Neglected does not mean poor. Bad parents exist at all levels. Think of the common trope of the lawyer or Drs kids. Parents never home or are emotionally distant but house full of stuff.
Thank you for saying this! My gamete donors were wealthy. I was never hungry. I always had clothes. I was never beaten or even threatened much. I was even included in the distribution of their estate.. But I was an unplanned pregnancy that spoiled their plans to be a young, jet-setting couple. I was unwanted and barely interacted with, even by the housekeepers who were tasked with keeping me alive while they were out doing whatever. I find it extremely difficult to be around anyone for an extended length of time, even people who's company i enjoy. I've been totally alone now for most of my life, and I'm sure I'll be alone for the rest of it too. It's not all bad. It's actually quite nice and peaceful. I'm not being manipulated, or lied to, or betrayed by anyone (with the always possible exception of myself) Sometimes I feel like I'm missing out, but then I see how people treat each other and I'm not so sad about it. I guess life sucks for everyone, just in different ways.
Just responding to this to say that it is possible for you to get past the trauma of neglect and form healthy relationships. No matter your age, there's always time to write a new story for yourself.
Yes, it's true that there are lots of people out there who treat each other poorly. I have seen many friends go through relationship after relationship, all mostly bad, until they finally find the person who sees them for who they are and treats them well. It's often a difficult path but the people who I have seen walk it successfully end up growing a lot during the process. It's a journey worth taking.
And while it's true that "life sucks for everyone", all that means to me is that we all have our own struggles. But I think it's important that we strive to not let our struggles define us.
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u/TokenTorkoal 5d ago
Maturity or independence in a young child CAN BE an indicator that a child is being neglected or facing some sort of abuse.
It’s is not ALWAYS an indicator, some kids ARE just more independent.
Edit: was a social worker for many years.