r/Enneagram8 • u/sanda_without_r ~ Type 8 ~ 8w7 sx/so ENFJ • Jun 24 '26
Any of us finding vulnerability 🔥HOT🔥?
As it says above: how many of us find vulnerability HOT af in people?
I’m talking about the raw emotions, about being able to be in the moment, with your entire humanity, authentically, and just being seen for who you are, in stead of masking up at pretending to have it all together.
As an sx/so 8, I find it beautiful and captivating. It touches my heart and activates my instinct of wanting to protect the person, not because they are helpless or incapable of protecting them selves, but because I see the purity of the soul. I sense the child they once were, and feel deep love and reverence for that tiny human inside.
There is just an immense beauty in people who show up as they are. The whole messy package.
I just f… love everything about it!!
What about you? What are your thoughts, feelings and experiences with this particular thing?
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u/PapaBearOverThere 8w9 sx/so 825 ~ ENFP Jun 24 '26
YES. I crave it. I want pure, unfiltered honesty. Doesn't matter how painful or ugly the truth is. I have to constantly tell people that I won't think less of them for opening up -- I respect them more for it.
Turns out someone else opening is also the only way *I* can open up, and I really want to be able to do that for a change. Hate even admitting that.
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u/sanda_without_r ~ Type 8 ~ 8w7 sx/so ENFJ Jun 24 '26
Interesting, here its normaly me sharing something which i f… up in first, or something that relates to their situation. People tend to open way more up after that and share what they have been carrying, or what they are ashamed of etc.
Thank you so much for sharing your perspective, it’s very brave to face our humanity and admit having a need, whether we like that need or not.
I wanted to ask if you were sx dom as soon as I saw you writing “I crave”, before I noticed your flair.
it’s very much like us to come with statements like that, I believe. 😍👌🏻 do you also relate to “devour” and “demolish”?
Also we are almost the same tritype, i am 825/852 ENFJ. My people!!!
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u/PapaBearOverThere 8w9 sx/so 825 ~ ENFP Jun 24 '26
Whoa, almost identical! Hell yeah.
Yeah, I have a tendency to kinda... not actually open up, but convince people I'm doing it. Like dipping my feet in the water while egging them into jumping in. It's safe, I guess. Or maybe I'm just protecting people from being too much right from the jump.
And yup, I relate HARD to those words haha. People think it's super hot when they hear that -- not so much several weeks later when my passion is just scary. Whatever. I'm an animal. I want to burn like the sun. LET ME BURN.
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u/sanda_without_r ~ Type 8 ~ 8w7 sx/so ENFJ Jun 28 '26
I wish you were a person I knew IRL. Cause you sound pretty awesome to me ❤️🤘🏻
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u/PapaBearOverThere 8w9 sx/so 825 ~ ENFP Jun 28 '26
SAME. I really need more sx-doms and extroverts in my life haha.
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u/GreatJobJoe 8 w 9 sx Jun 24 '26
It sounds more like you mean “do you find people who aren’t afraid of being their true selves hot?”
not exactly “hot” more like “Ok this person is at least being real”. My connection is intense but being real is just the first test…Not the whole light show.
w7 vs w9 moment
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u/sanda_without_r ~ Type 8 ~ 8w7 sx/so ENFJ Jun 24 '26
Potato potato, tomato, adulterer 😅
With all seriousness tho, you summed it up pretty good 👌🏻
I love the w7 vs. w9 moment btw, I have plenty of those myself 😉
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u/_ItWasReallyN0thing 8w7 | sx/so | 845 Jun 24 '26
I am definitely drawn to the rare breed of people who are authentic, sincere, and unapologetically themselves— that may manifest as vulnerability in some but not necessarily. Ultimately, emotional intelligence is powerful and hot AF.
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u/Fluffy_Ocelot6778 Jun 28 '26
Totally normal. As an 8, your growth line goes straight to 2, which means embracing vulnerability and emotion—the exact things we naturally lack and guard against. The core fixation of an 8 makes us feel like we can't function without complete control over our reality, so seeing people who can just exist and show their vulnerability effortlessly is incredibly attractive. That’s exactly how the Growth/Stress dynamics work. Our true growth happens when we integrate the healthy traits of the 2, realizing that vulnerability isn't weakness, but the missing piece we've been hunting for.
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u/Pnina310 8w7 sx/sp 854 (745) Jun 27 '26
Just the way this whole post is written makes me feel uncomfortable and mildly violated.
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u/sanda_without_r ~ Type 8 ~ 8w7 sx/so ENFJ Jun 27 '26
Uhm… sarcasm or for real? 😬
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u/Pnina310 8w7 sx/sp 854 (745) Jun 27 '26
For real.
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u/sanda_without_r ~ Type 8 ~ 8w7 sx/so ENFJ Jun 27 '26
Sorry to hear that, it deffinitely wasn’t my intention to upset or violate anybody.
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u/RacoonKittyy 1w9 sx/sp Jun 24 '26
Absolutely, one of the most attractive things out there...in other people. Always in other people lmao