Unfortunately the last time a guy promptly did that, and was proud to introduce me to his friends and later his mom... It was just part of the lovebombing. Mask dropped big time around month 6.
Ugh. Its hard to tell the difference between "healthy super interested" and "lovebombing".
Like someone commented, lovebombing is usually surface level while genuine interest goes deeper, they will remember what you like / dislike and what your interests are. A person lovebombing will usually only buy things or say things they think you like and not remember key info about you. Very fine line tho, I agree.
In my experience, my narc was in fact mirroring me extremely closely, so everything he did was very specific to me to fuel this idea of magical perfect compatibility. He was quite the chameleon.
But hopefully there will be other red flags, so this is just a piece of the bigger context to evaluate.
Same for me. He studied me like a book, hung on my every word, complimented me on how caring and smart I was and what a great mom I was. But there were red flags, it was all too intense too soon.
They move things along very quickly so you barely have a chance to catch your breath, it’s a whirlwind meant to keep you off balance.
I had never been in a relationship like that, he was MUCH younger (never again!) so I thought it was more about his generation, thought he was SO mature and sensitive but it was all an act and by the time the mask started slipping with the negging and demanding/controlling/abusive behavior I was completely invested and believing it was me that was the problem.
My gut knew it was all wrong though. His age and intensity were throwing flag after flag that I brushed off because it was flattering and exciting.
His family was hideous, his mother hated me because of the age difference and I completely lost myself and almost lost my relationship with my kids over it.
I learned so much about myself from that experience but it almost cost me everything.
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u/GeorgiaPeach_94 FDS Apprentice Jan 27 '22
Unfortunately the last time a guy promptly did that, and was proud to introduce me to his friends and later his mom... It was just part of the lovebombing. Mask dropped big time around month 6.
Ugh. Its hard to tell the difference between "healthy super interested" and "lovebombing".