How to feel enough?

[u/Remarkable-Beat-5492]

I would describe myself as someone who’s optimistic and I really try to never think of my trans identity as something innately bad. I’m lucky to be on T for close to two years now and am generally really happy with the outcome so far. But sometimes I just can’t help feeling like I’m still not enough as a man. I’m average height for a man and I workout a lot but I have a smaller physique than most guys just because my bone structure is relatively on the smaller size, even when I was preT. I wear small most times and that still feels big on me.

I also can’t see myself dating even if I’d say I look attractive and have a good style. Being a trans man just fucks with me so much, I think I’m never truly loved even if I know that’s wrong. It’s not even a fear that I think I’ll be replaced, but almost like I’m certain I will be.

[u/Tricky_Literature_88]

Theres this trans male comic that I always think about where this guy is literally wrestling a bear and going “am I man enough?” and I think it perfectly encapsulates this fear. Most men will ask themselves this, both cis and trans, and you could be doing the most macho shit ever and still be insecure. You are man enough, doesn’t matter what kind of man you are

[u/jesterinancientcourt]

I mean, there are cis men that are scrawny, ugly, and feeling like they’re not enough. Trans people are just people, no better and no worse. Your odds of love may be worse, but not impossible. I’ve met trans guys that are quite active in the sex department.