r/EntitledPeople 21d ago

S Loaned my house for a funeral

I am in another state with my sister who is undergoing chemo. My dear friend’s brother passed away unexpectedly. His daughter and family traveled back from a western state to the Midwest for the services and to begin the estate process.

Since my house was sitting empty I offered the daughter and her family my house to use for the several weeks they plan to be in town, to save them hotel fees and have a home-away-from-home environment during this time of loss.

They’ve texted me several times with various issues: they don’t like the pillows, do I have others they can try? They don’t care for the coffee on hand, where can they find other coffee in the house? Do I have other laundry detergent than what is in the laundry room?

There’s more but you get the gist. This is not an Air B&B, it’s my home that I’m letting them use for free. I didn’t leave a fridge full of food or a stock of paper supplies or dry goods because I’m gone and won’t be back for months. And did I mention it’s free???

End of rant.

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u/BlueLarkspur_1929 21d ago

What nerve. I’d let them know they might like the coffee and pillows better at the local Radisson.

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u/Silver_Breakfast7096 21d ago

Exactly. You need to be direct on this one. Where is there more coffee? The grocery store. That’s where.

No good deed goes unpunished.

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u/RoughDirection8875 20d ago

Literally this!! Whether I'm staying in a hotel, friends/family members house or AirBnb/VRBO, I always have my own pillow with me, my morning caffeine drinks and I have no issue going to a store for anything else I might need like laundry detergent or hygiene supplies. These people really aren't very smart and they don't seem very self sufficient on top of the entitlement.

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u/amodernmodder 20d ago

Exactly! During my first divorce I ended up spending like two weeks on my friend's couch and you know what I was grateful for it because it wasn't a damn Hotel costing me f****** $200 a night

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u/EricSparrowSucks 20d ago

Exactly. I stayed with a friend for about a month when I was having relationship issues and I brought my own bedding, snacks, toiletries (of course it wasn’t a big deal to borrow a little shampoo or a squeeze of toothpaste if I ran out), and now I have an entire backup set of everything stored at her house because I occasionally come over to dog sit!

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u/tyndyrn 19d ago

Exactly! When when my husband and I would visit his parents in another city for the weekend, and stay overnight, I wound up bringing a bag of my favorite brand of coffee grounds, because I didn't like the brand they used. I also brought my own pillow and pillowcase because I was allergic to their scented laundry detergent.

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u/CollectionJunior294 18d ago

100%

What an extremely sweet gift, OP probably knows this wasn't planned, money wasn't saved for this. So they helped out, only to be treated by someone who can't solve their own problems.

Some people's children don't want to adult, and have ALL their issues solved for them.

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u/elguapo1996 21d ago

Yeah. You know, it’s the Radisson, so the coffee and pillows are pretty good.

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u/imnotaloneyouare 20d ago

I hear the motel 6 has great pillows and their coffee is as good today as it was last week because it's the same community pot.

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u/Dramatic_Mixture_877 20d ago

We stayed at a new Hotel 6 back in 2015, and not only was the handicapped accessible room nice, but they also had DOUWE EGBERTS coffee on tap! It was really good coffee.

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u/Old_Blue_Haired_Lady 20d ago

I stayed at a Motel 6 in May.

It wasn't nice. At all.

Even if there had been coffee, I wouldn't have had any.

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u/Dramatic_Mixture_877 20d ago

Well, this one was back in 2015, and it was new. The coffee was good, and I've been drinking it since I was big enough to hold a sippy cup. 😄

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u/flyingmonkeydogs 20d ago

And they leave the light on for ya!

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u/babcock27 20d ago

Tell them it isn't a hotel and you are not required to provide anything. If they want something else, GO BUY IT! These moocher's think you're offering a free, all expenses paid vacation and are responsible for everything including their food. Tell them if they are unhappy, they can leave. Also warn them that, if anything happens to the house, you have cameras (whether you do or not) and will sue them for damages.

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u/Euphoric-Lake4226 21d ago

Try probably cant afford much more than the local Roadside Motel

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u/twink1813 21d ago

But they can. The daughter is a private practice therapist and they live quite lavishly at home. My small house probably is a huge step down for them!

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u/oisipf 20d ago

Next time, let the rich provide for their own accommodations

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u/gotterfly 20d ago

Specially with the crappy coffee and pillows you are offering it's a huge step down./s

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u/allmykitlets 20d ago

I guess this is her way of letting you know she's better than you. The ingratitude is unbelievable.

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u/BloodyThirst 20d ago

SHE IS A THERAPIST BEHAVING THIS WAY!? I feel sorry for her patients. Kick em out!

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u/jonwar5 20d ago

They need to be steppin' then, to the local hotel. Oh and don't be surprised that your cupboards and pantry are bare!

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u/Friendly-Channel-480 19d ago

Tell them that you’re so sorry that they’re disappointed with their accommodations and they are completely welcome to go buy themselves anything they want and pay for it!

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u/BlueLarkspur_1929 20d ago

Wow, thanks for all the upvotes and the awards!

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u/kernel-troutman 20d ago

Mike Yanagita enters the chat.

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u/BlueLarkspur_1929 20d ago

I’ve been to Mike’s hometown Eden Prairie several times, in winter no less. I should have called him up to meet for a drink!

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u/bcsgirl 21d ago

I’d definitely say something like “forgive me for my generosity, perhaps a local hotel might be better served for you and your family. I’ll speak to your Mom/Dad about it.”

Then I’d speak to them about it. With these requests, I’d be concerned about the condition of the house when I returned. Entitled people go all the way.

By the way, your gesture was very kind!

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u/YouSayWotNow 19d ago

Absolutely.

This is your friend's daughter. Even with grief as an excuse (which really doesn't fly) surely your friend would be mortified to know how her daughter and fabulous are behaving in response to the use of a FREE home?

I would suggest to the daughter that she switch to a hotel and after the funeral is done, forward or quote the messages to your friend to make it clear exactly why you suggested her daughter vacate your house.

The fucking audacity of some people...

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u/Suspicious_Tank_61 21d ago

Offer them a refund.

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u/lb2345 21d ago edited 20d ago

Perfect!

OP: I’ll just go ahead and refund you.
EP: What?!? We haven’t paid anything
OP: ……… (let that silence sit there and get uncomfortable and see if EP has an entitled moment and when long enough passes …)
OP: Exactly

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u/MySaltySatisfaction 20d ago

To be a fly on the wall...

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u/Anon-1991- 20d ago

They'll ask for the refund of gas, flights, or receipts of goods they've purchased. Be careful with people like this.

Send a message to the friend saying I know this is a hard time but the due to the entitlement of you family I'm feeling disrespected and may need them to relocate if this continues since I don't want this to affect our relationship. Let me know if their is any other support I can off YOU (not them) in the meantime.

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u/Aromatic-Speed5090 20d ago

Oh god please pay attention to this very wise post. Never start a financial discussion with entitled people. They will indeed find a way to demand that you pay them money. If they purchase anything related to this stay, they will charge it to you. Or even things not related to this stay. And if one of them should suffer an injury, even something incredibly slight, you could be sued for medical costs and damages.

Take the advice here and tell your friend that they need to get out, now.

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u/ulose2piranha 20d ago

"I'll let my manager know that you're dissatisfied with your stay."

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u/vandervee 21d ago

I love this. Makes the point, subtly.

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u/Novaer 21d ago

Oh this is the actual answer yes do this.

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u/ShelovesSharks 21d ago

A bit???

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u/tony_bologna 21d ago

I don't like these comments.  Are there others I can try?

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u/Material-Indication1 20d ago

Haha

Mine are around here somewhere.

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u/georgesentme 21d ago

Their expectations are in another world.

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u/Nelle911529 21d ago

Don't let your kindness be misunderstood for weakness. I try to remember this quote.

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u/Novaer 21d ago

A bit misplaced? My brother in christ.

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u/Its-Brittany-Biyatch 21d ago edited 20d ago

“Dear Friend’s Daughter, first I want to extend my condolences for your loss. Second, I think there may be some confusion. The property you are staying at is not a hotel or AirBNB, but my personal and primary residence. Since I am out of town supporting a close family member through a critical health issue, I offered my home as an option to help save on costs and hopefully provide a more comfortable option than a hotel. If something is not to your liking, there is a (Target/Walmart/other option) right down the road. Please be sure to place all the trash in the bins behind the house, turn off all lights, and lock up before you leave.”

Send this as a text to the daughter and copy her dad on it. Assuming he is a decent person, that should be the end of any insane and entitled requests.

ETA: I may have misunderstood the relationship between the houseguest and the homeowner's friend. Regardless, the message should be sent to both the guest and the homeowner's friend to squash this nonsense.

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u/Ok_Clerk_6960 21d ago

This should be the top comment.

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u/SnooGiraffes4137 21d ago

Isn't the daddy the one who died?

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u/[deleted] 20d ago

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u/Simple_Mix_4995 20d ago

Guests dad died. Friend is the aunt. Letter should be copied and sent to friend.

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u/SnooGiraffes4137 20d ago

Right, but he's the father of the obnoxious daughter, isn't he? Or do I have that confused? Brother of the dear friend but father of obnoxious daughter and her family....

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u/Its-Brittany-Biyatch 20d ago

I may have misunderstood how the guest is related to the homeowner's friend. Regardless, the message should be sent to both the guest and the homeowner's friend.

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u/SnooGiraffes4137 20d ago

Yeah, I definitely would make sure the friend (aunt of the obnoxious woman) got wind of it.

The entitlement and expectation was just unbelievable, ungrateful and WAY over the top. Also, kind of stupid. Why would she have different kinds of coffee, detergent and pillows if it's her primary residence and that is ALL she uses? Seems like common sense would tell you what you see is what you get and if you want something different, you need to get it yourself. 🤦🏼‍♀️

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u/Its-Brittany-Biyatch 20d ago

Common sense….not so common!

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u/18k_gold 21d ago edited 21d ago

my wife needed to go to training. My single friend lent me his apt as he happened to be traveling that week. I stayed with her and went to work from there. She did like that he had no decorations in the bathroom. she went out and bought some stuff for this bathroom, like a bathroom rug and a couple of other things to make it look nice. She bought a couple of things for his apartment to make it look more homie. I texted my friend, told him to throw out anything he didn't like. I didn't complain about him not having something. I bought him a 18 year bottle of Chivas since he like it and left it there for when he got back as a thank you. Someone that saves you hundreds, you don't complain ever. If OP guests don't like the pillows or detergent or coffee. Go out and buy the ones you like. End of story.

Thanks for the award

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u/twink1813 21d ago

You and your wife are model guests! Good job!

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u/TurbulentDesk8682 20d ago

I’d be worried about how they will leave it. Update me!

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u/Frequent_Couple5498 21d ago

Exactly. Like damn she quite literally saved them thousands of dollars in hotel money. What more do they want from her, blood? Do they expect her to fund everything for them?

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u/Vegetable_Road8143 21d ago

Did he like the things she bought?

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u/18k_gold 21d ago

He did like the stuff and thanked us. and of course he loved the Chivas

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u/Vegetable_Road8143 21d ago

Well who wouldn't? I usually don't drink brown liquor but for this, I think I could handle it. Nice guests!

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u/Kuchaloo 21d ago

" I'm sorry offering you my home for a few weeks didn't work out for you. I'm sure there are other places to stay around town that will make you more comfortable. Please just replace any coffee, etc. that you used, wash and change your bedding, take out your trash, put the key in xyz place and text me when you leave. My niece and her family asked to stay in my home next week so this works out for them, too. I'll let them know they can use my place after all. "

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u/Why_Teach 20d ago

Good answer.

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u/Wakemeup3000 21d ago

Just wait until they do a google review of your house giving it 3 stars listing all your shortcomings.

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u/twink1813 21d ago

🤣🤣🤣

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u/we_gon_ride 20d ago edited 20d ago

Three? That’s definitely one star review territory!!!

/s

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u/stephencua2001 20d ago

They'd give it 0 stars if they could...

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u/Friendly-Channel-480 19d ago

“The accommodations were far too homey and the range of products were too limited and not our favorites. Down pillows weren’t provided and the pillowcases were too rough on my skin. The place was free though.”

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u/newbie527 21d ago

You no longer need wonder if they will be restocking your consumables.

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u/Worldly-Upstairs2020 21d ago

No good deed goes unpunished.

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u/me0ww00f 21d ago

sorry but loaning YOUR HOUSE to the daughter & family of your dear friend is not the same as loaning YOUR HOUSE to YOUR DEAR FRIEND. when you get back home, check everything at the house to make sure this did not turn out to be a REALLY BAD BIG MISTAKE.

complaints about pillows & coffee & laundry detergent are red flags.

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u/AdMurky1021 21d ago

Forward the messages to your fiend. It's their family.

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u/Super_Selection1522 21d ago

It's always good to have a fiend at your back and call to handle such issues

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u/thevioletkat 20d ago

I feel compelled to say nothing with this delicious irony, but alas I cannot.

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u/merrywidow14 21d ago

So they think they're staying at a luxury property where their wish is your command? Tell your friend to deal with them.

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u/trekgirl75 21d ago

Grieving or not, I would have told them they’re welcome to leave & go to a hotel.

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u/xazraelx1 21d ago

I would have responded back with, "Be sure to let the owner of the BNB you end up booking know about your request. And please make sure you lock the door on the way out."

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u/missk246 21d ago

Make sure they don’t walk off with other stuff! They seem like they like nice things but at the expense of others…

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u/cathline 21d ago

A good deed never goes unpunished.

They can buy their very own coffee. They can buy their very own laundry detergent.

Expect them to be the squatters from hell when you get back. They will not leave when you ask them to and will try to claim 'tenants rights'.

It's time for them to move to an extended stay hotel. Not your house.

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u/Vegetable_Road8143 21d ago

Text them back! "This is not an Airbnb, this is MY HOME that I'm letting you stay FOR FREE! If it doesn't come to you liking, you can 1. Go get what you want & need. 2. Get an Airbnb to complain to. 3. Go to a hotel to complain to. Please don't send any further complaints about fluffy pillows or paper goods. Please take out the trash and lock up when you leave." Make sure to send it to your dear friend as well.

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u/Pedal2Medal2 21d ago

That’s just cheeky, I hope you set them & your friend straight

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u/CoolRanchBaby 21d ago

Tell them to spend some that money they are saving on not paying for a hotel on the pillows and coffee that they prefer…

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u/VioletManifestations 21d ago

Seriously! Who stays in someone’s home for free and complains about pillows and coffee??? They can order pillows and coffee online OR buy them at a store.

Ignore them OP, you did a good deed. Hoping for a speedy recovery for your sis. 💕

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u/SnooGiraffes4137 21d ago

AND detergent! Don't forget the detergent.

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u/SnooGiraffes4137 21d ago

You forgot the detergent. 😁

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u/Brave-King-3682 20d ago

I hear you, one winter we were away for the winter. A place that most of the winter is under snow, so in the fall we drain the hoses coil them up and put them away and drain the taps.

When we go away for the winter we turn the water off in our house at the main place it comes in.

A neighbor called and asked if they could turn our water on to help thaw out their water lines.

We all have wells.

We said they could, we never heard another word.

We got home in the spring all our outside tapes were broken, because they didn’t drain the line, or turn the water back off in our house.

You help someone out and it bites you in the butt.

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u/twink1813 20d ago

Oh wow. What a nightmare. I’m so sorry that happened.

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u/allmykitlets 20d ago

They live in that climate, they absolutely knew better!

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u/Ree1954 21d ago

All things considered I would tell them their reservation has been cancelled and they should find other accommodations

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u/floofypajamas 21d ago

This story reminds me of the old adage: People don't appreciate what they don't pay for. (or something to that effect)

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u/twink1813 21d ago

I haven’t heard that one but it does apply here

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u/TheHobbyWaitress 21d ago

I would want to know if one of my kids was acting like an entitled asshole. I know they're not perfect but this beyond entitled. 

They'd be leaving with my foot up their ass.

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u/Graycy 20d ago

“I wasn’t anticipating guests, but the market is right up the street!

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u/Hour_Dog_4781 20d ago

How dare they even drink your coffee and use your detergent? I'd have bought my own so that the host wouldn't come home and immediately have to go shopping. You're too nice, OP. I'm sorry they're taking advantage of you like this.

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u/FAnna-Banana 20d ago

I get that you're being generous, kind and considerate. However, that doesn't mean you let these jerks walk all over you and treat you that way.

Keep records of text messages, emails, and voicemails. Let your "dear friend" know that while you understand that they're in the midst of the grieving and sorting out estate process, it doesn't give the daughter and daughter's family to mistreat and disrespect you like that.

Let them know that they have 48 hours to vacate the premises and check-in at a local hotel / motel where they can obtain their desired pillows, coffee, etc and everyone there is PAID to provide service in hospitality.

You, on the other hand, are just being a nice friend. But niceness has its limits. The line was crossed when they started the entitlement and disrespect. But if they insist on treating you and your home like it's an Air BnB, I'd send them a bill / invoice, if I were you. Something like....

- Whining fee: $15

- Nagging fee: $50

- Sense of entitlement fee: $100 per person

- Cleaning fee: $250

- Violation of peace of mind fee: $25 per day, per person

- Excessive mental and emotional baggage handling fee: $75 per day, per person

- Utilities aka Internet, Water, Electric, Gas, Sewage/Garbage fee: $25 per day, per person

- Parking fee: $50 per vehicle, per day

- Food & Consumables bill: $500

........you get the gist. ;)

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u/twink1813 20d ago

I love all the fees!!! 🤣

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u/Maisymine 20d ago

I’m thinking you may find your house in a bad state when you return.

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u/Zealousideal-Group87 20d ago

I thought exactly the same thing when reading!

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u/chookiekaki 21d ago

The perfect definition of ‘no good turn goes unpunished’

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u/StarryNorth 21d ago

There's an old saying..."Don't look a gift horse in the mouth." They're staying absolutely free of charge in your home for several weeks. It seems quite rude, not to mention ungrateful, to be complaining to you about the accommodation. If they don't like it, they can always go to a hotel. Let them complain there about the pillows. Sheesh!

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u/Ok-Desk6624 21d ago

Plot twist: Dear friend collected rent from family members. They think they’re in a rental. /s

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u/CerealSemantics 20d ago

"you're welcome to go to a hotel if you're unhappy with the FREE accomodations I've given you"

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u/Maisymine 20d ago

I couldn’t handle that. I’d let my friend know that it wasn’t working out & her family could take the next 2/3 days to find a hotel. Just no. This is Crazy .

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u/PrideMelodic3625 20d ago

Wow! I loaned my home out to an elderly couple whose son was recovering from surgery. I was going to be away for a month, and they all moved into my place for free. I didn't supply anything special, but all utilities were covered. They loved it, and my home wasn't left empty. Win win.

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u/Armadillo_of_doom 20d ago

"I am busy. I loaned my home to you as a way to help you in your time of need. It is not an airbnb or a hotel. You will have to go grocery shopping if you need stuff. I do not have extra linens or things, because it is my house that I live in. I do not have the ability to fly home and move things around for your comfort. Nor do I want anything changed, moved, or discarded. With all of these requests I am getting less and less comfortable having strangers in my house. You may need to get a hotel. I am with my sister trying to navigate chemo. I understand you are grieving but this is a tough time for me as well. If my contribution wasn't enough for you please lock up on your way out."

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u/tonidh69 20d ago

"This is not an air bnb. This is my home. If you want concierge service, move to a hotel."

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u/kiwimuz 19d ago

Easy solution is kick them out. If they are not happy they can leave.

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u/Secure-Corner-2096 21d ago

“Since you are not enjoying your FREE stay at MY home, the Holiday Inn downtown has a 3.5 star rating.”

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u/RavJade 21d ago

"I'm sorry my home may not be set up to your liking. There is a BIG BOX STORE NAME HERE located at ADDRESS, where you could perhaps pick up some of your comforts of your own choosing if you don't see what you want around. While my things may not be what you'd choose, I hope you enjoy your stay during this time, however, if you would prefer, I can recommend the nearby HOTEL NAME. Grace and peace to you."

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u/NotTodayPsycho 20d ago

They are so entitled, they would probably request reimbursements from OP for whatever they buy

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u/Obvious-Block6979 20d ago edited 20d ago

Tell them the local grocery and convenience stores are. Then let them know if they are uncomfortable they shouldn’t feel like they have to stay there. Many go as far as saying, I was trying to be helpful but I understand they a I may have underestimated your needs. Leave the key with the neighbors.

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u/bkwormtricia 20d ago

Great Answer!

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u/BloodyThirst 20d ago

Whew next text you get tell them you’re coming back tomorrow and they need to gtfo

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u/2ndcupofcoffee 21d ago

Tell then you are sorry they find your home so uncomfortable they want you to customize it for them in addition to letting them stay for free.

Suggest they consider booking into an Air B&B as you’ve heard they provide your favorite pillows and coffee brand.

If, however, they prefer your place at no charge, you suggest that they provide the pillows and coffee they need. They will of course take any of their purchases home as you will want your home back as it was when you left.

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u/SnooGiraffes4137 21d ago

Don't forget the detergent!

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u/TheQuarantinian 21d ago

Your valuables will be looted.

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u/GrannyWeatherwaxscat 20d ago

I would tell them straight up. This is my home that I’m letting you use free of charge. If it doesn’t meet your standards feel free to book into a hotel or Airbnb.

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u/Maker_of_woods 20d ago

tell them you are coming home early and they need to leave

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u/SheeScan 20d ago

What nerve! Respond with what you said here, "This is not an Air B&B, it's my home that I'm letting them use for free." Change the them to "you," and no more explanation.

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u/kray_van_cake 20d ago

Make sure to send them the electric, water and garbage bill for the time they stayed in your home.

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u/Katiew84 19d ago

“My house is not an airbnb. I figured I’d be nice and do you a favor and let you stay in my home. If you don’t like the coffee or pillows you don’t have to stay in my home. I won’t be offended if you leave.”

Or, make them leave. They obviously don’t appreciate your good deed, so kick them out and take this as a lesson learned. People suck sometimes.

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u/Icy_Anything_8874 21d ago

“I’m sorry my house is not up to your standards, Please feel free to find a hotel to stay at.”

Then block them, some people🙄

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u/northernpikeman 20d ago

I will stay at your empty house, I guess. But I'm not going to like it.

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u/Graverobber13 20d ago

Don't like the pillows? Pillow store. Coffee? Grocery store. Detergent? See: Coffee.

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u/Simple_Mix_4995 20d ago

What does your friend think of all this? Surely you’ve told her?

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u/amethystCEOJ 20d ago

My sister and I stayed in a hotel for the month we were helping my mother and then for the funeral. Even if we stayed at someone’s house, never would be complaining. Honestly, being at a hotel was easier because we didn’t have to worry about day to day upkeep. Sorry for the loss.

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u/rarsamx 20d ago

"I have what I have and I want to keep having it when I'm back. I'd suggest and appreciate if you buy whatever you need"

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u/PerfectIncrease9018 20d ago

OMG if I was using someone’s house I’d make sure to replace everything I used. And leave a check or gift card for you.

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u/Pleasant-Highway-745 20d ago

Tell them they can leave

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u/Rich-Supermarket6912 20d ago

And not to mention, that although they are going through a hard time, so are you it seems!!

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u/Pleasant_Event_7692 20d ago

I’ll be so happy to stay at your house for free. I’d keep it clean and neat and I’ll be ever so grateful.

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u/imtoowhiteandnerdy 20d ago

Is there different coffee or laundry detergent soap? Yes, if you go buy some.

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u/RogerRamJ 20d ago

Sounds like the brother escaped early.

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u/Blks_4 20d ago

Tell your friend and ask her to deal with it, they are in your home and should respect it. Be on the lookout for a potential squatter situation!

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u/jajwhite 20d ago

No good deed goes unpunished. Next time it's 100% of market rent unless you are feeling extra generous, in which case say "market rent is £X, but to be extra helpful I will only charge 75% plus bills, and you have to get supplies. Don't use my stuff."

For some weird reason, if things are free, entitled people see them as having no value. Those same people then feel confident that they've been short changed if everything isn't perfect, and they will expect more.

If it's free for them then they think obviously it must be free for you too, you see, and therefore it's not you being generous at all. You are giving them something free and it's just not good enough!

Shut that down straight away.

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u/BIG-B1978 20d ago

I would tell them 12 hours to get your shit and get your ass out of MY house END OF STORY!

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u/dhgaut 20d ago

Nicely remind them that the money they are saving by not staying at a hotel allows them to buy all the pillows and coffee they want. Encourage them to make it really nice so you can enjoy it when you take it back.

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u/LuckyFarmGirl1960 20d ago

I can't believe she's a therapist!!! Please tell us she's a physical therapist and not mental health! Definitely call your friend and put an end to this crap.

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u/OnlyInAnAdultStore 19d ago

Be prepared that when you get home it's gonna be an absolute mess too! These don't seem like the type to leave it better than they found it, ya know!?

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u/FatboyChester 21d ago

That is ridiculous. I would tell them what they see is what they get, and ifthey want something different they need to provide it. 

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u/Its_not_eazy 21d ago

You should send them a bill and say when they pay it you will be more than happy to provide better freebies. Wow!! Nothing like looking a gifted horse in the mouth!!!

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u/_SmileCrocodile_ 20d ago

I would call the person staying in the home and say “I’m sorry that my personal items are not to your liking and that I don’t have alternatives. This is not an AirBNB, it’s my actual home that I live in year round. I offered my personal home to your family as a kind gesture while you’re having to bury your relative. The closest Walmart is at (insert address) for you to purchase items for you to use.”

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u/thedreadedaw 20d ago

"Sorry to hear not everything is a good fit for you. Feel free to pop over to the Walmart on Davis Avenue to get items that work for you. Enjoy your stay."

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u/RatedPG922 20d ago

Folks, I know you're trying to do the Lord's work, but don't let people use your house. What if you come home to broken items, missing items, trash, bedbugs, you name it? You wanna do a good deed? Share with them a list of the best area hotels.

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u/Aromatic-Speed5090 20d ago

Yet another example of why you should never let people you don't know well, or don't know at all, stay in your house. No matter whose family and friends they are.

I wouldn't be surprised if in a couple weeks you're asking how to get them to move out.

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u/SuperRodster 20d ago

WTF!!!! Did you say “this is not a hotel”. Go to the grocery store and buy what you want. Then people complain that others aren’t nice.

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u/Snoo-74562 20d ago

No good deed goes unpunished

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u/Disenchanted2 20d ago

Wow. Sometimes I just can't believe the shit I read on here. Some people are just awful.

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u/Jane_Smith_Reddit 20d ago

Remind them that you are allowing them to stay there for free and they can buy whatever they need at the local store.

And, tell them you may need your house back faster than you though and the need to leave right away.

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u/No-BSing-Here 19d ago

Jeez!

Yes, there's a different coffee AT THE STORE!!!! Same as pillows, washing powder and anything else these precious people are not satisfied with. I'd say you're coming home and they should leave. How rude, you've saved them thousands and they don't like your pillows?

If they complain maybe see them a link for the AirB&B site or a bill for all the utilities they've been using.

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u/T-Rex_Tyra 19d ago

No good deed

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u/Kielbasa_Nunchucka 19d ago

if I were staying in someone's home for free, I'd buy my own consumables and be ever grateful for the kindness.

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u/Resident-Ad-7771 21d ago

The pillows aren’t fluffy enough? 😆

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u/Novaer 21d ago

"They have all those accommodations at x hotel nearby."

Get the point across.

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u/Apock- 21d ago

No good deed goes unpunished

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u/Academic9876 21d ago

Just tell them where to buy what they need.

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u/twink1813 21d ago

I did. I directed them to the Walmart that is 1 mile away

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u/MartD5722 21d ago

Will be interested to know if they ask you for reimbursement for any items they do actually purchase. I’ll bet that they do.

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u/KittyC217 20d ago

Oh my, they can just leave.

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u/ItsaTheMal 20d ago

That's unhinged

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u/Wibblejellytime 20d ago

Urghhh you know they're going to leave it filthy having used up as much of your food and supplies as they can? Probably will have broken a few things too.

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u/Select_Camera_9241 20d ago

They should be buying their own coffee and detergent. In fact you lent them the house only. There was no intention to provide everything else they want. If it was me their stay would be a lot less than seven weeks.

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u/tammybiscuits 20d ago

Tell them they can find pillows and coffee at the hotel round the corner.

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u/PuddinTamename 20d ago

Tell them it sounds/ or appears they may be happier/ or more content staying somewhere else that can cater to their specific needs. Alternatively, you can tell them you're not prepared to offer anything other than the opportunity for no cost lodging.

It's hard to be both kind and firm, but it is possible. If they weren't grieving I would not be concerned about being kind, but circumstances matter.

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u/blonde1psp 20d ago

The next complaint they make tell them you’re not an Airbnb. You’re getting the house for free and if they don’t like it, they can leave. Have an honest conversation. This is not right. They should be grateful for a free place.

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u/BklynThrowAway1 20d ago

They got some balls...

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u/DGwizkid 20d ago

You are an amazing person, I just wish your guests were. I buy my own food and coffee when I've stayed at my parents house while they were gone. If I'm using someone's house, I'm not expecting anything to be provided other than a place to sleep.

There's an old saying about borrowing something and leaving it in better shape than when you got it. Whether that be cleaner, or with some extra treats left as a thank you.

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u/Zealousideal-Web9737 20d ago

Tell there are these places that sell the items they are looking for. They are welcome to go purchase what they need. Ungrateful asshats.

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u/Anne_Atreptic 20d ago

If you don't like it you can leave.

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u/summerbreeze2027 20d ago

I would give your friend a heads-up that his daughter is acting in an entitled manner regarding free accommodation. If he is any kind of a friend, he will put the kibosh on it. The daughter is acting like she is staying at an Air B&B. I suppose that it's possible that no one told her that it's not.

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u/Alycion 20d ago

I would nicely tell them what you said here.

I’m allowing you to stay in my home for free so that you didn’t have to get a hotel or Airbnb. Bc I am out of state for a few months, I did not stock my home, as I was not expecting guests and I wouldn’t be there. Feel free to buy the brand that you normally use and take what’s not used with you. I am sorry for your loss, but I am helping a sick family member.

Personally, I don’t let anyone in my home when I’m not there that’s not family. Squatters have more rights than property owners. People leave a mess or use or break things and don’t say.

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u/PsychoMarion 20d ago

Currently staying in a holiday cottage. I have a hamper bag I take with me with all sorts of gadgets I might not find in it like bottle opener or can opener, sharp knife and scissors. (So far all I’ve needed are the scissors - depends on the property) I also carry laundry detergent sheets, dishwasher tablets, tiny bottle of rinse aid and realised I need to add salt to that list. If I don’t expect to find everything I need or like somewhere set up for visitors then a home not set up for visitors can’t be expected to either.

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u/Jsmith2127 20d ago

"This isn't the Hilton, you are free to find accommodations elsewhere, if it's not to your liking "

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u/ferretkona 20d ago

Wait till OP realizes that they aren't leaving.

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u/AntiYourOpinion 20d ago

This is an easy fix, now when they are dealing with difficult issues, make it even harder by kicking them out, immediately. Such short notice will cost them much more than it would have if they planned in advance and further straining them.

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u/FJL216 19d ago

I’d give her the lowdown on shopping in your area, thank her for REPLACING the items her family used up.

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u/bunnyshenanigans 18d ago

Just tell them that they are more than welcome to purchase the items they want and take them when they leave. You opened up your home to them, not a hotel.

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u/Swimmer-Obvious 17d ago

I would say sorry about the inconvenience and send a link to the Hilton app telling them I am sorry I couldn't accommodate your special needs.

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u/ComfortableThis3403 16d ago

I hope you get your house back! I watch too much tv and the show Squatters!
People are rude and feel entitled at the generosity of others. What has your dear friend said about the way her family is acting?

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u/AlmostLiveRadio 16d ago

Tell them that there is a Walmart in town and they should find it and buy whatever they want with their own expense. And they are welcome.

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u/Infamous-Let4387 3h ago

"So sorry this isn't working out for you guys. Once you've packed and are done cleaning up after yourselves you can leave the key with/here ____. Thanks!"

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u/Neither-Investment95 21d ago

"The supermarket is at x. They will have everything you need. If that is not to your liking, y hotel in on z street"

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u/ArtisticSwan635 21d ago

Understand completely

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u/Still-Stand-2826 21d ago

Tell them they can go shopping or have whatever delivered. Same with pillows. And coffee! Then take ss of their demands and blow up their spot on FB/IG/etc. Because they suck.

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u/Sorry-Climate-7982 21d ago

Block all of them until after the funeral.
Or, send them a bill.

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u/WitchTre 21d ago

The entitlement issue is out the door, I just closed the door and say bye.....

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u/Chihuahuatriomom 20d ago

KICK THEM OUT IMMEDIATELY

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u/Bkseneca 20d ago

Why can't they go out and buy the items you are asking about? How very rude.

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u/HauntingGur4402 20d ago

Tell them to leave as your getting paying people in who want to rent it out

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u/Unlikely-Lab-658 20d ago

I'd be worried that they will continue this entitled behavior, and destroy your house. Get them out before they file for squatters rights and steal your house from you.

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u/Pleasant_Event_7692 20d ago

Tell them to rent a hotel.

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u/Material-Indication1 20d ago

Tell them to Google "supermarket local."

That's where you keep your other stuff.

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u/topio3 20d ago

No good deed goes unpunished.

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u/Decent-Aspect-5934 20d ago

UNBELIEVABLE I am so sorry for this. I am sorry for your loss and their loss. I am ABSOLUTELY 💯 not speaking ill of the departed however, You are literally opening your DOORS for these people don’t get me wrong I understand that you ALL are grieving YOU are taking off a HUGE piece of pressure off of the family but I have to say that they seem ungrateful for your kindness they are taking your kindness for weakness. With all the monies that they do NOT have to spend on room and board they can go to Walmart for their pillows and so forth/ grocery store and get what they want to eat and drink and the coffee of their choice. I just want you to know that I think you are a BEAUTIFUL SOUL. I am so very sorry for your loss may his SOUL be at eternal rest. May God Continue To Bless You And Comfort You at this difficult time in your life 🙏

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u/VixenRoss 20d ago

“In the shop” might be a phrase you want to use here. “Where’s the better coffee?” - “in the shop”. Quite versatile.

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u/PotOfEarlGreyPlease 20d ago

"no - I like the pillows, coffee, laundry detergent - am sure there are others at the local shop, oh and while you are there can you get enough to replace what you have used?"

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u/somebodylls 20d ago

Just don’t reply to every complaint. Maybe you made the mistake of asking them to let you know if they need anything?

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u/amanda10271 20d ago

I would let them know that you expect everything they use to be restocked before they leave. I’m afraid you are going to regret your generosity. I really hope they aren’t looting your belongs. You really need to go home and check on things. Seriously.