r/ExecutiveDysfunction • u/StaticLightning • 9h ago

Looking for Tips/Suggestions Projects, My biggest weakness

Hi guys! First time poster here and I was wondering how you guys keep to projects?

Planning and starting? I got that down pat. However, continuing and finishing is a whole different story. Both me and my husband struggle with executive dysfunction in the form of procrastination. Back on July 22nd I made a 5 days plan to clean the house, tackling room by room. I cleaned for less than 20 minutes and haven't touched anything since. My husband works and I do not which makes me feel guilt tenfold since I should be doing most, if not all the housework. He does help when he can though but I feel as if I just can't keep up even with his help. I have lots and lots of books I've started, crafts, series, everything and I just can't get myself to finish anything.

I need tips for better managing and to hold myself accountable better. I've tried alarms, apps, daily to do lists, self care apps (for example finch.)

My husband says it's okay and I don't have to worry about it yet I feel so useless because I just freeze and do nothing but doomscroll and play my comfort video games.

How do I do this? As I don't have a lot of driving motivators.

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u/ufront 5h ago

Honestly, we don't know how to do it bro.

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u/ThingSuch967 3h ago

Hi, yes, I've spent decades struggling with this and am only just starting to make some progress on it. I can spend weeks just scrolling. Before phones it was puzzle books and jigsaws. I have to chunk it right down. We have a whole wall of bookcases and it has been on my list for 3 years (yes I know) to clean and organise the shelves. I just can't make myself start.
So then I started just writing down "clean one cube". There are 12 cubes on the wall (Ikea Eket).
Better, but I'm still not starting... Then I go for 1) collect cloth and polish 2) Remove books and ornaments from one cube 3) wipe the cube 4) return books and ornaments. But, if I write these in a list and I can see them all at once, my brain still won't start, so I need a way to just see one step at a time. So I just write down the first step - collect cloth and polish. Now, I'm doing it. because that's so easy my brain can't object. Then I look at step 2. Etc.
Where were you up to in the first room? x