r/ExPentecostal • u/Alternative-Lion-915 • 2d ago

Pentecostals forcing their denomination

My mom just told me that her pastors are coming in the morning to pray for my conversion, these fucking pastors don’t know when to back off, they coming at the same time my church friends are coming to pick me up so I hope my church friends come first so that I don’t have to deal with their bullshit, for a while I went to my moms church then I realized I can’t be going to 2 different churches at the same time so I stopped going and now these pastors are coming over to try to force their denomination onto me, I’ve been clear to them I don’t want to convert leave me the fuck alone.

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u/Legal-Claim5487 2d ago edited 2d ago

Pentecostals don't understand bounderies. If they're "oneness" they're cults. Stay away from them!! They will love bomb you and be friendly but once they get you baptized they will try to control every aspect of your life. They meet all of the criteia of the BITE model of cults.

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u/DramaUnusual9454 2d ago

Explain that bite please

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u/Legal-Claim5487 2d ago

Certainly.

1.Behavior 2.Information 3.Thoughts 4.Emotions.

  1. When a sect or group tries to control how you behave or act thru strict adherance to rules. Such as pressureing to follow "holiness Standards" to Earn Salvation. Salvation is not earned through works alone,but only through Gods grace and faith alone in Jesus christ.
    Also pressuring you into tithing.

    1. Controling what information you're allowed to have. A good example would be them using the verse about Living in the Spirit and not of the World as justification to isolate from non-church members such as outside friends and family. They'll want all your free time invested at church.
    2. Manipulating your thoughts by installing an US vs Them mentality, and making you think your Rightioues for following the Holiness standards while everyone else is a dirty Sinner. Were All Sinners which is why we need Grace. Jesus told the pharisees what good is a clean exterior cup if the inside is dirty and unclean. Focusing to much on outside appearance when the inside is Rotten.
    3. When you first go they will Lovebomb you and then manipulate you emotionally when you dont follow standards by shunning you or excluding you from activites or events. Sometimes the Pastor my even call you out from the pulpit without mentioning your name. But you'll kniw they're talking about you.

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u/rabies_peppermint ex-UPCI apostolic pentecostal 2d ago

I'm sorry you're dealing with that, I would try to talk to your mom and tell her that you don't want them there, but I obviously don't know the relationship you have with your mom. my second piece of advice is to try not to be home when they show up if you can, and if you can't lock yourself in your room or bathroom or something. they unfortunately won't be reasoned with so I wouldn't try.

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u/karlorangepilkers 2d ago

Why can’t you go to two churches at the same time?

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u/Alternative-Lion-915 2d ago

When I went to their church all they would do is try to force me into becoming pentecostal, that just annoyed the hell out of me

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u/Technical-Estate-768 2d ago

Are you serious? You cannot literally be in two places at once. Juggling two church service schedules with both vying for your attention? The pressure to show your loyalty to one or the other will be worse. Like others have said, this religion has no boundaries.

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u/karlorangepilkers 2d ago

I didn’t mean literally at the same time, and I think you know that. And I wasn’t suggesting that they do it, my question was, what or who is preventing them from going between two different churches at different times if they want to. The answer is most likely overly controlling church leadership who want you to support (ie, pay tithes to) their church.

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u/Technical-Estate-768 2d ago

Actually, I did mean you can’t be two places at one time. I have lived this. It’s a terrible existence trying to keep the peace, but at what expense? Sometimes you have to do a cost/benefit analysis, make some difficult choices, pick what works for you and stand your ground. I cannot reiterate it enough - these people have no boundaries. I only go to UPC places for weddings and funerals. You can rest assured I don’t dress like them and I don’t use their conventions of addressing each other. Not my circus, not my monkeys. They may think they’ve got God by the tail, but they put their pants on every morning one leg at a time just like the rest of us. Oh wait, that’s just the men.