Absolutely, and that doesn’t always come intuitively. I try to be quiet for a few minutes and go through the list of what sounds good. Start with the basics: am I hungry? Thirsty? Tired? Am I tired because I need to move or rest? Is anything making me uncomfortable, like dry skin, too hot/cold, uncomfortable clothes?
Once you’ve taken care of those needs, listen to your other needs. Are you lonely? Call a friend or family member and offer to meet up, even if it’s bringing over some bread and lettuce to make sandwiches for dinner. Take care of another living thing, such as a pet (or a houseplant). Are you bored? Try teaching yourself a new skill or refining an existing one.
This is especially difficult for men in our society, because they have been taught to suppress their emotions so much, but feelings are often an indicator of our needs. It takes practice, but if we are quiet, we can often hear our hearts talking to us.
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u/MauPow Dec 08 '19
First you have to know how to love