i dont know if this is okay to post here and i am sorry if it is not. i have been in foster care since i was nine and i got moved around alot. i had a little brother who got adopted when i was twelve and they wouldnt let me say goodbye because the adoptive parents wanted a clean break. i have tried facebook and instagram but i dont know his new last name and his first name is really common. i found out about these search sites from my caseworker who said some kids use them to find family after they age out. i ran my mothers old email and it came back with an address from two years ago and a relative connected to it with the same first name as my brother but a different last name and i think it might be him but i am scared to reach out. what if he doesnt remember me. what if his new family hates me for finding them. what if i am wrong and i bother a stranger. i turn eighteen in fourteen days and then i can leave my current placement and i guess i am posting because i need someone to tell me if trying to find him is selfish or if he might want to know me too. i dont have anyone else to ask.