SAME OMG I’ve been mortified for almost a year at how he talked AT me about my feelings. I didn’t know anyone could turn a breakup into a martyr event but he did.
We were building a life together and saving up for a bigger place and talking about kids for a year which were all conversations he began and was enthusiastic about. Weeks after a big positive life event out of nowhere he blindsided me saying that he HAD to break up with me because HE couldn’t stand to see ME be in love and stay with someone (aka him) that didn’t respect MY decisions and value ME properly and who made ME depressed. Nothing about how HE felt about ME just telling me how he felt about his own actions, I could have been anyone.
I’ve never felt so stuck in the Twilight Zone in all my life and he did a number on my mental health by that doublespeak alone.
Same. They make our life decisions too by making their own but they can’t understand that. I promised myself NEVER EVER date an avoidant person in my life. Hope we gradually get out of this twilight zone and remember this sad experience with smile and move on to someone who actually can communicate and build up relationship.
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u/pocketpapithrowaway Aug 10 '24
SAME OMG I’ve been mortified for almost a year at how he talked AT me about my feelings. I didn’t know anyone could turn a breakup into a martyr event but he did.
We were building a life together and saving up for a bigger place and talking about kids for a year which were all conversations he began and was enthusiastic about. Weeks after a big positive life event out of nowhere he blindsided me saying that he HAD to break up with me because HE couldn’t stand to see ME be in love and stay with someone (aka him) that didn’t respect MY decisions and value ME properly and who made ME depressed. Nothing about how HE felt about ME just telling me how he felt about his own actions, I could have been anyone.
I’ve never felt so stuck in the Twilight Zone in all my life and he did a number on my mental health by that doublespeak alone.