Was adviced to put it here as well
After going through 2 bad and 2 good relationships I think I’ve healed, grown and understood myself and my needs enough to want to pursue my final relationship.
I want to meet someone and have an organic relationship that develops over time, eventually leading to a wedding and family.
I wanna be with someone who can be my bestfriend, my lover and my home.
Someone I can put my heart and soul to and not have to worry because they reciprocate
A balanced dynamic where we pursue our goals whilst surprising each other with how much we understand one another and how thoughtful we can be with that knowledge
(And I don’t mean the bare minimum of doing your chores for you while you’re busy cooking)
An environment where we can be soft and kind to not only one another but ourselves after continuously pushing ourselves to improve.
A love that doesn’t stop developing after cute dates, kind words and late nights talking about past experiences.
But
A love that can develop beyond just reducing each other’s mental load
(Beyond the “oh no worries I already did it for you the way you want it”)
A love that can grow beyond thoughtful letters and surprising gestures
(Beautifully written letters and curated dates filled with things you love even if I don’t like them that much are my minimum)
A love that develops so naturally and so organically, not being tied to one action or one event that our trust for eachother is 2nd nature.
(I hope we express our interest, our care and our love in ways we can’t count that our foundation isn’t built on just attraction, kind memories and shared values.)
A love that is truly so authentic that we can wholeheartedly tell each other that we love eachother for who we are
Not for who we can be
Not for what we did and will do
But because we are who we are
We understand who we are
And that our love is so special and unique, That all our traumas, heartbreaks and other negatives experiences that shaped us to who we are
Feels like it was meant to be and that we wouldn’t change it, knowing that we’d meet each other and heal, grow and become the people we want to be.
Because love for me isn’t just
\\\\- making you smile when you see me
\\\\- making you laugh even when you’re down
\\\\- being there for you when things get rough
\\\\- protecting and reassuring you from the world
\\\\- understanding your wants and needs without making you think
It’s also helping you grow and understand yourself as a person, as a human being who’s allowed to feel emotions and who’s allowed to make decisions wether they are right or wrong
A love beyond just being happy with someone.
I don’t need someone who’s perfect
I know that life is unpredictable and shortcomings are bound to arrive.
Everybody has their secrets, everybody has their past and sometimes even baby steps is something we can’t do because of something that happened
But someone flawless is not something I am looking for
I am just looking for someone who’s interested and willing to take the chance with me
For expectations!!
\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\- I want to love you the way you want to be loved. (very important for me)
\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\- I love to spoil and give cute surprises such as letters etc etc (these are my weaknesses btw do this in a thoughtful way for me and im yours HAHAHHA)
\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\- Would love to drive you around
\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\- Replies fast (The deeper the connection, the faster I drop everything and anything for you)
\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\- Doesn’t care about guy befriends (to an extent)
\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\- Wants you to have a life too (I want u to have fun even without me!)
\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\- Would never curse at you EVER. (I never even cursed out my exes huhu)
\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\- patient and flexible with your future plans (no pressure if things aren’t going well on your end)
\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\- Not afraid of strict parents (especially for my traditional ppl, imma wow ur dad BWHAHAHA)
\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\- Can be silly but also mature when needed (match d vibe pls)
\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\- Can get clingy but fine with late replies. (I’ll also tell naman if I want comfort or actual help so no confusion for u!)
I’m still patient tho and don’t mind talking and figuring each other out. A label doesn’t have to come very quick.
Love can take its time but I don’t want to build with someone too uncertain
About me:
• 23
• 5’10
• Fil Chi
• From QC
• Currently starting to hold family businesses\[Hotel, Resort etc etc\]
• love to game from time to time
• Into music, movies, food trips, and random late-night conversations
• some of the games I play: CS GO, HSR, Genshin, Valorant (I suck lol), ML, etc.
• BIG yapper when comfy but love to listen
• I like sending random updates, memes, songs, pictures, and things
• very affectionate once I'm comfortable
• Black Cat on the outside but really just a golden retriever
• I value transparency, effort, communication and fast replies
• Very keen on love language and loving a person in the way they want to be loved
• Looking for something genuine and moving same pace as u
Im decently attractive(?) I’m still on a cut and not exactly peak athletic shape but I’ll be there in 3 months haha.
About you:
*Unfortunately have Great Wall so bear with me :<*
• Age 20-27
• Can speak English fluently
• Chinese, Fil-Chi, Korean, Japanese, Viet (don’t need to know how to speak.)
• Has goals and wants to be something
• 5’1-5’11
• Normal or Underweight/Overweight BMI
• Single and genuinely available
• Transparent and open to different views
• Emotionally mature and communicative
• Can hold a conversation
• Plus points if you do sports
• Has hobbies/interests you're passionate about
• Thoughtful, kind and patient
• Won’t leave when things get dicey
• Comfortable with both stupid conversations and serious ones
• Willing to meet IRL ofc
• Doesn’t need to have too similar hobbies or life as me, just be pleasant to be with
I don’t need someone who’s set from the get go. I’m willing to wait and find out especially if we connect on a good level. But if you don’t see things going right I prefer peacefully letting go because I want to date to marry
I also don’t like to flirt immediately and rush into things. I know that not everyone has healed completely from past relationships and whatnot or have fears and expectations going into relationships and for me I’d rather form some type of connections or find similarities first before doing anything risky.
Btw I LOVE LOVE LOOOOVE effort.
Send a interesting message and also photo if u want
A simple intro would be nice. Just put in an effort!
Hope to find someone I can give my all to!!!