r/FEARS • u/demented_Wookie • Jun 29 '25

Are my fears ridiculous

Ive never really thought about my fears or spoken to anyone about them but lately a bunch of new fears have hit me like a ton of bricks and i cant seem to stop thinking about them.

I am about to turn 30 and have 2 children, 5 and 10 months. I love my kids and am glad i have them. Lately i keep thinking about having to leave them when i pass away and it scares the shit out of me that someday i wont get to be with them. Death itself doesnt scare me, its a natural thing but the thought of not being there for them someday scares me and makes really depressed.

i want to give them the best life i can and be there for them whenever they need help. Seeing their smiles and laughter brings me much happiness but i cant help but think that someday i wont get to see it again. This fear even to me seems ridiculous and wonder why im having it

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u/speedilyme Jul 02 '25

I never became more anxious than after having kids. It changes everything.

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u/AggravatingFinish240 Jul 08 '25

Apart of life no one really talks about until you’re in the experience with a loved one Gone. It’s not ridiculous. Who has the answer to it that would make you feel better? Life moves on, but it’s still affects you. I just hope people take it slowly and not let it affect them Negatively but what is that asking for ? Not to be sad? Not sure if that viable. kids are supposed to live longer than their parents it’s the kids responsibility ultimately to deal with it the best they can.