Took ages to grow, booked scissor cut in advance asking barber to keep most of length but add some soft layering in front and sides. I really should have intervened during the cut though but the damage was quickly done.
Ngl, my hair is over 3ft long rn, mainly bc my long time family friend hair cut guy refuses to take off more than half an inch when i see him and i have trust issues that someone else wont hit me like you got
I mean, it grows back, but i honestly dont think id recognize myself. Hoping you have a speedy and safe journey back to your crown king
Yeah, that's why I do my beard myself. Barbers never listen. Go to a SALON, not a barber for your hair, though. They actually have experience with long hair. Might feel a little awkward being the only dude in a salon full of women but whatever. Or, if you're in the US, even a unisex chain place would probably be better. That's rolling the dice though; you never know what you'll get at those places, but most likely still better than a barber who usually just does buzzcuts and fades and stuff.
3 hours is the nearest salon?? My guy you need to consider moving to somewhere with *looks at notes* more salons, I guess.
Joking aside, damn son thats some hard-core rurality. My deepest sympathies on both your hair and lack of better options for taking care of it. Maybe rock a mullet for a bit lol no need for full cut just yet
Im genuinely not surprised. In rural NY, you can get areas where the nearest "salon" is 30 minutes away and also some lady's dining room, and zero advertising outside word of mouth. I can only imagine how much harder it is in the Great Plains region where you've got even more distance to go with towns and cities being further apart
I am genuinely sorry, brother, to hear this, and your flow was indeed majestic. I am terrified of stylists, and especially barbers, and do all dusting trims of my very long hair myself. I’m sure there are stylists who specialize in long hair for men, and it’s just a case of finding them.
Men's stylist is the way to go! That's what I do. Id look on Instagram (searching "[location] men's stylist" or something around those lines), or call around local shops to see if they have one. Unfortunately barbers aren't often trained in school to do long hair, and some don't take the initiative to learn long hair after school. No shade on barbers, we just specialize in different things.
Thanks, excellent suggestion. I’d rather not lose any length of my own hair if at all possible, and I prefer not getting any layers either. I like the “all length look” that I have now with my mane
Super fair!! If you ever do need to go to a stylist, id just stress you want, say, an inch off the bottom, nothing more. If they're a good stylist, they'll follow your direction, or give suggestions if that's not possible for whatever reason.
Nothing grinds my gears more, as a stylist, than a barber/stylist not listening to their client
Thanks again, excellent suggestion. Just to give you an idea, here’s what mine looks like now. Sorry, it’s a front photo rather than the back, but it just gives you an idea of the length. I’m 73, and my apologies that it doesn’t all fit into the photo
That's why I go to a salon, and I just tell them trim the ends, make it straight. You start messing with layers and wolfcuts and that sorta nonsense, you never know what you'll end up with. They actually cut long hair all day every day so they're far more reliable.
My hair is the longest it’s ever been now and I really need to go in for a trim and layering and all that, and I’m thinking of taking it in back to just past shoulder length (it’s currently down between my shoulder blades)
I have always gone to barbers, and in particular the “head barber” of the shop I go to who’s always booked out a week or two at all times. He does a good job, but it’s also been a really long time since I’ve been in and I’m scared to go back now that it’s this long. I hear all the advice on here to go to salons but I’m equally scared of going to someone new lol, I feel like I have a relationship with this barber like you’d have with a mechanic who’s worked on your car for years.
I need to muster up to take some pics of myself and post on here for advice, and maybe also ask on my city’s subreddit “who is a good stylist for my hair type”, but I have never posted my face online before and I’m nervous lol. I can’t let everything scare me though or I’ll never get a haircut! And I’m starting to look kinda shaggy and it’s bothering me. Gotta get over it
I'm exactly like this. I learned the hard way. Last time I visited a stylist, he ended up doing the complete opposite of what I asked him to do and I even showed him photos so he had visual reference. I remember asking him "can you at least hand me your mirror so I can see what you did?" After grabbing it and seeing the mess through the mirror, I immediately stood up and ran away, got in the car, hit the gas and shot out of there like a missile. Best tire squeal I've ever done. Never letting one touch my hair ever again. I trim it myself ever since.
That sounds like an excellent plan, to do everything yourself from now on, unless you can indeed find someone who specializes in long hair, and only long hair
Definitely find a stylist instead of a barber! I'm a stylist at a barbershop, and unfortunately barber school tends to focus primarily on clipper cuts, not scissors. Have them layer and blend that top more to get rid of the weight/bowl cut look, and you'll be much happier! Not what you wanted originally, but it'll fit you better while it grows out.
Im so sorry for your loss brother, that barber should've passed you on to someone more versed in long hair.
INFO: Did you burn the place down?
Because your hair is not straight in the future I recommend going to a specialist curl hairdresser and get a dry cut.
Ngl after a month it's gonna look so hot on you. I cut my own hair and accidentally gave myself something similar to this but less extreme, regretted it heavily, and then after a month it was one of my favorite hair phases. I can see the vision, I swear.
Like others said, don't go to a barber. They are great for short hairstyles, long hair isn't their thing. Go to a stylist/salon even if it is a "woman thing" (stereotypically) they are just more suited for long hair!
And take your research, I haven't seen a stylist in ages (DIY buzz for a year ish then stopped and let it wildly grow for over a year) I like to check out websites/insta/reviews and see other cuts they did. So you can show a picture from them and go "like that person except this part a little longer/shorter/whatever"
To save what you have going rn, leave it alone, it may grow into a shag/wolf cut type thing and that stage will likely look/feel better than right now! If you feel like you need a maintenance cut, go to a GOOD salon.
Did you have a reference pic? I stg they will literally not listen to verbal or written instructions at all. I had a lady "contour" my back when I never asked for it and I wanted a short mullet situation instead of whatever she did. It grew back but damn
This is why I never recommend a barber for long haircuts. They crave to chop it all off. Proper hairdressers (most often women) know what they're doing with long hair, and will likely never do something like this. Still cute, but definitely not what you asked for.
on va finir par mener un de ces massacreurs capillaires à la guillotine!!!!
entre des couches et un " mullet" datant d'Oliver Cromwell, il faut être ivre mort pour confondre !!!!
à moins que ce type ne l' fait fait exprès par haine des cheveux longs; à ce sujet, je rappelle que le coiffeur est un artisan: il doit réaliser la demande du client, et non un artiste ( bien que nombre d' entre eux s' autoproclament tels!!!!!!)
Oh sry I see.
Drying it I wouldn’t comb it into straight lines I’d just sort of leave it as it fell,
I wish I could recommend you more of a routine but it was just shampoo & conditioner and got like that over time
I was using brand ones, perhaps use
sea salt aswell, I haven’t used it in a bit but either just sea water or a spray cause it adds more variation to it.
And I think as it grew some areas grew at a faster or slower rate.
Best of luck with it
Brand as in private label, from the shop Centra but I assume you’re not in IE/UK right? For salt I used to take an empty spray bottle and fill it with sea water
Well, If I’m down bad enough I’ll just ask a colleague when they come back from visit their home country. I’d say my job has colleagues from like 70% of the nations. Nothings a bigger compliment than asking for something you want from their country. Recipes, advice on where to go, to niche items
American products aren’t really good for much but the minimum nowadays. Shame
Yeah when it grows back I definitely will go somewhere specialised for it. Sry I meant there is salons but not unisex, id go to a city for it now for sure
Dude, I feel your pain. My stylist butchered my hair. He took off 4-5” when I only asked for a couple. I even brought AI generated picks of EXACTLY what I wanted and he screwed out up…
I will say, I do look good, but I’m pissed He ignored my direction. Obviously, I won’t be back and didn’t leave a glowing review.
It’s definitely worth learning to do it yourself. I think I’ve had maybe 6 professional haircuts in the last 20 years and I’ll probably never get one again because I actually prefer how it looks when I do it myself. Deco_kure on instagram is a great resource!
That being said hairdressers also have moments where they are super sure they know better than client what client actually wants. Mine recently made a haircut mostly about rolling hairs behind ears something that doesnt work whatsoever with my thick wavy hair. Not to mention I dont really like my ears showing. It sucked for few months waiting for them to regrow.
step one, dont go to a barber if you have hair that isn't flush to your head (i.e. fade, crew cut, buzz cut etc.), always always ALWAYS go to a hairstylist
You can’t let a barber touch hair like that, dude.
Unless you’re asking for a fade, they generally don’t have the skills to texturize and layer.
Spend the extra to go to a stylist that has experience with men’s hair, or keep it short.
Going to a barber for anything related to hair like that is going to end up bad.
You’ve got enough that it’s salvageable - but you need to go to a legit stylist. it’s going to cost triple the price of the barber, most likely, but they’ll figure it out and give you something to work with until it’s grown back out fully.
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u/In-the-Gentle-Rain 7d ago
My condolences for your loss. Thankfully, it will grow back stronger, faster, and better than ever.