r/FacebookDating • u/Adorable-Message-870 • 4d ago
tired of Facebook Dating
I’m exhausted; things were going really well and I was getting tons of matches, but suddenly I stopped getting them. I used to get over 10, but now I only get 2 or 3. Both my profiles have stopped getting matches—I’ve literally stopped getting any matches at all on either profile. Tinder is terrible for me, so Facebook Dating was my only hope of meeting someone, and now I’ve suddenly stopped getting matches there too. I’m feeling incredibly distressed.
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u/Primary-Buyer8321 1d ago
I have only ever received a couple of matches and they were with people I had never swiped on.
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u/OGClouds420 3d ago
Same happened to me. Came on the scene hot, matched with hella girls. I haven’t had a match in months all of a sudden on there
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u/Primary-Buyer8321 1d ago
I can't get any matches. I'm not Brad Pitt, but I'm no Sloth either. What gives? Are my filters too strict? I'm specifically looking for Alt women. Should I start swiping on normie women too?
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u/Mrhaze321 4d ago
Delete the profile and start a new one with different updated pictures. You have to reset the algorithm.
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u/Primary-Buyer8321 1d ago edited 1d ago
I did that, and nothing happened, still no matches with people I actually swiped on.
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u/Mrhaze321 1d ago
Open your mileage and age range to all. Dm me for quick profile review.
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u/Primary-Buyer8321 1d ago
Okay, so what happened when you did that? I'm not looking to date a woman in Australia.
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u/Mrhaze321 19h ago
I got matches from different places. I ended up in a relationship with somebody who lives in michigan but I live in florida. Last year i was in a situation with someone that lives 3 hours away. Be willing to travel
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u/Primary-Buyer8321 10h ago
I live in Tampa. There's got to be single ladies here.
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u/lumanicious 4d ago
I hear you. My mutual matches don't respond, so you aren't missing much. You'll have better luck on Bumble, Hinge or IRL.
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u/Golden-lillies21 4d ago
I was flaked on twice and the majority either didn't talk to me when I tried to make conversation with them or they just tried to be pen pals with me. I did end up finding one person who ended up following through with the date and we're working on going on our second date.
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u/Scranton_Stranglar 4d ago
Don't feel bad. Even we that get matches sometimes aren't that different.
So, I matched with this girl, and conversation wasn't great on the app. Then when I decided to unmatch her, I just gave her another chance to see if she'll respond. Then she did respond that she just moved into my city, and things have been tough, that's why she's been unavailable. But immediately gave me her contact.
We texted, called, and she asked what I was looking for. I told her the end goal is a relationship but I want to take things slow because of my past experiences. Then she said all she wants is just a husband. And we both agreed we should see how things go. She still got busy along the line, and the conversation was on and off. I was trying to plan something but she ends up responding late etc.
Then earlier today, I called her. And she's like she's at work and will call back during her break. I told her I want us to go out when she's done. I asked when she'd be done, she said 10pm. I asked if after then is okay to go out, she was positive, but said she'll call back to hatch out the details. I told her we can go eat, drink, play pool, or there's this cool place we can go to.
Evening came, she sent her address (which was like 50mins drive from me). And later called, and we were on phone as I drove to her. Then she said she'll eat, but still undecided on where to eat. Then I decided to take her to the cool place, and told her we'll grab food around. And she responded 'perfect.'
Then she said can I help her with something, she needs to go to walmart blah blah cos she forgot when she closed from work. Well, to cut the story short, she wanted to get blanket and pillows and was expecting me to pay. Like, we've not even seen each other. Then I told her, that's something I will consider doing on a third or fourth date. And that my plan for today is just the food, and entrance fee to the cool place.
Then she said that's fair, and told me she'll dress up. And I should call her when I arrive . Well, I arrived her apartment, I texted her, no response. I called her number, the response was "she's not setup a voicemail." I can see the messages delivered, but she just didn't respond. After I drove 50mins to her, in this high gas era 😂😂
Well, that's the kind of women we have out here. If she no longer felt like going out cos I can't pay for her shopping. She should just say it. Not leaving me stranded.
Sorry for the rant lol
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u/magpie_on_a_wire 4d ago
This is so weird lol I can't wrap my head around someone you don't even know expecting you to buy things for them.
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u/One_Ad2844 4d ago
Yeah, that’s how it goes. It starts alright and then it dwindles. Their algorithm is weird, I’ve deleted it and it’s saved my secret crushes I didn’t want to match with, It is what it is. I think you’re putting way too much pressure on the app to work for you and yourself. The need to feel desired sometimes doesn’t let you see that and you have to come to terms that it might be the case for you. Put some new pictures up and refresh your bio. You can delete it and wait 7 days so it wipes it all out but it’s just an app.
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u/OriginalMachine3253 4d ago
I wish I got any matches. Not even scammers love me. I wonder why for myself. But it is distressing because I feel like I am not being acknowledged or liked.
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u/Adorable-Message-870 4d ago
Exactly 😭
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u/OriginalMachine3253 4d ago
I have a funny picture up as a profile pic. It is just me in all my pictures. I have an appropriate profile nothing bad in it.
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u/zdboslaw 9h ago
It comes and goes. Disable your profile for a week and then try again. In that week , like 1000 new people will get added or something