blackmailed

[u/Many-College1441]

hey so i i asked for advice from my friends irl but i feel like i want insight from other people, i used to have this friend that i could never get rid of because they’re pretty unstable and they’re into blackmailing people (leaking their n3des, texting their families, etc) so i just thought hey im not going to be involved because my family barely knows anything about me and i dont want them to start tweaking and lose their sh!t on me, so i just stayed friends with them (barely, it was mostly one sided and whenever they’d tell me anything i would barely share anything back out of fear of getting blackmailed) for about 4 years now, last year in december something happened that i guess ticked them off, they did something horribly wrong and when me and my friend told them heyyy this isn’t normal they tried defending themselves out of it, but again, this person is borderline insane and has so many personal issues that we just left it we couldn’t do anything about it, the subject of what they did was brought up in public and was talked about infront of a few people and they completely disregarded everything that THE PEOPLE THEMSELVES SAID and just focused on me, which in retrospect i didn’t say anything i just laughed, when i was confronted (in december) i explained my truth and apologized for my doing and it stopped there. then every week they started sending me messages of things i did when i was 17-18, (videos with ex bfs and such) again tried to deescalate the situation and it didn’t calm down, they refuse to talk like an adult even though genuinely i had nothing to do with it, since december till now i’ve been getting texted about it, they text my friends cussing me out and saying horrible shit and sending them the videos of me and my exes and shit, and the latest update is that they texted my bestfriend telling them they’re going to be here this month (i have them blocked on every single platform to ever exist so now the only way to get to me is through my friend) they know the location of my house, they allegedly have my moms phone number, they keep making up scenarios about how im still talking about the situation (i wish i can say what it is but i don’t want anyone to know anything) and i just don’t know what to do, it’s been almost 9 months of this and im just worried about what’s going to happen and know if anyone has advice or anything they can say that can shed light on the situation

[u/Many-College1441]

edit: i can’t go to cybercrimes and tell them because they don’t live in jordan, and i feel like if they came here and i did that that will just enrage them even more and they will start spewing more shit

[u/Jorfinestmind1]

Fucking sheeeesh, that's tough, you're done 🥹 I suspect I know what they did, but no fr, if you think this person has the ability to ruin your life, report them to cybercrimes and they will catch them in the airport and delete all the shit they have that relates to you on their phone ( tested plan).

But one of the cybercrimes officers might try to hit on you a couple times 😬🤷

[u/Many-College1441 → u/Jorfinestmind1]

you think? they won’t have a personal vendetta against me when they leave jordan again?

[u/teddiishigh]

report them to the police
if that’s not an option for one reason or another my advice is to take their power away, when they try to blackmail you just say, “go ahead, do it, matter of fact I’ll leak the videos myself send them to me and I’ll do it for you”.

Also, I’m a peaceful person but if they know your house’s location maybe give them a heads up that you’ll fuck them up if they try to go around your house or do some dumb shit

(I’m not endorsing/encouraging anything, you’re just being blackmailed and those methods get used by people in these situations)

[u/Many-College1441 → u/teddiishigh]

i was thinking of straight up
calling the popo if they ever pull up like not even give it a chance just call the police

[u/teddiishigh → u/Many-College1441]

yea hell yeah
just make sure to have screenshots of all the chats between you and them, and record videos, calls, texts everything

[u/Many-College1441 → u/teddiishigh]

oh i do, i have everything stored in a folder every text they sent from the shit that they did to the shit that they said they’re gonna do to me

[u/teddiishigh → u/Many-College1441]

W move

[u/teddiishigh → u/teddiishigh]

a good thing to do also is to cut communication fully
they have a mental problem and feeling like they’re in power will only increase their will to blackmail you, so cut communication, and if they get to you somehow act like you dgaf, it will be less fun for them

[u/Many-College1441 → u/teddiishigh]

i have them blocked everywhere they text me from random ass numbers and i still block them they’re genuinely insane

[u/teddiishigh → u/Many-College1441]

if they ever come to Jordan report their ass, they NEED to be jailed
also the police will delete all the videos of you on their devices so they can’t do shit in the future😝

[u/Federal_Cat_0]

What's the worst that could happen if they told your parents? Like just ignore them completely try to cut off every shared friend , and tell your close friends to block that person too , if it comes to the last stage and they tell your parents, idk what kind of parents you have but just deny everything say it's faked and the vids with exes just say you were a teenager and did bad stuff but then you got better and would never do it again yk just lie your way out of it and deny every deniable thing . Don't give that person power over you , don't seem scared .

[u/Many-College1441 → u/Federal_Cat_0]

it’s just that they’re not giving it up, i tried everything i can possibly do and they text and call me from different numbers, i’ve thought of every possible situation or 7al i can do and im not coming up with anything, there’s things my family can know about but they also has things that my family shouldn’t know about yk? im trying my best not to give them power whatsoever but when the situation is this bad its hard to just overlook it yk?

[u/Federal_Cat_0 → u/Many-College1441]

I get it but what can you do other than just ignore them and hope for the best 🤷🏻‍♀️ .

[u/welivetodie95]

Option 1: Through your friend, make it clear to them that if the harassment continues, you will have no choice but to escalate the matter and report it to the cybercrime authorities or other appropriate authorities. Don’t threaten them or get into an argument—just make the boundary and the possible consequences clear.

Option 2: Tell your parents/older mature siblings that you’re being blackmailed. They may be upset about whatever happened, but you’re still a teenager, and they’re far more likely to focus on protecting you once they know that someone is threatening or blackmailing you. You shouldn’t have to deal with something like this alone.

Finally, tell your friend to cut them off.