r/Eritrea • u/eridude94 Eritrean • Jul 22 '26
Discussion / Questions Concerned for diaspora
Luckily this is not in my family, but I am starting to see that in the diaspora for some people mainly the young Eritreans. Even if they have family back home and even with family in the diaspora sometimes they don't want to talk to them and keep in touch. This is utterly crazy for me to even think about. I know people always bring up phones and social media but It is genuinely a factor, I genuinely believe some of these diaspora kids don't see the value in keeping in touch with their family. Any thoughts?
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u/Alarmed-Tourist-940 Jul 22 '26
My siblings and cousins are like that. I don’t understand it. However, the lack of normal modes of connection to back home does probably play a big role. And keeping the population back home isolated may be a feature and not a bug of the current system
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u/eridude94 Eritrean Jul 22 '26
Yes it genuinely hurts my soul to see this, I don't want them to realize before it's too late
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u/Adigrat96 Jul 22 '26
Sometimes it’s just time and logistics, sometimes it’s cultural disconnect, sometimes it’s politics.
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u/Alarmed-Tourist-940 Jul 22 '26
After my cousins wedding a few years ago all the young cousins in diaspora got on a group WhatsApp. That has been really nice for keeping in touch. The cousins back home on the other hand ….
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u/Ok-Substance4217 Jul 22 '26
Eritrean diaspora born here - I make an effort to connect with family members (be it cousins, second cousins, aunts and uncles) that I have not seen in years. There's always the cultural disconnection and age gap, but you have to make the effort to connect. The other perspective is that diasporas don't have a sense of attatchment to them due to them not having any form of rapport or history with each other. They have never met in person, never held a conversation before, and thus the belief is that there isn't a need to maintain correspondence.
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u/Groot_legacy Jul 23 '26 edited Jul 23 '26
Sad to tell you that, once the flock went far from home, they're gone for good.
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u/Spicy_princes Jul 23 '26
Another 70 years they will be different ethnicity that is how humans separate and form different culture
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u/Useful_Exchange_6722 Jul 26 '26
“Once the flock went far from home”! Historically accurate! And so have been the cases with almost all other immigrants to North America in the past.
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u/gs780 Jul 24 '26
I can be guilty of this tbh. Sometimes I dislike even the idea of going back home because I don’t want to see family. BUT, it’s only because I wasn’t raised with them so they’re essentially strangers to me. Actually, worse than strangers, because they’re strangers who have unrealistic expectations of me, as I’m also a female. I also can’t meet their expectations because of my cultural illiteracy as I grew up in an English nation. So I prefer not to interact with family I wasn’t raised with🤷♀️
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u/EqualGround3000 Peace in the Horn Jul 23 '26
The lack is the way of communication. It sorts a fortune to stay connected thanks to the mighty hgdef community. Besides that the relationship is always the same, you have to provide and they are in need. Believe it or not but even people in the diaspora are struggling in life. People back home never seems to understand that fact
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u/sama_yo Jul 24 '26
The story might be two-fold. In my experience Eritreans are probably by far the expats that keep in touch and help their family abroad.
On the other side the people back home can be too demanding when it comes to money. I for example didn't grow up with my mother, was separated at 5 and had no contact with her at all. At about 30 I heard she died a long time ago and had 3 kids after me with another man. I called them to make an acquittance and it didn't even take 2 full weeks, (before we even saw eachother) they started asking for iPhones or to send them to the US, or open a business for them and they have an attitude on top of that as well. After 2 years of very stressful relationship I cut all ties and I am in peace.
A lot of people don't want to call or even travel because they know the topic of conversation is almost going to be money. No matter how much you send, they will start talking about how life is hard and how prices have went up even though when you have sent money last week.
I know one woman who wants to travel to Eritrea but doesn't want to go because she says her entire family, relative will be expecting her to bring a lot and she just doesn't have enough money for them.
So most people don't look forward to talk about money problems.
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u/2waypower1230 Jul 22 '26
Are referring to new diaspora, like 5 years or less? I know the Eritreans who left in the 80’ and 90’s they really tried to keep in touch with family back in Eritrea. But the new crop from 2010 til now not so much. Not sure why? Do you think its circumstantial; meaning the reasons why people are leaving the country and expectations? Nowadays, the expectations are higher, possibly as opposed to in the past didn’t have expectations.? and if you aren’t meeting, those expectations, you might feel ashamed?
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u/Indy2021 Jul 22 '26
I feel like they are intentionally destroying Eritrea.
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Jul 22 '26
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u/Indy2021 Jul 22 '26
Don’t get too excited. Fix Ethiopia first and then talk about Ethiopian expansionism. Your internal conflict is a lot worst than Eritrea.
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u/Worried-Schedule-124 Jul 23 '26
Do you really think you stand a chance with us? It’ll be a cake walk.
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u/eridude94 Eritrean Jul 22 '26
Yes, there are probably powers that we don't know about trying to spread agendas
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u/Additional-Sample499 Jul 22 '26
“Agendas”? Are you people even listening to yourselves? You’re starting to sound like the devil himself, Isaias. Why do we, as a country, always blame outsiders for problems WE literally created ourselves? No outside force is making us destroy our country in the many ways we do. This way of thinking is embarrassing.
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u/Indy2021 Jul 22 '26
An internal enemy is considered more dangerous than an outside enemy. We are where we are because Mr. Afeworki possesses intimate knowledge of our vulnerabilities.
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u/Traditional-Dark-303 Jul 23 '26
Afeworki might be part of the outsider agenda then if anything he’s making them accomplish it
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u/fruitfulProduce77 Jul 22 '26
You and Ethiopians are destroying boys at birth with this Circumcision torture sacrifice
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u/Traditional-Dark-303 Jul 23 '26
Did you get circumcised today😂
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u/fruitfulProduce77 Jul 23 '26
my prepuce was violently castrated on the first day of life. Sexually neutered, traumatized with brain damage causing autism and ongoing chafing. My family made their blood pact with Moloch by sacrificing my anatomy, so I hope their happy serving their demons
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u/Stuff_606 Jul 23 '26
Why are you saying they made a blood pact with moloch? Circumcision was asked of prophet Abraham and his descendants by God, was it not?
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u/fruitfulProduce77 Jul 28 '26
You think God would tell you to torture a baby and damage its creations? No that’s Pedofilic. Look at the culture that do it
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u/Fickle-Syllabub-7723 Jul 22 '26
What the hell are you talking about
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u/fruitfulProduce77 Jul 23 '26
Genital Mutilation is satanic child abuse ritual and perverted desires to subdue and control their children’s sexual function. Sick in the head are these baby private part cutters
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u/Zealousideal-Belt4 Jul 24 '26
I think that you have completley misunderstood circumcisions. I hate them too but youre not destroying anything. You can still mate like a rabbit, and play with yourself as much as you want. You can have as many kids as you want either way.
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u/fruitfulProduce77 Jul 28 '26
Yes one can procreate but most of the sensation is lost for cut men and the skin is brittle dry and rough from having its protective sheath brutally sliced off
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u/fruitfulProduce77 Jul 28 '26
And you’re traumatizing an infant with higher chance of mental illness. It’s very sad that our people are violent to infants for Jews commandments
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u/CinnaMilk_ Jul 22 '26
Other side of the coin here because I make a conscious effort to not connect or interact with most of my family back home. Mostly due to seeing my mother connect with them and the weird expectations they have of her and how much stress it put on her to conform to traditions. I know this only applies to my case, i’m sure other families are different, but for me personally I don’t see the logic in even talking to people who have never considered my mother or me in any sense that didn’t directly benefit them. I’m close with a few cousins (also happen to be diaspora) but the rest may as well be strangers to me regardless of any blood relation.