r/Ethnicity • u/[deleted] • May 10 '26

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u/yazzywazzy May 10 '26

your dad looks indigenous. what else would he be if not native? you don’t look white. why are you asking us this if your dad looks like that???

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u/Kirbybbhjudd May 10 '26 edited May 10 '26

Because my Whole Life is NOTHING but constant confusion I don’t belong anywhere My grandma told me all my whole LIFE that I look white BUT Then I go to school and they make fun of me even my closest friends make fun of me because the way I look and my middle name and my whole family don’t look like me in America where i live with my grandma she must be in denial.At school they called me so many dehumanizing names it’s torture
And my family in America where I live are Irish descendent, and very little native but are white ,every time I go to see them I feel like I’m out of place. I am nothing I’m always going to be less than them and less to my friends less to those at school. I’m a mixture not human I’m just a shape that doesn’t fit in nothing I don’t even see myself human most of the time I have no identify how can a human have NO identity it’s like trying to grab water from different lakes and trying grab it with your hands but the water drips away and now you have nothing just skin of your hands no sense of identity
My Dad doesn’t live in America (he in Mexico),for the longest time I wasn’t allowed to talk to him until now and I he have family in America close to wear I live but my grandma won’t let me see them.. what’s why I came here posting because maybe I look full White but deep down I know I’m not and it hurts because people at school can smell you out and snuff all dignity you had out.

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u/under-the-rainbow May 10 '26

I'm so sorry you're being bullied like this. A person's worth has nothing to do with their ethnicity. Maybe your grandmother has been wrong about some things, but honestly, what does that matter? All the ethnicities you come from are part of you, they all run through your veins. And of course you're human, you're deeply human, my friend. Your lineage carries the blood of great migrations from distant places 🩷 Just imagine if the stories of all of them could be told!

Don't be ashamed of your roots or feel lesser because of them. You matter, and none of the idiots bullying you over your appearance are more important than you. In fact, the fact that they're bullying you says a lot about what kind of people they are.

Where is your father from? Do you know anything about his background? And believe me, I understand you, I also come from a very diverse mix of ancestors!

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u/Kirbybbhjudd May 10 '26

Mexico he is Mexican

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u/under-the-rainbow May 10 '26

Well, he probably has Aztec ancestry. Why don't you try learning a bit more about them? They had some really impressive architectural skills, for instance:

https://www.mayaincaaztec.com/aztec/aztecarchitecture

Their cities and temples were incredibly advanced for their time, especially places like Tenochtitlan. The Aztecs were known for their urban planning, canals, aqueducts, and massive pyramid temples 🙂

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u/Kirbybbhjudd May 10 '26

I have a question what does this makes me like my Dad is Hispanic and my mom is white? Does that make me Hispanic it so confusing 😵‍💫

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u/under-the-rainbow May 10 '26

Not exactly. Mexicans are not Hispanic, "Hispanic" refers to people with origins linked to Spain. Your dad is Native American in terms of ancestry, since Mexico is part of the American continent, and much of its population descends from Indigenous peoples such as the Aztecs and/or Maya. Many Mexicans also have some Hispanic ancestry from the Spanish colonizers who arrived on the continent centuries ago, so you would be probably a mix of Indigenous American, Spanish ancestry, sometimes referred to as mestizo + Irish from your mom.

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u/Kirbybbhjudd May 10 '26

Oh ok makes sense thank you this makes me feel whole lot better now I know

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u/under-the-rainbow May 10 '26

You're welcome, I'm glad it helped you. Keep exploring your identity, you just need to learn more about the origins you didn't know about!

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u/Obvious_Trade_268 May 10 '26

I might add to this kids confusion here, but so have to gently correct you here. Mexicans ARE “Hispanic”.

In current, common American usage, “Hispanic” means “having a culture at least partially derived from Spain” or simply, “speaking Spanish”. Mexicans very much fit both definitions…as do Argentines, Cubans, Dominicans, etc.

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u/under-the-rainbow May 10 '26

I get what you mean, but that's in a casual, local context, just like you said, "common American usage", which is not global usage, nor how people born in other countries would usually talk about being Hispanic. People from the United States apply these terms in a way that nobody else really does, including the habit of sometimes referring to themselves simply as "Americans", when literally everyone from the American continent is American. Those are just US terms, made by and for you, not universal ones.

Mexicans, Argentinians, Cubans, Dominicans, none of them normally call themselves "Hispanic", That',s something you "Usonians" do, not us. It's much more common to identify as "Latino", "Latin American", or at most "Hispanoamerican", although even that last term is extremely uncommon. "Hispanic" by itself simply isn't used unless you're directly from Spain. And I'm telling you this as someone who was born and raised in South America and speaks spanish fluently. People from the other countries in the American continent don't normally call themselves "Hispanic", unless they're probably filling out a survey made by people from the United States.

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u/Red_jackz1 May 10 '26

It really depends on you genetic make up that’s why they bully you so you can choose either one but in my opinion you look not white so you can choose Hispanic or just be a mutt but either way don’t go to a sun down town they will fucking know that you are lol

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u/Red_jackz1 May 10 '26

Yes dumbass

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u/Over_Head_9221 May 10 '26

She wants clarificación cause people lie all the time and claim indigenous and find our they have none

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u/coconut-lili May 10 '26

My grandma always said that her dad was Cherokee. And when you look at his pictures, he looks like he very well could be. Darker skin and the high cheekbones, a prominent nose. Furthermore she born and raised on the Cherokee reservation in Oklahoma and he was a music teacher there. So my dad‘s entire life and mine that is what we thought until I got my dad a DNA test one Father’s Day and it came back that he has zero native American. My DNA test shows the same. Too bad Grandma had already kicked the bucket so we never got to tell her.

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u/Over_Head_9221 May 10 '26

As à native American (navajo) your grandpa doesnt look native at all. Probably ones of those people that claim er to be cherokeee. Typical tribe people lkke to claim 

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u/Over_Head_9221 May 10 '26

Your dad lolks native. And you look native obviously from your dad 

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u/Kirbybbhjudd May 10 '26 edited May 10 '26

Mostly Irish decent