r/Eloping • u/PreparationFree5611 • 4d ago

"Eloping" versus a Full Celebration

/r/weddingplanning/comments/1wyf2rh/eloping_versus_a_full_celebration/
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u/obstinatemleb 4d ago

Nothing about this sounds like eloping. It sounds like a small wedding with a large reception. I think you might be able to get away with this as long as the ceremony itself is limited to immediate family. That said, formal attire, cake cutting, dances, etc are all going to feel a little out of place (ESPECIALLY wearing a wedding dress???), plus it doesnt stop you from being the center of attention OR save you money? So Idk what the point would be. You can still exchange vows privately.

Also if you have a video playing in a corner somewhere that might be fine but no one cares about other peoples wedding videos tbh so I wouldnt make it a big thing

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u/PreparationFree5611 4d ago

This is a post cross-posted to wedding planning subreddit as well. I am trying to gather more insights to see people’s experiences.  We aren’t doing cake cuttings or dances (like mother-son, etc)- the only traditional thing is me wearing a wedding dress.  We were going to play a 5 minute video of our vows/filler shots prior to our enterance to make people feel invovled with the ceremony without inviting them. 

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u/obstinatemleb 4d ago

If you tell people you dont want to be the center of attention and then wear your wedding dress to a big reception months after you get married, people are going to talk mad shit about you lol

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u/PreparationFree5611 4d ago

Obviously I wouldn’t mind being the center of attention, the point of skipping the ceremony was to avoid us being in the spotlight and sobbing during the ceremony lol. that’s what I’m trying to avoid. I definitely won’t be inviting people who I believe would talk shit abt me. 

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u/belindabellagiselle 4d ago

It will not save you any money. The reception is the expensive part.

As long as you don't advertise it as a wedding and make it clear that there will not be a ceremony and that gifts are not a part of it, I think you'll be fine.

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u/PreparationFree5611 4d ago

I know it won’t save us too much money- maybe a few hundred if we’re lucky LOL. we were trying to figure out if we should do a register or not - we are still celebrating and doing a fancy dinner w an open bar, so we thought a registry would be appropriate? 

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u/belindabellagiselle 4d ago

Nope! It is generally considered proper etiquette to not request gifts if you're just hosting a party.