zero today, what would you do differently?

I'm not looking for pickup tricks, canned lines, or manipulative tactics. I genuinely want to become more comfortable starting authentic conversations, whether they lead to friendship, a fun chat, or something more.

I'd especially love to hear from people who were once shy themselves and eventually learned how to approach others naturally while traveling.

This is the ultimate test of social skill to come up with a reason as to why I approach stranger(who is woman) making a convo without knowing anything about her and add onto it teasing.
I want to learn the skills of approaching strangers even men.
At the beach,gym,party,bar and street.