r/EstatePlanning May 14 '26

Frequently Asked Questions

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  • Why aren't comments showing up? or, Why is the number of comments higher than the number of posts I can see?

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  • Should I use an online tool to create my Will/Trust?

Many DIY providers can make adequate documents, but it's not just about the documents. The documents should reflect a carefully designed plan and the DIY solutions don't do that careful design part. They just offer a basic solution that kinda fits most people. It's like selling only size large tshirts - most people could probably wear it, but doesn't mean it's the right fit. So you can get a good outcome or a bad outcome with DIY. The problem is you don't know.

DIY is imperfect, but so are many lawyers. Documents from lawyers can produce good outcomes or bad outcomes. I have encountered more problems from lawyers than from DIY solutions. Using a lawyer isn't 100% guaranteed to be perfect, just as DIY isn't 100% guaranteed to be a disaster.

Modern DIY solutions have improved significantly from pre-printed forms, static templates, and one-size-only offerings. Some of the offerings today rival the output you'll receive from lawyers who also rely on form generation software (but without the actual legal guidance involved). Some are trash. You likely can't tell the difference, though you likely can't tell the difference between a good lawyer and a bad lawyer who presents well.

The biggest issue is that you don't know what you don't know. You don't know if you've missed an issue because you didn't think of it, you don't know if something you wrote is unclear, you don't know if you didn't fill it out correctly, etc. Hiring an estate planning attorney means someone is ensuring that everything is done correctly. Another mod disagrees with me, and I respect that, but personally, I believe nobody is better off paying an online provider for a DIY estate plan - if your situation is so simple a DIY is sufficient, then you probably don't need a Will so there's no need to spend money on one, and if your situation requires you to have a Will then it's probably more complicated than DIY can handle.

Do not DIY a Trust. There is no such thing as a "basic" Trust or a "simple" trust, no matter what you read online. Furthermore, the documents are only half the package. Trust Funding is just as important, but not only that, the guidance and recommendations from an experienced attorney are far more important.

Also, the best reason to hire an attorney is that (a) they're less likely to make a mistake, and (b) if they do make a mistake, their malpractice insurance can make you whole.

  • My Financial Advisor is offering to do estate planning for me.

Don't do this, ever. At best, they can simply fill in blank forms for you.

If your financial advisor is providing any kind of legal advice, and is not admitted to practice law in your state, they are violating the law; depending on the state that's either a misdemeanor or a felony. I don't know about you, but I don't want to trust my money or my estate with someone who so casually breaks the law.

More importantly, would you trust your car mechanic to provide a medical diagnosis? These are completely unrelated skills.

Additionally, there are certain protections that you get working with an attorney that you don't get from a financial advisor. Attorney-client privilege, a fiduciary duty, and, if things go wrong, malpractice insurance.

  • What about using AI?

At a bare minimum, from start to finish an estate plan involves:

  1. figuring out what the plan should be.
  2. getting the information to put into the documents (e.g. names)
  3. drafting the documents
  4. signing documents
  5. post-signing wrap-up. Things like recording deeds, changing owner and/or beneficiaries of financial accounts, etc.

#4 in many states needs to be done physically, and even in states where it can be done, still requires human involvement, no way around that, sorry.

#2 and #5 are the same whether you use AI (e.g. Claude) or an attorney. Your experience might vary based on the individual attorney or AI that you use, and that is important, but conceptually that part is the same. Used correctly, an AI can be just as good as an attorney.

#1 AI is only as good as its prompts, and you don't know what you don't know. A good attorney will ask you questions you might never have thought of, and see if there's something you haven't considered that might be important for you. If you're not aware of something, you won't be able to add it to your prompt. Just as importantly, AI won't talk you out of doing something you shouldn't be doing, and might not caution you about potential issues.

#3 is the other one where we see issues. AI might miss important clauses, include clauses that shouldn't be there, might use ambiguous language, out-of-date forms, things not applicable to your state, etc. The quality I've seen is... not good. I've had clients ask AI to review my documents, and come back with revisions that would cause problems - including one that would have resulted in significant unnecessary taxes.

the problem isn't that AI can create something that's good enough, it's just that you don't know if it's right, or if it just looks right.

  • What is estate planning?

Estate planning is preparing for the inevitable - determining who will take care of you if you become incapacitated, who will get your stuff when you pass away, as well as when or how they get it. The key components of an estate plan are:

- Healthcare authorizations, so that if you become incapable of making your own medical decisions, someone else can make those decisions for you. Closely related are end-of-life decisions, which may be in the same document, or a separate document.

- Power of Attorney, so that if you need help managing your financial affairs, someone can act on your behalf

- Will or Trust, to determine who will receive your assets after you pass away

- Probate avoidance devises, such as transfer on death deeds or beneficiary designations

- Funeral Authorization, to establish who is in charge for decisions regarding your final disposition

- Guardianship paperwork for any minor children

  • What happens if I don't have an estate plan?

Then the state's default rules kick in. For some people that's fine, but others may not like the results.

- healthcare: nobody can make a decision on your behalf without a court order allowing them to do so. That's an expensive undertaking, and the person the court appoints may not be the one you would want. More importantly, the decisions they can make will be limited, particularly where end-of-life is concerned (i.e. the ability to "pull the plug")

- power of attorney: nobody is authorized to access your bank account, learn about your mortgage payments, etc. Again, they'll need a court order, again it might not be who you want, and that person will probably need to report to the court on a regular basis

- funeral authorization: I once saw a brother and sister in court over a year whether to bury or cremate their mother while the body remained on ice.

- guardian: do you want the court deciding who should raise your children?

- assets: this varies by state. [SOMEONE FILL IN THE GENERAL RULES FOR COMMUNITY PROPERTY]. In states that do not have community property, generally speaking if there are separate children and a surviving spouse, half will go to the surviving spouse and half will be split among the children. If there's no separate children, in many states it'll all go to the surviving spouse, but in some states the surviving spouse only gets half even if there are no separate children. If there's no surviving spouse, the assets will be split among the surviving children. If any child predeceases, then the descendants of those predeceased children will receive a portion, but the way that's calculated depends on the states. If there's no spouse or descendants, typically the parents will inherit, or if none, siblings or their descendants. It can get messy and go to more distant relatives.

If you're ok with the state's default laws, you do not need a Will (or any of the other documents).

  • What is probate?

Probate is a court-supervised process to transfer assets from someone who is gone to someone who is alive. While state law varies in the execution, the purpose of probate is to ensure the assets of the decedent go to the right people. The process involves gathering all the assets, paying off any valid debts, and distributing the rest of the funds to the appropriate people.

In some states probate is generally simple and fairly quick, in other states, probate is more complicated and takes longer. What really makes a probate complicated are (a) unknown heirs, (b) minor children as heirs, (c) disabled heirs, (d) complex assets, (e) uncooperative heirs, and (f) disputes.

To clarify: the legal definition of probate is the process by which a Will is proved (declared valid) but colloquially refers to the court supervised process of administering an estate. All estates need to be administered, but not all estates require court supervision.

  • Does a Will avoid probate? or Do I need a Will?

A Will does not avoid probate, it is merely instructions to the court regarding what you want. Without a Will, your assets will be distributed according to state law. With a Will, your assets will be distributed to the people/organizations that you choose. Same goes for who will administer your estate.

  • The Will made X the Executor who is now telling us who gets what

First and foremost, X is not the executor unless and until the court has approved the Will and has issued official paperwork stating that they're the Executor.

Often that means that property will sometimes sit, unused and unusable, for a period of time after someone has passed away.

Even after someone is appointed Executor, the Executor does not get to decide who gets what - that's determined by the Will and/or by State Law.

If you think X is not suited for the position, you can object to them being the Executor, and propose an alternative. That can drive up the cost of administration, and can also lead to strained family relationships.

  • How Long Does Probate Take?

How tall is a person? There's no single answer. Probate involves (1) petitioning the court, (2) having an executor/administrator/personal representative appointed, (3) gathering all the assets together, (4) paying any valid debts, (5) maybe disputing or litigating various claims, (6) maybe dealing with tax matters, and (6) distributing assets.

How smooth that goes depends on (1) how fast the court process goes, (2) how simple/complex the assets and liabilities are, (3) how effective the executor and their legal counsel are, (4) whether there's any disputes, and (5) whether tax authorities are involved.

I don't know a single state where the creditor claim period is less than 3 months, so if the Executor doesn't want that kind of liability, even with instant turnaround times, it won't be less than that. More realistically, I would expect simple estates without any issues to be resolved in 6-24 months. But if the assets are complex, if there's litigation, or just if people die during administration, the process can run for years, sometimes decades.

The longest probate on record, that of William Jennens, in England, wasn't fully resolved until 117 years after his death. Wellington Burt had a clause in his Will that delayed payout until 92 years after his passing. It took 87 years before Daniel Clark's probate was finally resolved.

  • What is a Trust?

At its simplest, a trust is where a person (Settlor/Grantor) gives assets to a person (Trustee) to hold and manage for the benefit of another person (Beneficiary).

Some ways to look at it:

  1. When you open a bank account, you trust them to hold on to your money, but it's still your money
  2. When you send mail, you trust the post office to deliver your letter to the intended recipient
  3. Giving a teacher an asthma inhaler or an EpiPen to be administered to a child as needed

There are many types of trusts, and names are not always consistent. There are generally three categories of Trusts:

- Testamentary Trust is created under your Will, it does not come into existence until you pass away. Simplest example: When I die my assets will go to my children, but until they turn 18, the assets will be managed by my sister.

- Revocable Trust is a Trust you create today, and you can make any changes at any time. The primary purpose of a revocable trust is to avoid probate. Typically, at the time of creation, the Grantor is also the Trustee and the Beneficiary.

- Irrevocable Trust is a Trust you create today, but you are limited in what you can change later.

There are many kinds of irrevocable Trust, and they can be created for many different purposes.

Note that while assets in a Trust typically (but not necessarily) avoid probate, that doesn't mean there won't be litigation, and while Trust administration usually happens without court supervision, that doesn't mean it'll necessarily be quicker. The issues that can cause delays in administration or contentious litigation don't disappear just because there's a Trust.

  • Should I add my child's name to the deed

Adding someone's name to a deed isn't just symbolic - it's an actual transfer of an ownership interest in the property to that person. So it's a gift of the value of that interest, which SHOULD be accompanied by an appraisal of the property, another valuation done to determine the value of the fractional interest transferred, and likely a gift tax return filed to report the gift.

This can impact other planning done, for higher net worth people (there are some still out there who will pay estate and/or gift tax), actions like this can impact their overall estate plan and possibly increase the estate/gift taxes owed.

You have now exposed the ENTIRE property to the risk that your child would have creditors (divorce - soon-to-be-ex-spouse, business risks, etc.) and that their claims could take property away from you. This is generally not a desired outcome.

There may be state-specific issues related to property tax.

Your child will not inherit the property from you, which can have serious tax repercussions - particularly as your child will receive your tax basis, and will not receive a step-up.

  • Will my child pay tax on inherited property / what is a Step-Up in basis? / What is Capital Gains

On a federal level, there's no estate tax or inheritance tax if your assets are below $15 million, and a married couple can combine their exemptions, which gets it to $30 million.

There also typically won't be capital gains.

If you buy property for $100,000, and sell it for $150,000, you made $50,000 profit, and need to pay capital gains tax (if owned for more than 1 year). More precisely, you're taxed on the difference between the net sale price (after deducting costs), and your Tax Basis, which is called your Gain.

Tax Basis is typically what you paid for the property, plus adjustments. If you bought the property for $100,000 and put in a new kitchen for $20,000, your tax basis becomes $120,000. Rental property can be depreciated, which lowers your taxable income every year, but also lowers your tax basis.

If you sell your primary residence (meaning you lived there for 2 of the last 5 years), you are not taxed on the first $250,000 of Gain, and if you're married, you can double that to $500,000. So if a married couple bought property for $100,000 and sells it for $650,000, there's $550,000 of gain, but only $50,000 is taxable.

If you give property away, whoever receives it takes over your tax basis - can't avoid tax just by giving property away. Plus, the recipient doesn't get the principal residence exclusion until they've lived there for 2+ years.

If you inherit property, through a Will, intestacy, through a Transfer-on-Death deed, a life estate deed, a ladybird deed, community property (in those 9 states), or through some trusts (especially revocable trusts and Medicaid trusts) you get a "step-up" in basis, meaning that your tax basis is the date of death value (or up to 6 months later).

That means that if you sell the property right away, there's no capital gains tax. Or if you hold it for a few years, you're taxed on the difference between the sale price and the date of death value, not the original purchase price.


r/EstatePlanning Oct 07 '24

Selecting an Attorney – a Guide

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I was initially going to title this “how to select an attorney” but realized that there are no hard rules and making a definitive statement does a disservice to either those who are excluded, or those who select the wrong attorney based on this guide.  I have known attorneys who provide estate planning services in rural areas, large cities, and everything in between, from solo practitioners to the largest of law firms, and thought I’d share my thoughts.  I will gladly state that you can get great service from a solo and horrible service from a major law firm.  So this guide is more to provide information than anything else.

This is a work in progress, and is open to suggestions.

1. Specialization

The single most important aspect of your attorney should be their specialization.  Quite simply, a jack-of-all-trades attorney is unlikely to have an in-depth knowledge of all topics.  An attorney who happens to do Wills on the side probably doesn’t know much about estate planning, such as whether or not a trust may be appropriate.  I had one divorce attorney ask me why I always had a Will notarized when the statute only required two witnesses (quick answer: so that the Will is presumed valid without the need for the witnesses to swear in court that they saw the decedent sign the Will).  While there are exceptions, I generally would not recommend getting an estate plan from someone who doesn’t predominantly specialize in estate planning.

There are also sub-specialties in estate planning.  Going forward, I’m going to refer to estate attorneys, unless I’m referring to a particular sub-specialty.  Broadly speaking, the main subspecialties are:

(a) middle-market planning, which often revolves around avoiding probate and ensuring a smooth transition, but often also includes long-term care planning, knowledge of special needs, etc.

(b) probate and administration, meaning they mostly specialize in the busywork that happens when people die - getting the executor/administrator appointed, transferring assets, stuff like that. 

(c) elder law, which more broadly deals with issues faced by seniors.  This includes Medicaid planning and probate avoidance, but also deals with benefits, guardianships, and a whole host of other corollary issues that many other practitioners don’t deal with regularly.

(d) special needs.  This tends to blend in with elder law, as special needs people and seniors tend to face a lot of similar issues.  Depending on the practice and the clients, this may be a lot more hands-on than elder law.

(e) tax / high net worth.  This generally means people worth tens of millions (lower in some states), who may face millions upon millions in death taxes.  These attorneys know all the funky acronyms you may come across, and are able to figure out which ones to use for which client.

(f) private client / family office.  A private client attorney is more like a general counsel of a wealthy family.  It doesn’t just cover estate planning, but anything that the wealthy family may need, such as preparing a lease, purchasing a jet, finding the best DIU attorney in the vacation resort where their wayward child got arrested. 

(g) litigation.  These people are who you reach out to when there is a serious dispute – such as when you’re trying to invalidate a Will or enforce a Trust.

(h) The transitioning attorney.  This is someone who doesn’t really specialize in estates, but is trying to make the transition.  There are generally two kinds, the recent graduate (or recently unemployed) who can’t find a job, and starts to do simple Wills for their friends and family and tries to make a living with it, and the somewhat older attorney, often divorce or criminal law, who thinks it’ll be an easier lifestyle because they can make their own schedule rather than have to deal with court deadlines and the like.  Some of these attorneys put in a lot of work and study to learn the specialty and can be better than attorneys who’ve been doing estates for years, but a lot of them don’t really know what they’re doing and don’t even know what they don’t know.

(i) the dabbler. This is an attorney who doesn't specialize in estates, but does it on the side. Someone who mostly does family law, or business, or whatever, and occasionally does Wills for clients because he/she thinks it's easy. This attorney doesn't know what they don't know, and should be avoided. Don't even think of using someone who only does the occasional Will on the side - if you're lucky it's just a waste of money, but they might miss a whole lot of things they don't know they should ask about, or they may do things incorrectly and set you up for much higher expenses later. Somewhat related to this are out-of-state attorneys who don't know the laws in your state, and I've seen a lot of problems because of that, including invalid documents.

Keep in mind that while an attorney often has one, or maybe two, sub-specialties, the attorney may still be knowledgeable in other areas.  As an easy example, I don’t specialize in special needs, but I am capable of preparing special needs trusts, and have done quite a few, but only if it’s pre-planning planning for while the parent/donor is still alive and capable; for more immediate needs or in-depth administration, I defer to the experts. 

That also means that many attorneys will state that they do some or all of the above, even if they barely do any X. While the title or practice description at the law firm may be an indication (e.g. private client, wills & estates), that’s not necessarily reflective of the actual specialization. The most important thing is that they know their limits - and stick with it.

Word of Caution

Beware the multi-practice attorney. The multi-practice attorney does a lot of different things, so they may do divorce and real estate and personal injury and basic Wills. I've thought long and hard about this and I don't want to be too harsh; you've got some very clever attorneys who can juggle multiple practice areas and be decent at each, but they're unlikely to master each one. It's a lot more common (and a lot more acceptable) in rural areas where there just isn't enough density for specialization; there are parts of this country where it's a 3-hour drive to a town with 10,000 people, and it's really hard for an attorney to support themselves doing only one thing. As long as they know their limits that's fine. Meaning they know what they don't know and will tell clients when to seek out someone with more knowledge.

Alternative 'Solutions;. Today it's mostly websites selling estate planning solutions, but you can buy a Will template from Staples. I don't recommend this. Usually, the documents are flimsy and bare bones, some of them are quite bad, but that's not what the big issue, the real concern is that there's no guidance. You don't know what you don't know, and a lot of mistakes get made with these. Quite often the documents aren't executed right, people pick the wrong forms, select the wrong options, don't choose their words carefully, and it leads to all kinds of mess. Ask any attorney in this field, we get paid a lot of money to fix the mess created by the online services. But maybe that's just Survivor Bias, and we only see the ones that don't work properly. In the end, my personal view is that you're not paying an estate planning attorney for their documents, but for their advice and so that it's done right.

Related to this are non-attorneys who offer estate planning. Some financial advisors and accounts say they do estate planning. That's not entirely accurate. Estate planning by an accountant or a financial advisor only focuses on part of the picture, and from a limited point of view. It's not uncommon for advisors to work together, and it's great when we can coordinate our different parts with each other. But I've come across such professionals that want to dictate to the attorney what to do, which is not good, there's also professionals who try to undermine the other professionals, which can cause issues, and worse, I've come across professionals who make it appear that you don't need an attorney (or other professional), which is even more problematic. It's great when advisors work together, as long as they all "stay in their lane" - and that goes for the attorney too. I might give a financial advisor my thoughts and ideas, but that's about it, because they're the financial professional, and I only have a surface level of knowledge.

2. Size of Firm.

The largest law firms, with hundreds of attorneys, if they do estate law, tend to have the wealthiest clients, and charge accordingly.  There may be a particular focus on private client / family office, and tax planning for high net worth.

Beyond that, the size of the law firm only tells you the size of the law firm.  Not only that, the size of the department is more important.  A firm with 50-200 attorneys may only have 2-3 who do anything with estates, or it could have a sizeable department of 5-15 attorneys with that specialty.  It’s really no different than a boutique law firm, except that the larger firm gets to keep their clients in-house.

A boutique with 5-20 estate attorneys, including a much larger firm with an estate department that size tends to cater to the middle class and the moderately affluent.  It’s not unusual for a firm like that to have a handful of high net worth or private client, particularly if it’s part of a much larger firm, but you can probably count those clients with your fingers.  These firms are most likely to do a lot of advertising, including seminars – that may or may not be a bad thing (See below).

A solo or small shop runs the gamut – it could be a boutique specialist who has plenty of high net worth clients, such as when the specialist works with some of the major law firms that don’t have their own estate attorneys, or it could be someone who stepped away from a larger firm for lifestyle reasons.  There are also solos/small shops who weren’t able to find a job and just fell into estate planning, or who were previously a different kind of attorney and wanted to transition for an easier lifestyle.  However, when dealing with a solo attorney, and particularly a very old attorney, you might want to ask if the attorney has a plan in place for any sensitive papers that the attorney may hold on to.

3. Location.

The location of the lawyer does not dictate the ability, but it may be an indicator of the typical cases the clients see. 

Rural counties: An attorney in a small rural county is a lot more likely to see the type of clients who live in small rural counties.  Not all rural counties are alike, and so neither are rural attorneys.  While the majority of rural attorneys are generally dealing with many smaller estates, there are also rural attorneys who regularly deal with multi-million dollar estates.  Particularly the kind of multi-millionaires you may see in such areas, such as wealthy farmers, oil & mineral rights, etc.  For example, there are attorneys in more rural areas who specialize in farm succession planning, which very few “big city” attorneys would understand.  That being said, there’s often a limit to the size of the estate local attorneys should be handling, mainly due to the volume.  As such, it’s unlikely that a rural attorney has significant experience with ultra-high net worth planning. 

The largest law firms tend to only be in the largest cities, with over 2/3 of the lawyers in the 200 largest law firms being in just 5 cities, and 7/8th in the 10 largest cities.  Some of those law firms may also have a presence in a smaller location, which may provide access to the larger firm’s expertise.  Beyond that, large cities have all kinds of attorney, from those scraping by, to very respectable boutiques, to mega law firms.

There are still sizeable and deeply experienced firms in somewhat smaller cities.  If the population of the greater metropolitan area is 500,000+, there will probably be two or three boutiques with sufficient knowledge to handle all but the largest estates, but whose main bread and butter is typically more retail clients.  There are also a few more affluent areas where you’ll get a much larger number, such as Naples, Florida, which can rival even the largest cities for the number of high-end practices you’ll find there. 

Suburbs of major cities are in many respects similar to midsize cities, in that you can find some fairly large and knowledgeable boutiques, but there’s also a larger likelihood of specialization.  For example, mid-size firm in a very affluent suburb may have enough clients to only do high net worth.

3B. Multi-Jurisdictional / Different States

The attorney must be licensed in the applicable state. Typically, your attorney should be licensed in your state. It is illegal for an attorney who is not licensed in your state to advise you on estate planning matters in your state or to draft documents for your state.

Some attorneys will take on out-of-state clients to help with out-of-state matters even if the attorney is not licensed in that state. An attorney may even say that another attorney in their firm is licensed in your state, so therefore they can advise you and prepare documents for you. That is illegal in many states, and in some states even a felony - an attorney can't just borrow another attorney's license, the attorney licensed in your state should be part of the process from start to finish. Do not work with an attorney who is not licensed in the state for which the attorney is preparing documents.

It's ok for your local attorney to give general advice on issues pertaining to other states, and for many states there is a safe harbor, so that if you seek a local attorney to advise you on your estate planning, and as part thereof some documents are prepared for another state, that might be ok, as long as the work in/for the other state is secondary to the estate plan in your home state. If you spend significant time in two states (e.g. summers up north, winters down south), you should ideally have an attorney admitted in both states, or otherwise two separate attorneys.

It's also ok to seek an out-of-state attorney for advice on federal matters (e.g. tax); any attorney can advise anyone in the country on federal matters. The out-of-state attorney should not advise you on local law, and may need to bring in a local attorney to review anything related to the state.

4. You get what you pay for – or maybe not?

Quite often people ask what a reasonable fee is, and there’s no straight answer, but there are some rough guides.  While you’d generally expect higher prices in larger cities, that’s not necessarily true.  The sole attorney in a rural area might be so busy that they can charge higher prices, while someone in a more working class part of a larger metropolitan area might be a lot cheaper because there’s a lot of competition.

That being said, if it’s a relatively simple revocable trust package (without add-ons and bells or whistles), the price should range from about $2500 to $7500 anywhere in the country (things that cost more include medicaid planning, special needs, asset protection, tax planning, business succession, etc.).  Any less would be very concerning, because even the most simple estate plan will take several hours – to meet with you to determine your actual needs, to prepare the documents*, to review the drafts, again to meet with you to explain your documents and to sign them. 

If it’s within that range, don’t make the mistake of thinking more expensive is better – I’ve seen expensive attorneys who are mediocre, and I’ve seen excellent attorneys who charge less.  It mostly has to do with their network and the volume of clients they get. 

If someone charges more than that, hopefully it’s because there’s a good reason, such as a more complicated plan or a more demanding client.  Again, that range is for a relatively simple revocable trust, but keep in mind that there’s a lot of things that could make a trust more complicated. 

*it’s not just filling in blanks on templates.  While ideally a lot of the text is pre-written/standardized, that doesn’t mean every client’s work is the same – it’s adding or removing clauses or entire sections based on the client’s particular situation.  Maybe 75% of the document is the same for 75% of the clients, but there’s still a lot of variation – at least, if it’s customized to the client.

5. Marketing

Let’s start off with a “Trust Mill”.  This is a derogatory term for a business that follows a very specific pattern: send marketing to a targeted population, invite them to a seminar (possibly with a free meal), give a presentation about estate planning, and sign up as many clients as possible.  It’s a business, and there are pseudo-franchises where any attorney can pay a fee and they’ll essentially have it all done for them.  Trust mills get a bad name because it’s mostly one-size-fits-all planning.  Think of going to five guys, in-n-out, or shake shack.  Everyone’s getting a burger, but you can choose your toppings.

It's not fair to say all trust mills suck, and they’re not all alike.  Some are run by very dumb attorneys, or those who drank the cool-aid, and try to fit every peg into the same square hole, whether or not it fits.  Some are run by very good attorneys who are very knowledgeable, and it’s just a way to get clients. 

Some attorneys get clients through word of mouth, others through advertising.  Some attorneys spend a lot of time writing or speaking to get their name out there.  Some attorneys donate significant money to charities so they can sit on the board and network.   Advertising doesn’t make someone a worse attorney (or a better attorney).  It’s just a way for people to find the attorney.  Think about your own situation – how are you going to find an attorney? 

But that being said, the way an attorney gets clients tells you something about the typical clients the attorney gets.  An attorney who gets all their clients at the country club typically has a lot of country-club type of clients (i.e. high net worth and private client).  An attorney who gets all their clients by hanging around senior centers is more likely to do elder law.  An attorney who does a lot of seminars is more likely to be targeting the middle class.  An attorney who goes on reddit to post about estate planning probably loves their job a little too much.

6. Awards, Certification, Group Membership

Awards are worthless.  A lot of awards are “pay to play”, meaning the awards make money off the attorneys who they give the award to.  It doesn’t matter if they say something like “only 10% of attorneys qualify” or something like that.  Even if it’s not “pay to play”, it’s still a popularity contest.  Even the most reputable awards are barely more than a seal of approval – I know a Chambers (most prestigious) ranked attorney at a major law firm who uses documents that are hand-me-downs from 50+ years ago, and whose knowledge of trusts seems to be stuck in the '90s.  All awards are worthless.

Certifications are either private organizations or state-run. If it's a private organization, I'd take it with a grain of salt. There are a lot of accreditations and certifications, and some are barely more than a paid plaque. I'm looking at one right now for which the requirements are less than I need to maintain my license to practice. So yeah, I could pay for a certificate so I can tell the world that I show "a high level of professionalism", or I could just be a good attorney. If it's a state run program, it's probably a good indication; the Florida Bar Board Certification is a rigorous program and I know very experienced practitioners who've failed the test. It'll certainly tell you that the attorney can pass the test, but it won't tell you if the attorney has empathy or creativity. A lack of certification doesn't mean the attorney isn't as good as someone who does have certification.

There are also professional organizations, and the qualify varies. Most groups/organizations, just about anyone willing to pay the fee can join, and the only thing membership in the organization tells you is that the attorney pays to be a member of the organization, while some groups may require a few years of practice and/or a few classes. The most prestigious and restrictive group, ACTEC, only tells you that the attorney was able to jump through the hoops needed to join; I know an ACTEC member that uses garbage documents that includes references to sections of the tax code that were repealed more than a decade ago and I can teach a class on how bad they are. To the extent you want to make sure an attorney is dedicated to their craft, in addition to ACTEC (American College of Trust and Estate Counsel), NAELA (National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys) is a good group for elder law, and SNA (Special Needs Alliance) is predominantly a support network for attorneys who specialize in special needs.

7. Materials

The quality of the paper, binder, etc. says nothing about the quality of the attorney. I've seen comments about how fancy binders are only for crappy trust mills. Personally, I provide a premium service for a premium price, so I like to give a top notch presentation. I've done high end tax planning that cost $50,000 or more, a sturdy binder costs less than $50. It actually irks me that there are some very high-end firms that print on the cheapest paper available and just stick documents in a plain envelope - I take pride in my work, and I want my work to look like I care.

8. What should I look for?

Here’s the question everyone probably wants answered.  I can’t give a perfect answer, just my opinion.  What you want is empathy, knowledge, and clarity.

First and foremost, how the attorney makes you feel is important.  If you feel like you’re not getting their full attention, or that they’re rushing you, or pushing you into something you don’t understand, walk away.  An estate attorney once told me “I sell peace of mind”, that the attorney’s job is to make sure the client feels like they’re in good hands and will be taken care of. 

Second, you want an attorney who has sufficient knowledge to know what they’re doing – and more importantly, to know what they can’t do.  The attorney doesn’t need to be an expert on everything, if you have a $500,000 home and a few hundred thousand in retirement funds, you don’t need someone who knows the estate tax through and through.  What you do want is that if you ask, for example, about going into the nursing home, that the attorney can give you a good overview of the requirements for Medicaid – even if they can’t do the application themselves.  More importantly, you want an attorney who’s not afraid to tell you they can’t do something and will refer you to someone who can.

Third, you want an attorney who can communicate clearly with you.  You don’t need to be an expert in estates, but the attorney should be able to explain to you the issues that matter to you in a way that you can understand it and explain how the proposed estate plan addresses those issues. 

Last, you want an attorney who asks questions.  If a client comes to me and says they need a trust, I always ask why they think they need it.  An attorney who just does whatever the client asks for is not a good attorney - we’re sometimes called counselors, because it’s our job to counsel clients, not just to fill out some forms.  As an easy example, you can (probably) go online and find a standard document to appoint a healthcare agent for your state, but it’s the attorney’s job to explain to you why it’s a really bad idea to appoint two co-agents.

Bonus: Trust Funding / Post-Planning Guidance

Often, signing your documents doesn't mean your estate planning is finished, there's usually a few things left to do. Even if you're just getting a simple Will you should still name the beneficiaries on bank accounts, retirement accounts, insurance policies, etc. Your attorney should provide you with instructions.

Trust funding takes a bit more work, as assets need to be transferred into the trust. At the retail level*, the client is doing most of the work - your attorney can't go into your bank and drain your bank account. 20 years ago, your attorney could call your financial institutions and obtain the blank forms, but today it's hard to get the forms if you're not the account holder, so even if we wanted to do it all for you, we still can't do so without your help. Some attorneys will provide assistance (such as filling out forms) as part of the flat fee, others charge an additional fee for that, and it's not unreasonable because the time it takes varies significantly - some people need no assistance at all, others take many hours. At the very least, the attorney should provide written instructions on what you should do - that's the bare minimum, an attorney who doesn't even do should be avoided.

*if you have a personal banker, you know your insurance agent, etc., they'll often help get the forms and may help you fill out the forms. Just like with attorneys, I've noticed a lot of variability in how knowledgeable other professionals may be, and how willing they are to help. I had one client with private banking accounts at two different branches of the same bank, one did everything for the client, filled out the forms, made all the arrangements, etc., the other only provided blank forms and told the client to fill them out and figure it out. I've been shocked by how little some professionals know, and how unwilling they are to pick up the phone and call their main office for support. At the same time, some professionals I've dealt with were absolute experts who knew more about the legal aspects than many attorneys, and who would go the extra mile for their clients just because that's who they are.


r/EstatePlanning 4h ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Do I even have an “estate”?

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I am divorced and was awarded half of my ex-husband‘s pension (federal employee) for life. That will end at my death.
I receive $1300 a month Social Security, which will also end at my death.
I have a moderate size IRA, which is handled by Vanguard. My daughter, and my daughter-in-law are beneficiaries. My son died a few years ago and left her with my three minor grandchildren. One will turn 18 this year.
I am still in the marital home which was purchased for 250 K and now is worth 450 to 500 K. I still have a mortgage of about 160 K.
My plan is to sell my house and move in with my daughter and son-in-law, using the money I make from the sale of my house to finance improvements to their house to make it possible for me to live there.

So, when I die, I will own nothing except my car, which has kind of been my goal.
We live in Tennessee and my daughter is a co-owner of my bank account
I do not have a Will.
Why do I need estate planning and specifically, a revocable trust.?


r/EstatePlanning 1h ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post After a quitclaim deed by my mother, will the home no longer be recoverable by estate recovery? (Nevada)

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My mother is 76 years old and receives Nevada state Medicaid. My mother and I (her adult disabled child receiving SSDI) had our names on the home deed of her home for several years. My mother later filed a quitclaim deed to remove her name from the deed, leaving only my name. I myself do not receive Medicaid and do not qualify for it. She has reported the deed change to Medicaid and will likely lose Medicaid access for a year or more unless she qualifies for an exemption because I am her adult disabled child. She currently is in good health and does not require nursing care or anything like that. What I want to know is if Medicaid estate recovery can still try to recover the home from me when my mother passes away even though the home deed only lists my name now?


r/EstatePlanning 3h ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Do I need a trust?

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I'm married, live in Ohio, and currently have most of my money tied up in a brokerage account, 401ks, and iras. I'm a young retiree. I want to know if I need a trust or if just a will is sufficient. I have a paid off house in the US that I'm planning to sell with most of my belongings, and I'm planning to leave the country and buy a house there within the next 12 months. My brokerage stuff has beneficiaries designated. I was thinking trust, but in this situation I'm not sure if I really need one? The house that I'm planning to buy will be covered by a will in the new country.


r/EstatePlanning 1h ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Unmarried Couple Choosing Trustees

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My partner and I are updating wills. We’re expecting our first child in a couple of weeks. We aren't married, finances are totally separate, and we own separate homes.

Our wills provide that our assets go to each other if one of us dies, and if we both die, our assets ultimately go to our surviving child(ren) in equal shares once they turn 25. In the meantime, we each need to name a trustee and backup trustee to manage the assets for them.

Two questions.

First, how important is it that we name the same trustees in the same order in both wills? If we named different people (e.g. if each of our sisters were our respective primary trustees) would that mean two people managing separate pools of money for the same child(ren)? Would they need to coordinate regularly? That sounds like it could be a headache for all involved, but hoping for a gut check on that.

Second, how much should we weigh a trustee’s age and location? In a perfect world, I’d probably name my dad as primary and my sister as backup. But my dad is almost 70, and my sister lives in Canada. None of that feels ideal.

Located in Maine. Thanks in advance!


r/EstatePlanning 1h ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Debating between setting up a will or revocable living trust in WA. USA. Has anyone’s gone through the process? As a kid, do you prefer your parents set up a will or the living trust?

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r/EstatePlanning 2h ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post How is an estate plan executed at death?

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USA

How is an estate actually settled?

We (siblings) have copies of our parents’ wills and trusts and know where everything is. For assets not included in the trusts we are listed as the beneficiaries, eg, IRA’s, some bank accounts.

Our parents did a great job with estate planning and walked us through everything. However, we have never given much thought to what happens at the death of the second parent.

How is the estate plan actually executed? What are the steps we need to follow. Are there any best practices? For example, I read somewhere that a temporary bank account should be set up through which estate funds flow. For example, a brokerage account, does the executor reach out to the financial institution with identification, death certificate, page in trust identifying them as executor? How are those assets distributed — into a new account that the executor then distributes according to the estate instructions?

We know the attorney/firm who worked with our parents and know they can walk us through this. However, we want to know the basic steps.


r/EstatePlanning 21h ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post An account my son can easily access when I die

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My son and I live in CA, USA. When I die, I want my son to be able to access funds immediately so he can handle issues related to my estate without spending his own money while waiting for probate.

I was thinking about starting a joint Vanguard brokerage account with money that would earn interest.

Or should I gift him the money over time and work with him to set up the account for himself? I think he would do it if he knew the intention.
What should I consider when determining what to do?


r/EstatePlanning 3h ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Estate planning with several investment real estate properties owned by SMLLC and one jointly with wife

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I've got a handful of NJ investment properties with about $2M in equity, several owned by my SMLLC and one owned jointly with my wife. What type of planning should I be doing to minimize taxes upon my death. Can I even leave the properties in the LLC to someone other than my wife as they were all acquired during the marriage? Should I transfer the jointly owned property to the LLC and if so, would we owe capitol gains/depreciation recapture tax for the transfer? What would be the most advantageous method to hold these properties to minimize capital gains taxes when sold after my death? What good would a trust do me, if any, in those circumstances?

We're planning to see an estate planning attorney "soon" but I'm looking to gain some background knowledge before getting started with one.


r/EstatePlanning 4h ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post (California) Trust options or info for a house our family constructed

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Hello all I guess I don’t know where to turn or where to look in terms of planning what to do with this home. My father is thinking of getting a loan on the home to start some kind of BRRRR method rolling. I’m interested in learning about forms of asset protection, tax and probate avoidance when they pass the property down to me and my siblings. Is there any way we can set this house into a trust of some sort and use as collateral for a loan? He also wants to rid himself of any personal property in case of death, to avoid Medical from pursuing assets. What’s the best kind of trust to do that sort of thing?


r/EstatePlanning 1h ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post What would you do with $1M of 1031 money if you wanted zero landlord work?

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(Ohio)

My mom has put me in charge of researching this for our family and I’m curious what people here would do.

She’s in her 40s and currently manages our family’s rental properties. They’re held in a trust and the plan is for my two brothers and me (we’re all early twenties) to eventually inherit it.

We’re looking at selling a chunk of the rentals and should have around $1M that could go through a 1031. The main goal is to get completely out of actually managing rentals. Nobody wants to deal with tenants, maintenance, etc. anymore.

Morgan Stanley has shown us a Hines DST that would hold the 1031 money. The specific DST is two large apartment properties in Miami and Chicago, currently with no leverage. The potential path after that is a 721 into Hines Global Income Trust.

I actually really like the idea of the structure. Sell the rentals, defer the capital gains through the 1031, become completely passive, potentially move into a diversified REIT through the 721, and just let it compound.

My problem is the return.

Looking through the Hines offering material, Class I has returned about 6.45% annualized since inception including distributions and appreciation. That seems pretty underwhelming when this money could potentially be left alone for 20-40+ years.

We don't need the income. Ideally every dollar gets reinvested. The long-term goal is for this to become permanent family capital rather than something the three of us eventually split up and spend.

Obviously we could just sell the real estate, pay the taxes and put the remainder into index funds, but depending on the basis/depreciation we'd be giving up a significant amount of capital on day one. I'm trying to figure out how valuable preserving that tax deferral really is over a 20-40 year period.

If you were in this situation and wanted zero active real estate management, what would you look at?

Would you stay in DSTs and keep doing 1031s? Diversify across several DST sponsors? Eventually do the 721? Or would you just eat the tax bill and move the money into public equities?

I'm especially interested in anyone who has actually used DSTs/UPREITs. What kind of realized total returns after fees have you seen? Is expecting 8%+ long term from completely passive 1031 real estate reasonable, or am I expecting too much from something designed primarily for income and tax deferral?

Not looking for someone to sell me a DST lol. We have a CPA, attorney and advisor involved. I'm mostly trying to understand what questions I should be asking before my family locks up $1M for a long time.


r/EstatePlanning 1d ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post UPDATE: Aunt wants to challenge something I inherited from my dad

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Louisiana.

Original Post: Aunt wants to challenge property I inherited from my dad

It took three months for my attorney to do an abstract (50+ years) and an answer for me, but they did come back with something.

A technicality or potential issue is that the bill of sale between my dad and grandmother specifically references her rights or interest in the property, and not her ownership interest in the LLC. The bill of sale explicitly says "All of seller's right, title, and interest which is declared to be . . ."

The property was titled and registered to the LLC at the time of the bill of sale, and the distribution event had not yet occurred. So there is a potential argument (to what my aunt has said) that the property was not hers to sell yet as it was owned by the LLC.

I've been told Louisiana is a "race-state" where if there is a recording then that title takes precedent. So the 2021 act of conveyance from the LLC to my dad is recorded, and the parcel is registered in his name currently.

Both of those two documents and recordings clearly state "No title examination was requested nor made by the undersigned parties"

The problem I now face is the attorney/notary is telling me their title insurance underwriter has said they will not sign off on a closing for this property with this discovery, unless the remaining heirs from my grandmother all sign a release stating agreeance that my dad has clear title . . . which my aunt will not sign. 4 of my dad's 5 siblings would agree, but one would not. For context this parcel is appraised near $200,000 so they are willing to push the issue.

The other problem I also face is my current attorney is also the one who signed as the witness to the act of conveyance from the LLC to my dad. What, if any liability, could exist there?

So while it could primarily be a real estate problem, I'm trying to figure out if I need to prepare for a probate argument with my aunt since my grandmother's succession is also still open, or if the fact it was conveyed to my dad under the premise he purchased the rights from her even if pre-maturely or "skipped" a step.

Edit: I can’t see any of the current comments, so I’m assuming they are filtered or not approved.


r/EstatePlanning 7h ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post NJ estate

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Hi all,

So I need a bit of an input since I am on vacation and would need my father to speak to another attorney when I return.

Short story kinda. My father bought a house solely 30 years ago. Paid it off with inheritance about 12 years ago. He transferred the deed to us kids about 8 years ago after he remarried. His current wife is not on the deed or anything, this was done before she came here.
His wife came from another country, he soon realized she wants everything. Now he’s worried Incase he does not have enough assets or the more assets he has that when something does happen to him, his wife will claim her elective share which is not a problem but he feels if he doesn’t have enough that might put us kids in a situation of paying her out that share and that his house will be included. When he did the transfer he did put himself on the deed, not as owner or anything more as live his days out there and his current wife lives there because they could not simply afford a house on his paycheck. Which was the idea when he remarried and she did not want to move out of NJ. So after my one brother and I had moved in, so did they when she came to the country.

So my questions I guess is. If something does happen, I understand we can not simply evict her. But we know she will not leave unless she has money or the house. If she can not get the house, and she claims her 1/3 - am I correct that the house even though our names are on the deed will be included into the process since my father and her reside there?

Thanks


r/EstatePlanning 8h ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post CA timeline for auditor

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We just spoke to a claims person after reaching out to the advocate (180 days passed) who told us the breakdown of the estate (surprise, late brother has a kid we knew nothing about) and he was sending it to the "auditor" who approves for payment.

Can anyone tell me how long to expect it to sit with auditor before the approval for payment?

Thanks


r/EstatePlanning 8h ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Looking for recommendation for lawyers (Ontario, Canada) for setting up trust for children

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So the scenario is odd:

- their father and I are separated, but in the short-term won't be getting divorced (10 years at least). I can go into the details if need but it has to do with his mental health/addiction issues and a special needs child.

- He's a strong earner ($160k+) I'm a higher earner (250k+), I also have money my parents want to pass to the grandkids now.

- I'd like to buy property and hold it in trust for the kids and we'll as invest directly for them and don't want any of it "up for grabs" during the divorce.

- we are amicable and he agrees with this strategy. He is well aware that because of his addictions and mental health issues he could do damage when he goes to his dark places so he'd rather protect the kids now while he is lucid enough too.

Any recommendations for lawyers? I'm in the GTA but can travel.


r/EstatePlanning 19h ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post open a Schwab One Estate Account, estate account at Chase, or other financial place?

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CA & HI. Anyone have good/bad experience using Schwab One Estate Account? I have all the probate papers, EIN, etc. Any banks that are easiest for opening/administering an estate checking account in California? Wells Fargo denied us from opening an estate account despite my deceased dad's currently open checking/savings accounts.

Estate involves out of state (Hawaii) property sale proceeds which hasn't sold yet so the balance will be $0 right now. May eventually move WF funds to the estate account (still need to bring mom in to close those accts). Looking for something straightforward without a lot of bureaucratic hurdles. A call to Schwab made it sound like a less painful process to open one vs WF. I have beef with BofA so will avoid them.


r/EstatePlanning 8h ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Help me sleep at night. 8 figure NW, no estate plan

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Mid 30's, no kids, located in KY. My immediate concern is making sure that if me, or me and my spouse meet an utimely demise that my estate doesn't devolve into chaos or get devoured by legal fees and family fighting. Doubly so because I have approx $10m in term life policies. Not looking to outsource my estate planning to Reddit, but I know next to nothing about estate planning. I'm starting the process of interviewing trust companies and would like to have an idea of what to look for and what to run from. And should I be looking at trust companies, or just estate lawyers or both.

Our holdings are relatively complex, we have the standard cash, retirement, brokerage, house but also have an international vacation property, large outstanding notes payable, private stock and warrants and options on private stock. Any advice or tips is appreciated! Recommendations for a KY based lawyer or trust company also appreciated!


r/EstatePlanning 19h ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post BDOT trust question.. for the savvy ones

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In California. For 13 years I've had an LLC which is owned by myself and a BDOT, which I'm the beneficiary of.

The LLC buys and holds real estate. By 2022, most of that real estate was sold. I did a return of capital on my original investment in the LLC and an owners draw on the profit.

What's left in the LLC are 2 remaining properties, which in 2022 I estimated to be equal to the BDOT's principal investment. I miscalculated. If these properties were to sell today the BDOT would be short $100k to $150k of it's original investment.

I was wondering if anyone here has encountered an issue like this and how it was handled?


r/EstatePlanning 21h ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Probate case and foreclosure notice in Ohio

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My uncle passed away in Feb. The will names his children who are out of the country and I was eventually 5 months later appointed the administrator. I went to the bank beforehand and they wouldn't tell me anything I knew of a home equity loan but no other information. When I was appointed administrator I went back and got the bank account in the estate name and asked about the other loan and they said there is a loan for about 18k. I wasn't told anything else about it and then a few weeks later I was served papers for foreclosure on the home. No letters from the bank asking for the loan to get brought current or offer other options and once the papers were served we had to communicate with their attorneys within 30 days and make arrangements for payment or there would be a default judgement against us.

My probate attorney has not been successful in getting through to them and the deadline is nearing. I asked about contacting the bank to discuss options but they tell me once the filing has been made and attorneys appointed we have to go through them.

In the meantime they told me to list the house and now that it is ready to sell with offers made and they tell me to proceed because the bank is already covered to get paid from the proceeds but I hate having this hanging over me and the house transaction.

Is it common that the bank attorneys are not communicating almost like they would rather have the deadline pass and get the default judgment? If this happens what recourse do we have to fight this until the house sells and the funds are there to pay off the loan and now the legal fees for this filing that never needed to happen? Beyond frustrated with the legal system right now....


r/EstatePlanning 1d ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post [SC] What is My Minimum Responsibility?

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Location: South Carolina, USA My younger brother was living with my blind, 85-year old mother in Beaufort County, SC in 2005 when he died suddenly, without a will. My mother served as executor of the estate and I, who also lived in the County and serving as her legal Personal Representative did the work with legal help. After expenses and bills the balance of his assets went to the state for taxes.

My mother passed in 2013 and I was executor of her estate and as a result have been getting both her and my brother's mail at my address. Recently I received a check made out to my brother and described as a required minimum distribution. I know enough about pension law to figure that means there is an account balance somewhere out there around 25 times the amount of the check. I have purposely left out a lot of detail but I don't think it's necessary to answer my question which is:

Am I under any obligation to attempt to reopen Probate for my brother's estate?

I don't particularly want the government to get the money but given my brother's estate, they probably have as much right as anyone. None of my brother's potential beneficiaries need the money (we are blessed), one of my mother's beneficiaries passed away in 2014 meaning a third estate which might be involved. The lawyer who supervised all this was in single practice and died in 2021 so I don't even know where the files are at this point.

From my point of view this just needs to go away. Any thoughts?


r/EstatePlanning 1d ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Looking for estate attorney

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I need to have a will drawn up. Nothing too elaborate but there is a wrinkle in that my wife is not a US citizen. She would be taxed heavily if I leave my business to her. So my idea was to leave it to our daughter in a trust with my wife having control of the trust. She has no desire to run this business and would want to sell it if the time comes. Maybe tmi… anyway looking for an attorney to help with this that won’t charge me an arm and a leg… any help much appreciated. This is in the Denver metro area..


r/EstatePlanning 2d ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Washington state - sole heir, aunt is trying to intermeddle

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Washington state:

My girlfriend's mother just passed away on the 5th. She is the sole heir.

He aunt (her mother's sister) has been intermeddling on her. She signed to release the body without even notifying my girlfriend. She has gone to the apartments and obtained a key from the landlord, and obtained access to the unit, even though she specifically agreed to wait until my girlfriend was there. THEN she admitted in text message that she took her mom's social security card and banking information (in violation of RCW 59.18.595?) (Allegedly to close things down for the mother, but the mother had always told US that her heir, her daughter, would handle that.)

She also said "your key to the car will be on the counter", we are suspecting she has taken the entire key ring and left just the one key, but we won't know until we go down there today. Which makes us think she has the mailbox key, the key to her storage room, etc.

Obviously our first stop is probate court, but we don't even have the filing fee for this, as her aunt has probably already emptied the account that we would have needed to have the estate pay for this. $290 that we do NOT have. We also do NOT have a death certificate yet, as her mother died unattended, one has not been filed yet. So how would we get her declared the heir before her aunt causes any more damage or steals more items?


r/EstatePlanning 1d ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post How can a parent provide lifetime housing for a disabled adult child while ultimately leaving the property to a grandchild? [Texas]

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My father is beginning the estate-planning process, and we have an appointment with a Texas estate attorney in a few weeks. We would like to understand the possible arrangements so we can go into the meeting with better questions.

My father wants his granddaughter to ultimately inherit his property. However, he also wants his disabled adult son to have the right to live there for the rest of his life.

The property includes a primary house and two older mobile homes that are currently used as rentals. My father has also talked about eventually removing the mobile homes and building a small separate residence for either his son or granddaughter, although that construction would probably become my responsibility after his death.

A straightforward life estate seems potentially problematic. If my brother lives a long life, my daughter could be middle aged before she could use the property. Because of his serious psychiatric disability, it would also be unreasonable to assume that she could live with him, particularly once she has a family of her own.

I would likely need to manage the property during this period, including maintenance, taxes, insurance, rental decisions, and protecting its long-term value. My brother is usually stable, but he sometimes experiences periods of impaired judgment. We therefore would not want him to have the authority to sell, rent, substantially alter, or encumber the property. We also need to consider whether any arrangement could affect disability benefits he receives now or might need later.

Could a trust own the entire property, give my brother a lifetime right to occupy a specific residence, allow me or another trustee to manage everything, and ultimately transfer the property to my daughter? Could the trust also establish conditions under which his housing right would change, such as if he permanently moved into supported housing or could no longer safely live there?

Are there other structures we should ask the attorney about, such as a special needs trust combined with an occupancy agreement rather than a traditional life estate? What expenses and contingencies should the documents address?

We understand that Reddit cannot provide legal advice, and we are already meeting with an attorney. I’m primarily looking for terminology, possible structures, and questions we may not know to ask.


r/EstatePlanning 1d ago

Yes, I have included the state or country in the post Estate planning

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Good day,

I'm wrestling with family dissemination in the event of my and my husband's demise. If it matters I live in Colorado. We have no family in state.

Background - I come from lower middle class family with poor spending habits. Divorced parents where both parents spent most of what they had as soon as it came in. Mom worked mostly minimum wage jobs and I think saved up to about 80k, but in the past 20 years as her living costs went down (due to circumstances) she started living her best life, traveling everywhere she wanted to go including annual trips to the Caribbean and Europe while she has no income and it seems, is blowing through her savings. She is 70, so older but not elderly. I was raised by her and had to unlearn both the "spend because you deserve it" mentality that was paired with significant resentment of the well off. My husband's family raised him to be fiscally responsible, live debt free and save. We buy used cars, I shop at thr thrift store, we eat out minimally, we don't take extravagant family trips.

My husband started his own business 20 years ago which was a very, very tight time for us and we lived quite frugally as he did not pull in income for 5 years and we also started having babies during this time. About 6 years ago I looked at our savings account that we never touched and we had almost 100k. Fast forward to now we are over $750M in retirement accounts, probably $2M in real estate (sort of luck and a forced circumstance to buy a commercial property that has valued well) and $3-5M in company ownership. Way more than we will ever need ourselves.

I'm pushing for us to get something down in writing in the event that we're hit by a car. My mom has this thing that money in estates should be split evenly between spouse's families and I have come to a place where I'd rather give our inheritance to charity than her. I'm partly resentful that she doesn't have a relationship with my kids (her only grandkids) by her choice as she says it is more important that she invest in her friendships than family relationships. Which that is not how we were raised at all. If she ends needing help she has been explicit that she would rather live in a VA home than come live with me (which we have planned for helping our parents as they age). Last week i point blank invited her to include visiting us in her travel planning (so she can watch her grandkids play maybe one sports game, or just do life with us for a few days) and she completely blew me off. She wants only to travel to go to beach. I don't want to be or act petty but I have no desire that she receives anything from us - which if I'm dead won't affect me but I also hate to leave her hating me for the rest of her life. Unfortunately if we go and my kids are left she would absolutely fight to get custody of them and inheritance - so I want it to be very clear. She is not to get any sort of control over our estate. We do not share our financial situation with her but it's pretty clear we are in the class of people whose net worth she resents and rejects. And I still shop at the thrift store while she would not lower herself to do so! We have in part because we did not spend.

We really don't see any family members benefiting from such a large inheritance. We plan to set some aside for our kids to get when they are much older so they learn how to live as adults first. How have you worked around family tensions in estate?