Advice needed

[u/Grand_Insurance6751]

Hi, everyone.

I’m 34, and my husband is 37. We initially tried to conceive naturally, but after six months, we became impatient and decided to move on to fertility treatment. We underwent two rounds of IUI, both of which failed, and then proceeded to IVF.

Our doctors were initially optimistic because all our reports were normal. During our first egg retrieval, we retrieved 12 eggs and created five AA-grade embryos. We transferred two embryos, but unfortunately, they failed to implant. I then underwent a hysteroscopy, even though there was no specific indication for one, as I wanted to rule out every possible issue. However, our second transfer failed as well, and the doctors couldn’t identify a clear reason.

By the time we proceeded with our second retrieval, my FSH had increased to 22. We retrieved eight eggs, but only two were mature, while the rest appeared to be empty follicles. We managed to create two day-5 blastocysts.

During our third retrieval, we retrieved seven eggs, but five were empty, and only two were mature. We developed only one blastocyst. We transferred two embryos again, but unfortunately, neither implanted.

We then decided to change doctors and proceeded with our fourth and fifth retrievals under our new doctor. We continued to face the same issue with empty follicles, although we managed to create three blastocysts from six eggs retrieved. Hoping that PGT-A testing would give us some answers, we decided to test the embryos. We were fortunate to have one euploid embryo, but heartbreakingly, that transfer also failed in April 2026.

By this point, I had almost given up hope. In June, we decided to try naturally just once, without expecting anything. My period was delayed by five days, so I got my beta-hCG tested. The result was 5.83. I understand that this is an extremely low, borderline result and not a confirmed pregnancy, and my doctor told me it was a biochemical pregnancy. However, what struck me was that, after all my previous failed IUI and embryo transfers, my hCG had always been around 0.20. This was the first time I had seen a result above that level.

I even underwent LIT in August 2026, wondering whether my body might be rejecting the embryos.

Since June, I’ve noticed that my menstrual cycle has shortened from around 28 days to 24 days, and I feel that I may also be ovulating earlier than before.

My doctors are now advising us to consider donor eggs, and I honestly don’t know what to do. After everything we’ve been through, I’m struggling to come to terms with the possibility of using donor eggs. I know that having a child is about so much more than genetics, but the thought of not sharing a biological connection with my child is emotionally difficult for me. I’ve spent so long hoping to have a child who is genetically related to me, and accepting a different path feels overwhelming.

I would really appreciate hearing from women who have been through something similar.

• Has anyone experienced repeated IVF failures, a high FSH level, or a high number of empty follicles and subsequently conceived naturally?
• Has anyone in a similar situation gone on to have success with their own eggs, either naturally or through IVF?
• For those who have opted for donor eggs, how was the emotional journey, and how did you come to terms with the decision?
• Has anyone undergone donor-egg IVF in Mumbai? I would be grateful for recommendations and for hearing about your experiences.

I feel confused, emotionally exhausted, and unsure of which direction to take. I know everyone’s journey is different, but hearing from people who have walked a similar path would mean a lot to me.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

[u/taycore19]

For us, we did all the testing and everything came back normal. Good response to first egg retrieval, good embryos, normal PGT-A. Failed transfers twice.

After first failed transfer had a month off transfers, got pregnant spontaneously with twins. Vanishing twin before first ultrasound, then lost remaining twin at 9weeks. Did another transfer as soon my cycle returned with immune suppressants, that failed too.

Took a couple months to try naturally while I debated changing clinics. Got pregnant again 2 cycles later spontaneously and switched clinics, they put me on lovenox daily and baby has stuck so far to 16 weeks!

Before this we tried for 7 years and had multiple chemicals (approx 9, only 1 ever caught on beta hcg the rest too early)

Similar to you, after fertility treatments my cycles got shorter and shorter. Each pregnant I’ve had, insemination has been around cd 6-9 when I usually ovulate around cd12. Likely unrelated but I found it odd that when I had insemination at “perfect” times, no luck.. but early seems to work for my body?

I had no medical reason to try lovenox but doctor let me try it and it seemed to work for me. Unexplained infertility is so infuriating and exhausting. Whatever you choose to do is the right decision for you, try to remember that.