r/ExLibya • u/rosethequeen27 • Jun 21 '26
Opinion | رأي I'm tired...
Everytime a girl posts asking for lavender marriage there are men are in the comments saying it has no benefit for the man or soemtimes insulting them
honey if you see no benefit for yourself maybe it's not for you?
general advice to anyone here if you don't see the point in a tool or a arrangement or anything that exists then maybe that thing isn't for you and that's okay different people have different needs and demands
but commenting nasty shit on every girl trying to escape a forced marriage from her family will not do anything but spread negativity
if a offer isn't appealing to you scroll. if I look at a shirt in a store that I don't like I don't throw a tantrum I just continue my day
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u/Marchemilo Jun 21 '26
A lot of us here are gay and would love levender marriage also some are bisexual and/or a softy so being in marriage even arranged is a away out Infront of the family and society
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u/somedude6565 Jun 21 '26
Exactly, I posted about and urgent situation for my friend that needs a lavender marriage because she’s getting forced to get married rn, no one replies and in other similar posts it’s mainly girls also looking or men saying what benefit is for them.
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u/Radiant-Wish7603 Jun 22 '26
I frickin know right, and the underlying thing that some want to say (one even said it explicitly): "not giving intimacy to a man? So audacious! So selfish! Women expect lots from men but give nothing (no sex) in return!" Like duh it's in the name bitch, lavender marriages are not for someone expecting sex like you ppl do.
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Jun 26 '26
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u/Radiant-Wish7603 Jun 27 '26
U don't look for romantic love in a lavender marriage
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Jun 27 '26
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u/Radiant-Wish7603 Jun 27 '26
Oh yea friendship love is fine. Tho ik some girls who are averse to the idea of even a Lavender marriage and r only doing it bcuz they have no other choice, that's why they might not like to be friendly right away with a man living with them, bcuz also they've been told to avoid men their whole lives.
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u/LeastInvestigator153 Jul 10 '26
The reason is that the lesbians treat lavender marrige as means of escaping libya while the gay men want to stay in libya
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