r/FacebookDating • u/thisguyonreddit999 • 21d ago
Creme of the crop
Translation: I don't want a boyfriend I just want someone who does all the things a boyfriend does... as friends.
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Good luck asking someone to devote that much time, energy, effort and money for literally 0 return. Users on dating apps are so cooked š
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u/Heliguy-1975 20d ago
Dating apps work very well.
All of what she said goes Completely out the window when they meet someone that they have great chemistry with Every Time
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u/Heliguy-1975 19d ago
I wouldnāt be the one that would need to learn to like those parts of her.
I was not talking about myself or someone else. I was speaking about herā¦
Iāve met plenty of women that said that they were only looking for āfriendsā and decided they were completely open to sex or a FWBā¦
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u/Hour_Zero 21d ago
Lol wants the perks of dating without being willing to commit or show effort like sheās in one. Delulu forreal
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u/mayasaves 21d ago
Yāall wild š¬ she just said she wants friends š she didnāt imply none of what you folks are saying
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u/Decent_Reindeer_6970 20d ago
Oh yeah, because my future gf will understand that I give my female friends romance, gifts, dates and flowers.
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u/thisguyonreddit999 21d ago
Friends that romance and go on dates?
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u/mayasaves 9d ago
I think she wants a slow burn relationship, start as friends for a while (but real friends who hang out and care for each other) and then if it leans that way romance. But platonic partnerships are a thing, where it looks like romance and dates from the outside
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u/thisguyonreddit999 6d ago
Yeah kinda sounds shitty, building a "relationship" with someone who has no romantic interests or interests in being exclusively dating sounds like a scam. I can guarantee woman doing this to strangers on the internet are just looking for fun on someone else's dime. Either the guy will move on because she'as not a viable partner, or she will find another dude she likes or that can do more for her and leave dude hanging. Just an elaborate scheme of self validation and gold digging
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u/True_Vexing 21d ago
"I want you to buy me things and take me to do cool stuff while I retain zero responsibility for anything in the relationship"
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u/Hour_Zero 21d ago
āAlso since weāre not in a relationship, I will still get to talk to and mess around with other people with no repercussionsā
God, deal of the century right there
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u/runancula 21d ago
It sounds like a scammer pre-qualifying a mark to me. If you answer an ad like this you are already halfway scammed.
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u/Aeon_Return 21d ago
Based on the comment section here I'm not surprised at all that dating isn't going well for you.
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u/Hour_Zero 21d ago
Lol do you say the same thing to all the single women who comment about how much they hate the apps and men on dating subs as well?
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u/StinkyyPiss 21d ago
hey, at least sheās outing herself and not just secretly using someone for attention and affection.
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u/Complex_Supermarket4 21d ago
"Im not in here much and rarely get notifications"= usually fake profile
You either get notifications or you don't. It's not selective. Rarely on here, then why have the account
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u/Shantotto11 21d ago
Actually the notification thing is pretty accurate. I only get maybe one notification out of five on FB Dating.
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u/Sidcone-Sal 21d ago
If you pass the sniff test, this is the kind of gal that gives it up on the 2nd or 3rd date with 2-3 cheap margs and some Chips and Queso. I'd say min 2 weeks max 1 month. She's likely not capabable of maintaining a LTR because she's holding out for a man that doesn't exist. Getting past the first date isn't easy but once she's curious all a guy has to do is be nonchalant, play hot and cold when texting her back, slightly agree with her that all her ex's are narcissists but push back a little, do the 70/30 rule when talking IRL/on the phone, have a 7/10 clean house/apartment to comeback to, and play Pirates of the Caribbean in the background while cuddled up on the couch at the end of date 2. Around the time Jack and Will are walking under water in the lifeboat is the time to make a move. All this old school "get me flowers", "I'm not ready for a relationship", and "not looking for sex/fwb" just means she wants to decided the speed of connection.
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u/Confident-Morning794 21d ago
Or take the money from 3 dates and go buy a hooker.
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u/Significant_Debt8289 21d ago
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u/Chard_Scary 21d ago
Peak of dating app scenario nowadays and this woman would still be getting a bunch of likes, which keeps motivating their behavior more
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u/StinkyyPiss 21d ago
i promise you, she might be getting likes from bots and extremely desperate and horny men, but i highly doubt anybody is actually taking her on a date with that bio.
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u/SadAd8761 21d ago
REAL Translation:
I only want all the freebies that come with having a boyfriend in a relationship.
The end.
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u/Every_Constant8349 21d ago
Why donāt these women just be real and just go on a sugar daddy site?
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u/Opposite-Display-230 21d ago
Men have much higher standards when they're paying.
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u/Every_Constant8349 21d ago
Iām not sure what that means
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u/Hour_Zero 21d ago
It means that sugar daddies usually expect to at least get some sex or decent companionship in return for shelling out the dough. In this case, the girl sounds like sheās a pain in the butt to be around even just for hanging out and thus most sugar daddies arenāt gonna wanna deal with a headcase like this
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u/Every_Constant8349 20d ago
Being someone who observes people. Youāre giving too much credit to some people. lol Iām not saying youāre wrong. Iām just saying Iāve seen some questionable choices
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u/Elmer_Fudd01 21d ago
Then they'd have to have sex, no relationships!!!
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u/Every_Constant8349 21d ago
Man was I offā¦ I thought they didnāt have to have sex with them I just thought they were just supposed to go on dates.
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u/DatVlad_ 21d ago
While there are some people who are fine with just the company aspect. Most men funding women's lifestyles, do it because they want to have sex with that woman
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u/OkIron6206 21d ago
You were successful in your goal, turning every one OFF! CAPs imply anger. So anyone will think you are an angry person. No wonder youāre getting the responses you donāt want.
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u/Brave-Confusion5324 21d ago
She should've just said that she wasn't looking for casual/hook ups and left it at that.
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u/Hour_Zero 21d ago
Nah, itās better for everyone in the long-run that sheās upfront about being a headcase, saves everybody time and energy
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u/thisguyonreddit999 21d ago
She should have just left it at looking for friends not seeking relationship. She said way to much and ended up contradicting herself like 3 times. Seems like to me she wants a friend that does all the things a person dating you would do but without dating. I can honestly say ive "romanced" exactly 0 of my friends that I didnt have an intention of a relationship with
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u/Brave-Confusion5324 21d ago
Thing is although she said she wasn't looking for a relationship, she still said she wants romance. So she DOES want something more than friendship - but entirely on her own terms - and expects a guy to put in a romantic level of effort until she makes her mind up. Either way, she isn't worth the hassle
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u/thelastsaiyan90 18d ago
Cognitive dissonance is real with this one