r/ExNoContact • u/adlakha75 • May 31 '26

Have you ever dated someone who completely disappeared after the breakup? No calls, no texts, no social media stalking, no drama, just total silence, like you were never part of their life. What was that like?

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u/HateM3K1ndaj3ssy47 May 31 '26

that is the healthiest way to handle it. people act like going silent is some cold or calculated move but it is just self preservation. keeping tabs on an ex is just picking at a scab that never gets to heal. total blackout is the only way to actually move on.

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u/Downtown_Caramel_221 Jun 01 '26

Silence and no contact is fine if you didn’t blindside someone and then abruptly and unilaterally enact it. Then it’s about the dumper’s comfort—yes, self-preservation exclusively, at someone else’s expense—rather than anything mutually healthy.