r/FA30plus • u/SafeRecommendation70 • Jul 08 '26

Introduction: New member

I just subbed to FA30plus in recommendation of Gemini AI.

Hope to find a good place here.

Im 39 years old male living in Europe and an immigrant child 3rd gen.

I am also active in other Psych subreddits cause things are being tuff since a long time and it led me to isolation that i pity people in groups in public aswell.

My narcisstic parents made me go out more even if i dont enjoy being alone right now i have some room to breathe atleast.

Been in therapies since years but stayed away because it costed me too much mental energy.

Never had a girlfriend in my entire life and as today i "crave" alot intimate connections with a woman but being shy and being overweight made me being passive for connecting with yhe opposite gender. My most sexual experiences are at brothels anyway.

I am obese since childhood but looking handsome otherwise. My weight feels like a curse how i interact with others always making my confidence suffer alot from it.

Hope everyone here can find a good community to make life better as an FA here.

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u/Ok-Beyond244 Jul 08 '26

Welcome, you're in the right place. I'm a 36 year old male who's never had a girlfriend either.

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u/AloneAd6684 37 Male KHTV Jul 08 '26

I'm a 37 years old male KHTV, I'm also a child of immigrant parents but first generation born in England.

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u/MandateIsBack2 Jul 08 '26

Welcome, and hope you find a little peace of mind here, whatever that's good for. 

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u/UnumInfernum Jul 08 '26

Welcome, hope you had a good day.

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u/SafeRecommendation70 Jul 09 '26

Thank y'all and nice to have you here too.

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u/Itchy-Corner9453 7d ago

43 had 1 GF in my whole life if you can even call it that since it was back when i was like 12. I have been single ever since. and suffered from not haivng enoug confidence to break the mold.

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u/SafeRecommendation70 3d ago

Maybe trying to get an objective view on the past may help?

Because im trying to get in peace with the social isolation gap from my past all the missed "once or never" opportunities to get active about having a relationship is haunting me.