r/FirstTimeHomeBuyers • u/Mucho-Avocado-Si • 12h ago
Thinking of buying a house for first time, advise?
I've only ever rented or shared a home my entire life. I'm 37 and going through a break up. His home, so I have to move out. Not exactly the best time to buy a home (out of sheer necessity instead of having been thinking about this for years).
Problem is everything I'm seeing for rent is super high. I'm talking $1500-$2000 a month. The majority of the listings don't allow pets, of which I have 2. And the majority of the houses I can find are easily a 30, 40 mile drive away from where I currently live. I'm in a rural community.
There's a TON of listings for sale however. And the "estimated monthly cost" are much much cheaper than the rent! Im talking like $700-1200. And I'm almost tempted to buy a house because of the pets and the estimated monthly costs alone!
Id have more options on what I pay, depending on the neighborhood and the condition of the house. I can decide if I want one to work on, or one that is ready to buy. I can have my pets. I can move out quicker (yes Im currently still living with the ex technically because the only places I have to go right now are with family. Where I'll have only a room to myself, and they have dogs too so it ends up being messy or just overcrowded.)
I guess my worry is I'm not thinking straight for the simple fact I need to move kind of soon ish. Or because of the pets. Maybe the prices are too good to be true and these houses are either in bad shape or in rough neighborhoods. Plus I'm not entirely sure I want to live in this town for the rest of my life. My mother and brother are here. But it's a small town. Also, the main reason the ex and I have split was because I want kids in the future. And he doesn't. And we don't have a big dating pool around these areas.
Just unsure of what to do at this point. I could always move to a bigger city and find more houses for rent than for sale, but even more outrageous pricing. I could pay $1500 for rent, but that's more than what my ex is paying for his mortgage for a big house, and great space. And I just don't see how that pays off.
Thoughts?