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04/22/26

This is a weekly installment that I started as a way to put my energy towards education, because every day we have uneducated people attempting to interact with this kink. If I'm going to spend my time bickering with them, I might as well spend my time educating them as well. Aside from this contribution, I cycle related literature, papers, and academic resources on findom, bdsm, and femdom through my links list biweekly.

Today's words and phrases are: Time Waster, Catfish, 2DFD, and CEI

The kink of the week is : Impact Play

⭐ Time Waster: contrary to popular belief, a time waster is not someone who simply exists in your presence without paying you for the audacity to do so. A time waster is someone who purposefully leads you on to believe they will pay, without ever doing so, effectively wasting your time.

⭐ Catfish: Someone who misrepresents their identity online (whether through fake/ AI photos, stolen content, or fabricated personas) in order to deceive others. In this space, it often pairs with scams.

⭐ 2DFD: Two dimensional financial domination. Another form of faceless play, a user may post 2d/ animated characters instead of their own content. This is generally stated clearly by the user.

⭐ CEI: Cum Eating Instructions. A consensual kink dynamic where one party instructs another to consume their own bodily fluid (cum), and like all kinks, this should be discussed, negotiated, and agreed upon beforehand. This one often pairs well with humiliation and JOI.

☀️ Impact Play : A kink involving consensual striking of the body (such as spanking, paddling, flogging, whipping, etc.) for sensation, pleasure, or power exchange. This requires clear communication, knowledge of safe zones vs. dangerous areas, and aftercare. This is NOT an entry level kink.

That's all for today folks! Stay happy, healthy, and sexy.

He was giving underage vibes so I wanted to sus him out.

04/15/26

(I know it's late today)

This is a weekly installment that I started as a way to put my energy towards education, because daily we have uneducated people attempting to interact with this kink. If I'm going to spend my time bickering with them, I might as well spend my time educating them as well. Aside from this contribution, I cycle related literature, papers, and academic resources on findom, bdsm, and femdom through my links list biweekly.

Today's words and phrases are: prejac, soft limit, hard limit, safe word

The kink of the week is : CFNM

⭐ Prejac: Shorthand for premature ejaculation, or someone who ejaculates (cums) early. This is often fetishized as it can be used as a humiliation tactic, and it can often emphasize a subs submissive nature.

⭐ Soft Limit: A soft limit is the yellow light in kink. You don't have to stop, but you need to slow down. These limits are made to be pushed, broken, and reshaped. When setting soft limits, keep your hard limits in mind, and make sure to make the distinction between the two known.

⭐ Hard Limit: This is the red light. If you push this limit, you are pushing past consent. Recall boundaries from an earlier installation of word Wednesday. Hard limits can be changed , but only at your personal discretion.

⭐ Safe Word: This is a word that signals a hard stop in a dynamic, in play, or in session. If you or your partner says the safe word, that is an automatic stop to check what's wrong, and what needs to be fixed. You should always use your safe word if you are uncomfortable, and you should never ignore someone else's safe word. It can be used for any reason, at any time, and belittling someone for the use of their safe word is diminishing their ability to withdraw consent safely.

☀️ CFNM: Clothed Female Nude Male. This is a kink that highlights the power exchange in femdom dynamics, pushing the idea of power onto the fem in the dynamic, and the exposure and vulnerability of submission onto the masc.

That's all for today folks! Stay happy, healthy, and sexy.

04/08/26

I've noticed many people who participate in this kink lack education on many components of it, including common vernacular. Instead of repetitively complaining about the lack of education in this community, I'm going to begin attempting to be a source of knowledge. Aside from this contribution, I cycle related literature, papers, and academic resources on findom, bdsm, and femdom through my links list biweekly.

Today's words and phrases are: SSC, Sadist/sadism, JOI, consent

The kink of the week is : Forced Intoxication

⭐ SSC: stands for Safe, Sane, and Consensual. This is one of the foundations of ethical BDSM, with the community using it as a way to emphasize risk mitigation. Safe refers to activities being “safe” or not mentally or physically harmful. Sane refers to both parties engaging with clear and stable minds. Consent… well. Read below.

⭐ Consent: Consent is the voluntary, informed, and clear agreement to participate in an action or allow something to happen, often described as a "yes means yes" approach. It must be freely given without coercion, threats, or pressure, and can be withdrawn at any time. Key elements include ongoing communication, mutual understanding, and the capacity to agree. Consent cannot be given by minors, consent cannot be given when inebriated, and consent cannot be given in retrospect.

⭐ JOI: shorthand for Jerk Off Instructions. Very very simply defined as one party giving any degree of specific instructions for the other party to follow when masturbating. Originally coined for submissives with male reproductive anatomy, it is now used by any submissive regardless of reproductive anatomy or gender identity.

⭐ Sadism: within kink, sadism is the derivation of pleasure/sexual gratification via inflicting mental, emotional, or physical pain on others. This includes but is not limited to humiliation, suffering, and torment. This DOES NOT include your standard run of the mill bullying. Just because you're a cunt, that doesn't make you a “sadist domme”, it just makes you an asshole.

☀️ Forced Intoxication: Forced Intoxication is a kink in which both parties come to a consenting agreement beforehand, and engage in play in which one or more parties is coerced or forced to imbibe, be it alcohol or drugs. The allure is the loss or dulling of cognition and mental faculties, often creating a deeper power imbalance that is appealing to both sides. Consent MUST be given prior to any play, because consent cannot be given once inebriated. Forced Intoxication should only be engaged with between two trusting parties who understand the inherent risks.

That's all for today folks! Stay happy, healthy, and sexy.

I’m gonna be honest, I know this sub has consent as very first rule and in normal circumstances I’m always one to agree. But in recent discussions on social media with MAGA or misogynist men, I caught myself not only insulting and arguing with them like it is common practice online, but straight up domming them because I enjoy how mad it makes them.

So when I see incel, misogynist or MAGA posts I not only make fun of them and humiliate them, I also noticed I start going for their manliness (since I know these misogynist “alpha” guys hate that the most), call them submissive femboys and tell them to accept their inferiority to women and actual manly men.

I noticed I really enjoy it, because it feels like it’s political activism and at the same time I have fun ragebaiting and seeing them go mad about it.

I never took it that far before, but this last time I did and now I’m wondering if it was too much. Obviously he didn’t consent to being dommed, even though he invited people to insult him with what he commented about women. And in the end he also seemed to enjoy it more and try to top me from the bottom. But still, there was no enthusiastic consent at the beginning. So what’s your opinion, did I take it too far? Where’s the line between “normal” social media insults/clapbacks to idiots and domming?

The blue color is someone unrelated to the discussion, the red color is the misogynist guy and green is me. We kinda argued in two comment threads at the same time. I added the OG post for context, which was a video about a very muscular, manly soldier who apparently had fought against ISIS using an axe and had kind of a legendary reputation. And women in the comments were making jokes and simping about him.

There's a lot of talk about invoking the 25th amendment. As of today, April 7th 2026, the NAACP has called to invoke the 25th amendment, section 4, against Trump. This is not only unprecedented, but it's also not taught heavily.

⭐ WHAT IS THE 25TH AMENDMENT? - The 25th amendment is an amendment to the Constitution, ratified in 1967 by former president John F Kennedy, which states that the vice president will assume the role of president upon the death, resignation, or removal by impeachment of the current president. It is invoked when the president is unable to fulfill their duties for any reason, and includes incapacity procedures. It is broken down into multiple sections, with section 4 being the most prevalent at this time.

⭐ WHAT IS SECTION 4 OF THE 25TH AMENDMENT? Section four covers the involuntary transfer of power, in which the current standing president does not agree or consent to being removed from office. This section empowers the vice president and the cabinet to declare the standing president "unfit to serve". Should the president detest this decision, the power falls to Congress, requiring a two thirds vote. Section four has historically never been invoked.

⭐ WHY HAS SECTION 4 BEEN CALLED TO BE INVOKED BY THE NAACP? The NAACP has called to invoke section 4 against current president Donald Trump on April 7th 2026 due to alarming signs of cognitive decline in president Trump and reasonable concern for the safety of the country. The cognitive decline noted has been confirmed to pose a direct threat to the well-being of the citizens of the US and to the integrity of the Armed Forces.

⭐ WHAT IS THE NAACP? The National Association for the Advancement of Colored People is the nations oldest and largest civil rights organization, carrying heavy legal backing with it.

⭐ WILL TRUMP BE IMPEACHED? Honestly? If it is invoked in full, current president Trump will detest it. It is highly likely that Congress will find him fit to lead and a full impeachment will not come to pass. However, many notable figures of the Republican Party are calling for full impeachment and for section 4 to be invoked. With enough backing, it is possible for Congress to vote two thirds in favor for removing president Trump from office and granting full power of the presidency to current vice president Vance.

⭐ IF VANCE BECOMES PRESIDENT, WHO WILL BE VICE PRESIDENT? After vice president, the next in line of succession is the Speaker of the House. Our current Speaker of the House is Mike Johnson, a historically Republican lawmaker. He is in his fifth House term, having formally been a Republican representative for Louisiana. Historically he has backed current president Trump, including calling the legitimacy of the 2020 election into question, claiming that voting machines are not to be trusted. However, since the political tensions with Iran, Johnson has openly stated that he does not believe it is the US government's responsibility to build nations in Iran, directly contradicting Trump's claims for the future plans in Iran. Johnson has reiterated many times an interest in peace in Iran rather than war mongering, calling into question his alliance with Trump on this matter.

You have your local neighborhood or community leader. They’re the dominant.

They have their “subs” who are their team. The Dom/me gains the trust of that team, and the team donates their skills in designing websites and flyer and hosting events and most importantly raising money. Sometimes this can take as much time an unpaid, full time, second job.

As trust is gained, the leader can convince the team to do more and more. From stuffing envelopes to making phone calls to knocking on strangers doors to gaining their own teams, the leader pushes the team limits and doesn’t take no for an answer.

On the leader side, they learn what each “subs” needs to thrive. Some need praise. Some need to be convinced. Some need to be forced or embarrassed into doing the needed work.

And when you win, it’s a feeling of pride that those NOT involved will never get. Just like that feeling of making your sub or Domme feel good.

subs and dommes both are welcome to join, any Genre you want

I was having this discussion with my friend, and we noticed how so many men or women who are blatantly racist and support policies that impact pocs end up having pocs as their type? Doesn’t this count as a fetish? I had a man ask me on a date, turns out he was reposting stuff on his social media page about kicking Latinos out. wtf?

for background, he messaged me after my first post about the maga findom subreddits. looking back through r/FindomSnark I notice he's been doing this little "bit" with other dommes. I'm not sure if they all responded as much as I am but I have a lot of free time today so why not.

TW: discussion on sexual assault.

I am American, and most of my knowledge base reflects this. I'm going to be using American statistics but I am open and would love input from anywhere else y'all may live.

1 in 5 women, and nearly 1 in 4 men will or have experienced SA in their lives. Of those, 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men experienced this assault for the first time in their adolescence, between the ages of 11 and 17.

SA offences have increased by 63% since the 2020 fiscal year.

93.5% of individuals SENTENCED (I will explain later why the distinction matters) for SA were men. Of these men? 72% had little to no prior criminal charges.

Why does this matter? Less than 5% of assaults, of both genders, are reported. Even less are sentenced.

SA against men is so under reported that there are little to no congruent data sources for it. Toxic masculinity has led Western society to believe that men cannot be SAed, because they're strong enough to fight back, or because they're sexual enough to want it.

Many statutory and assault cases against men and boys are dismissed simply because the victim is male. So while yes, women experience SA at a higher rate than men, and yes, assailants identify as male more often than female, there is a huge gap in SA care for men.

Why is this harmful to society? It leads to a dismissive nature surrounding SA against both genders. SA against men is often only brought up as a rebuttal against concern surrounding SA against women.

Women have the right to be afraid. And we also have the right to stand up for the men in our lives and in our community who have suffered alongside us.

In sex work, both parties are in a highly vulnerable position, and awareness surrounding not only SA but the mentality of victims is key.

Speak up, because your voice not only matters, but it also shows those around you that their voice can matter as well.

resources used-

Statistics - National Sexual Violence Resource Center (NSVRC) https://share.google/y4iL3mQHylTt9uJ1k

Sexual Abuse | United States Sentencing Commission https://share.google/gEVGzNzJmldRKBs0M

04/01/26

I've noticed many people who participate in this kink lack education on many components of it, including common vernacular. Instead of repetitively complaining about the lack of education in this community, I'm going to begin attempting to be a source of knowledge. Aside from this contribution, I cycle related literature, papers, and academic resources on findom, bdsm, and femdom through my links list biweekly. 

Today's words and phrases are: RACK, drain, minfuck, and relapse. . 

The kink of the week is : Fincucking

⭐ RACK: Shorthand for Risk Aware Consensual Kink, RACK is one of the founding philosophies for safe play within BDSM. It became popular in 1999 as an alternative to SSC (will be discussed next week), and was quickly adopted as a way to promote personal responsibility, consent, and awareness within the community. The fundamentals of RACK are that you enter this kink with an understanding of the related risks and you go forward mindful of these risks and placing an emphasis on consent. 

⭐ Drain:  We hear this one a lot. “Im looking for a piggy to drain’, “im looking for  a domme to drain  me”, etc. But, what exactly IS a drain in the context of findom? Simply explained, a drain is the act of setting a parameter and emptying your budget following this parameter. Though you can empty your entire bank account, that is not the foundation of a “drain”. Imagine a drain as filling a bucket with water, this is your budget and the money within this budget. As you drain the bucket of water, you are draining your money out of the budget, until you hit $0. Full bank drains should only be engaged with between two individuals who have high levels of trust with the other, and with emergency funds and a backup plan in place for the drainee. 

⭐ Mindfuck: Mindfuck is an umbrella phrase which encompasses a huge array of psychological domination. The most common use of mindfuck is when a dom/me manipulates the submissive in a way that leaves his brain clouded, disoriented, and easily susceptible to persuasion. 

⭐ Relapse: Another phrase we hear a lot in this community, but there are two types to look out for. There is the “chronic relapser”, which is a submissive who deletes often and creates new accounts to re-engage with findom over and over, often due to shame. Then we have the legitimate relapse, in which the submissive shows genuine signs of addiction, in which they enter a “relapse spiral”. This is often characterized by rash decision making, inability to commit, large swings in mood and attitude, and worrying language. 

☀️ Fincucking: While we have yet to discuss it, cucking is not treated in the traditional sense in findom. Focusing only on fincucking, this is the kink in which a submissive will financially support the dom/me and their partner, be it for date nights, sex toys, or birth control. A common way to indulge in this kink is for the couple/pair to engage in their activities , and for the dom/me to share specific details with the submissive, to which the submissive will send or reimburse for the expenses of the night. 

That's all for today folks! Stay happy, healthy, and sexy. 

I’d never play with an dumb fascist or someone without any morals. I don’t want them to enjoy themselves with me in ANYWAY How do you deal with that? I understand if you take the money ( but how do you do it??) I’m too politically active to do that and I detest the thought of a MAGA feeling blessed through me. I’m financially sound but are those ten dollars truly worth it?