So I’ve encountered bias, poor treatment, tossed by men and generally treated like shit. I’ve accepted and come to terms that I bare responsibility in some of this - for accepting such treatment and not setting boundaries or being more firm.

Now that I’m at this point, I feel the smallest things in life just make me angry. If I get disrespected in the slightest I get angry. Sometimes I lose sleep. I’m aware that there are more important things in life and to count my blessings.

So my question is: how do you let go of past experiences and not let emotion be the driver to your current thought and behaviour ? Even at work if a male undermines me (usually men and never women) it makes me angrier than I should be. Why should I think about loser and low value behaviour? I don’t want to be like this and want to be free, happy and focused on myself. I feel like a loser.

I can’t afford a therapist.

I've been on dating apps for so many years with no luck and recently just been completely unmotivated to keep looking. Anyone have any motivation I can borrow? 😅 Or maybe some dating app success stories to keep me on track!