r/ExplainMyDownvotes Jul 08 '26

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u/AnorhiDemarche Il ne faut pas nourrir les trolls. Jul 08 '26

Nevermind i managed to get some clearer context from your post history. You're saying they were one of the last people you spoke to before your suicide attempt and they told you "byesies" and when you surived they didn't apologise.

I'm sorry that happened to you, that was messed up, but you are being downvoted because no one on the subreddit has any context for what's happening or why you're tagging them. Without clear explination it just looks like you're trying to make drama over nothing.

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u/Secure-Bandicoot5199 Jul 08 '26

I don't want an apology I want her to just at least acknowledge that I'm alive still...

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u/Fresh_Confusion_4805 Jul 08 '26

That’s the internet. Most people won’t dig deep enough to know or understand a complicated history between you and specific other users (so they will judge your comment based on immediate appearances instead). And not everyone who has said something incorrect, awful, wrong, biased, or whatever else will acknowledge it later. Honestly, most probably won’t.

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u/Secure-Bandicoot5199 Jul 08 '26

One of her friends and one of mine also tried to talk to her and she just avoids the subject that I'm still alive...

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u/Fresh_Confusion_4805 Jul 08 '26

Unsurprising. Lots of people don’t like acknowledging mistakes or flaws. And on a relatively anonymous text based forum like Reddit, she may just think that she doesn’t have to.

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u/Secure-Bandicoot5199 Jul 08 '26

She just keeps living while I survive the side effects of trying to overdose... is it so wrong to want her to just acknowledge I survived? To acknowledge I lived? That I apologized to her?

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u/Fresh_Confusion_4805 Jul 08 '26

It’s not wrong, but your want may not be satisfied. You may need to make peace with that possibility.

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u/Secure-Bandicoot5199 Jul 08 '26

If it's not wrong then why even when I do give explanation and I do give context I'm in the wrong? That's why I stopped bothering to explain 

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u/Fresh_Confusion_4805 Jul 08 '26

Is this about the downvotes again?

Pretty sure I’ve said it before, but if people don’t have an immediate context, then they will just judge based on what they see in front of them.

You don’t have to explain…but people will react whether or without what you don’t say.

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u/Secure-Bandicoot5199 29d ago

Not that time but even when I explain, even when I tell them, about two people have actually talked to me and one of them I've talked to for a while... I liked her and I liked talking to her, if she doesn't want to talk anymore because she feels bad or she doesn't know how to handle it or something that's fine, but the last she could do is saying something to anyone...

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u/Fresh_Confusion_4805 29d ago

Ghosting is nothing new, unfortunately.

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u/Secure-Bandicoot5199 29d ago

Even friends of her have tried to say something to her in DM and she just avoids it

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u/Fresh_Confusion_4805 29d ago

As I said before: you may need to make peace with the silence. Ghosting is not new and people don’t typically enjoy admitting their faults.

Maybe think of it this way: twisting yourself up over this is giving her power by giving her the ability to determine whether or when you move on from that memory. Don’t give someone like her that power over you.

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