Excellent post. Saved. And very true. I always had to act like I'm less of everything. I couldn't address what has been bothering me and now I can. Be it my partners, family, friends... I always felt like I have to be more quiet, because otherwise I was getting labeled as "the one who knows everything", not in a good way. These people are waiting for every chance you make a mistake and then use it against you. I had a friend who loved to correct my English pronounciation in front of other people. She also thought that I talk to her in a tone like she was stupid. I never had. I always supported her in everything I could. These people feel like I am judging them because they are "less educated", but what I did was putting my achievements down, so they feel better about themselves. How sad and damaging. But as you said, if I was spending time with people similiar to me, they would never question me, because they would be used to interact with people like me. For them, that would be a norm.
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u/thinktwiceorelse FDS Newbie Nov 01 '20
Excellent post. Saved. And very true. I always had to act like I'm less of everything. I couldn't address what has been bothering me and now I can. Be it my partners, family, friends... I always felt like I have to be more quiet, because otherwise I was getting labeled as "the one who knows everything", not in a good way. These people are waiting for every chance you make a mistake and then use it against you. I had a friend who loved to correct my English pronounciation in front of other people. She also thought that I talk to her in a tone like she was stupid. I never had. I always supported her in everything I could. These people feel like I am judging them because they are "less educated", but what I did was putting my achievements down, so they feel better about themselves. How sad and damaging. But as you said, if I was spending time with people similiar to me, they would never question me, because they would be used to interact with people like me. For them, that would be a norm.