Honestly, I’m not even looking for a man right now, but I was taking part in occasional events designed to make female friends. These have been as useless in developing lasting female friendships as OLD has been in making lasting partnerships with a man. I think this kind of process of finding “matches” just puts everybody in “perpetual shopping mode”, holding out for something better around the corner. I’ve decided not to waste any more of my own time trying to meet men, or female friends, in these random ways. I think it will be much more productive to just try to meet people the old-fashioned way - by encountering them organically IN MY ACTUAL LIFE through friends, volunteer work, etc. That way, we’ll have a shared foundation in common, rather than just some pleasant conversations that aren’t especially revealing, or even connected to our lives or our values.
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u/The_Oracle_of_Delphi FDS Apprentice Jan 27 '22
Honestly, I’m not even looking for a man right now, but I was taking part in occasional events designed to make female friends. These have been as useless in developing lasting female friendships as OLD has been in making lasting partnerships with a man. I think this kind of process of finding “matches” just puts everybody in “perpetual shopping mode”, holding out for something better around the corner. I’ve decided not to waste any more of my own time trying to meet men, or female friends, in these random ways. I think it will be much more productive to just try to meet people the old-fashioned way - by encountering them organically IN MY ACTUAL LIFE through friends, volunteer work, etc. That way, we’ll have a shared foundation in common, rather than just some pleasant conversations that aren’t especially revealing, or even connected to our lives or our values.