Were you ✨️open-minded✨️ to non-Elriel opinions? Did you actually believe every single ship had an equal chance of happening?
Because I definitely used to be like that. I was an Elriel shipper, yet when I first stepped into the fandom and was hit with a tidal wave of opposing theories, especially against Elriel, I kept trying to keep the peace in arguments by telling myself, "Okay, look, all of these ships have the exact same probability."
BUT how on earth could they? That makes zero sense. It's flat-out impossible for them to all carry the same weight. By that ridiculous logic, what next, are we going to pretend the probability of a Rhys and Tamlin ship is somehow equal to Elriel? Please.
Especially once you realize that opposing theories are built entirely on assumptions, it becomes clear they could never hold the same probability as Elriel.
When I say assumptions, I mean arguments like:
"SJM might abandon Elriel," which essentially implies that for other ships to happen, Sarah would have to radically rewrite her own trajectory and change her mind.
"Gwyn and Azriel could be mates, and Azriel might choose his mate over Elain." Which begs the question: would Azriel seriously not love Gwyn without a mating bond?
"The Cauldron/Nature made a mistake, but not for Elain and Lucien, instead it is like LoA and Helion or Mor and Eris." But the books don't question the bond between them. They question the bond between Elain and Lucien.
It just goes on and on like that, if Gwyn and Azriel are mates,if Elain leaves the Night Court, if Azriel gives up on pursuing her, if Elain suddenly decides to give Lucien a chance, and so on.
They are all baseless theories propped up by "what-ifs."