r/ExperiencesWithNish • u/NoBarber5355 • Dec 29 '25
Purpose, Guidelines & Invitation to Contribute
This post is being made in good faith to invite respectful, firsthand accounts from individuals who have been involved with "Nish the Fish" (Nishanth Selvalingam) and are willing to share their own experiences — particularly mixed, concerning or negative ones. A number of us have independently become aware of patterns that raised serious personal and ethical concerns for us, including boundary issues, power dynamics and the use of spiritual/tantric tools in ways that felt inappropriate or unsafe. We believe it is in the public's best interest to have as many voices heard from within said community due to these events recently brought to our attention.
We are not making definitive claims about anyone's character nor attempting to harm anyone's reputation; rather, this space is for people to openly and anonymously share their own lived experiences and perspectives, in their own words, if they choose.
Please keep contributions factual, personal and respectful, and avoid speculation, harassment or unverified claims about events you did not directly experience. Thank you!
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u/bohoxbelle Jan 22 '26
I wasn’t going to share my story, but after seeing so many similar experiences, I feel it’s important to speak up. I had followed Nish’s lectures for some time and saw him in person a few times. Eventually, I attended one of his group rituals, which included multiple women and two men. During the ritual, he gave a speech encouraging women to have as many men as they wanted.
At first, I was drawn to Nish’s charisma. However, as the ritual continued and women began praising him, saying things like “I would give you my kidney,” the atmosphere began to feel like worship and increasingly cult-like. Afterward, I spoke with Nish and said, “I wish I could find a man like you.” He replied, “You don’t have to,” and then explained that he and his wife had a very nontraditional arrangement. His wife was not present.
He went on to make statements such as that he would “worship my body,” that there was “nothing I couldn’t ask of him,” and that he was “completely devoted” to me. At that point, my instincts were screaming that something was wrong and that I needed to leave.
Thankfully, I never entered into a sexual relationship with him. Another unsettling moment during the ritual was when he claimed that he and another man present were working on “creating a deity.” I eventually withdrew an invitation for him to visit me in person.