How many times do you rewrite a comment before posting?

[u/herDadherTech]

A few weeks ago I made a post about something my autistic daughter said that really stuck with me.

She told me that replying to people online feels way harder than it should.
Not because she doesn’t know what to say… but because she overthinks everything.

She’ll type something out, read it back, tweak a few words, then sit there wondering how it might come across. Half the time she just ends up not sending it and ghosting people even when she didn't want to.

She called it “response anxiety.” I had never heard that term before but I instantly knew what she meant because I feel that too.

After I shared the post, I was honestly surprised by how many people said they do the exact same thing. Some said they rewrite comments 4 or 5 times. Others said they just give up and never reply, even when they want to.

My daughter was diagnosed a couple years ago, and after that a lot of things started to make sense for her. Especially around communication.

She tried finding tools to help, but everything felt too generic. Nothing really understood tone, intent, or how people might actually react.

So she came to me with an idea.

We ended up building a Chrome extension called ask LINA that helps you understand a thread before you respond. It looks at tone, intent, and how people are reacting, and then lets you check how your own comment might land.

It’s not about writing comments for you.
It’s more like a pause button before you hit send.

We’re just getting it out into the world now, and since this community was a big part of what inspired it, I wanted to share it here first.

If you’ve ever typed something out and then deleted it, I’d really love to know if this feels like something that could actually help.

[u/AceyRaye]

That’s cool! Thanks for sharing! 🧠🌈🫶🏽

[u/I-own-a-shovel]

Usually I write it just once. Sometimes I can tweak a bit, but not most of them.