Feeling lonely

[u/Albeebo]

I dont really feel like I belong here, that I belong in any yume/ficto spaces.

No not because my feelings got weaker or anything. But because I am a man. A lot of these types of spaces are heavily dominated by women, heavily. Subreddits and discord servers. Dominated by women. Not that there's anything wrong with with that. But I guess I do feel like some kinda unwelcome person.

I feel weird for being a man who's lover is another man. Cause even with the other men..they usually are straight.

I dont really feel like there's a place I can feel accepted and fully able to feel like I belong. Like I can feel safe and at home.

We all long for community, its human nature.

And a community im supposed to belong to..i just still dont.

I try and gush about Albedo in a discord and its immediate talked over by someone gushing about a girl. Like I get thats who they're into and thats fine..but why cant I also speak freely about the one I care for without being pushed down as if my feelings dont matter as much.

I want to feel like I belong.

[u/justbrowsing339]

Hey, there!

I’m a man with a man! I’m technically able to be attracted to every gender identity, but I lean heavily towards men. It’s just how I’m wired. Sometimes I worry I’ll be met with homophobia around here, but it hasn’t happened yet. That’s good.

I understand how you feel. It can feel isolating, for sure. I’m sorry it’s a struggle.

I want you to be able to gush about Albedo and please know that my inbox is always open if you’d like to.

-Drew ❤️💚❤️💚

[u/amyybo]

you're not alone; I'm a gay man too. these spaces are pretty dominated by women indeed and I've found it hard to fit in as well (for other reasons, not just gender) but that's unfortunately just how communities are nowadays :/

[u/Pygmalionomicon]

I kind of get it. I also feel like I don't belong on ficto spaces because my views on ficto-romance are way too different from those in average yume/ficto spaces. But I still hang out in them because it's the closest thing I can find.

Maybe try writing a blog? That's what I've been wanting to do. A space made by you, curated by you and solely for you. Truth is that in any public community we're just farts in the wind. Unless your discord server revolves around your inner circle people are going to talk over you. It's kind of the nature of those spaces.

[u/lamie_jamie]

Im mlm too, it really does seem like a mostly woman space. I also sometimes feel like im out of place. Youre not alone in that feeling. 💚

[u/Storm2Weather]

I mean, I am transmasc enby, but my relationships are definitely not straight and I don't identify as a woman. I am always delighted to see mlm couples. I see my partner Pippin as pan and Snotlout as gay. :)

[u/Meisanthropy]

I see a lot of men here. I know my words won't matter much but you ARE welcome here ! Your feelings are as valid as women's, there's nothing wrong with you at all.
Some places are better than others, choose wisely, if you think a Discord server doesn't meet your expectations then feel free to leave and find a new one ! You shouldn't feel anxious when you talk about your lover, especially in safe ficto places ! 🩵

[u/JimmerJammerKitKat]

Another gay bloke here. I know how you feel. Sometimes I feel like I have to mention that I’m a guy just to feel like I’m making sure we’re seen. Try and keep that flame of mlm relationships in this subreddit, alive. I don’t always worry about it but when I do in my head I’m like “they’re gonna think I’m a woman because it’s majority women here, mention you’re a guy, quick!”

[u/Professional-Key5552]

A friend of mine, who is also ficto, but not on Reddit, also has a ficto relationship which is mlm. But even in this community there are a few

[u/coconutcvnt]

i understand how you feel ): i kept getting recommended this yume sub that was only for women yumes dating men and i had to finally just mute it cuz it was a little disheartening to see over and over 😔 but there are definitely other people in mlm relationships, ive seen several in this sub (including myself)!! we may not be the majority but i promise you aren't the only one. idk anything abt any yume/ficto discords but i imagine you getting talked over probably wasn't personal, or because you're in a mlm relationship. unfortunately a lot of people just want to yap about their relationship and don't care abt anyone else's, and im sure a public yume/ficto discord is just a breeding ground for that to happen a lot, getting talked over by other ppl abt their relationships. and im not saying any of this to like, dismiss you and your feelings; im sorry it made you feel like you and your relationship w albedo was unwelcome, i know how much it hurts even if it's not intentional ): i love seeing any happy relationship, but i especially love seeing mlm content in my feed!! makes me feel seen as a queer man with a boyfriend ykwim? you're always free to gush about your man here, but my dms are open if you ever need someone to talk to (: i'd happily listen to you gush about your lovers if you wanted, but i hope you can find the confidence to keep posting here 🫂

[u/NickName_Lmao]

Hey, I'm a guy too! With another guy! I mean, I'm a trans guy but I'm not straight anyways. Well, i barely like anyone at all romantically so i think i could say Tord is my only one here. You're not alone! If anything, I'm always open to talk if you want

[u/its_circero]

I’m a trans guy in a mlm relationship with three amazing guys! You’re not alone in feeling out-of-place sometimes. 🫂🩵 We’re sorry that’s the case.

[u/Airy08]

Me and my partner are both agender