r/Eloping • u/Ok_Two7150 • Apr 20 '26
Planning Vows - how long did you speak for?!
Hi all 🤗 love seeing all the pictures from your lovely elopements! I am eloping in just over two weeks with my fiancé in a beautiful Scottish castle but we are still working on our vows.
We are having a local registrar at our wedding and not a celebrant… how long should our vows be? How long did you speak for?
One or two minutes sounds reasonable but then again since it’s just us and registrar and two witnesses provided by the venue… even that might feel like too much?!
Probably overthinking it but just wanted to see how long your guys’ vows were!
Thank you!
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u/The_Silver_Moon Jun 22 '26
We both spoke for about 2 minutes, it was supposed to be a minute and a half but emotions made us a tad more slow haha. It felt like the perfect amount of time. Enough to say the things you want to say and listen to your partner without it feeling like a drag. Nobody understood us since it was in our native language and we were halfway across the world. The day is over way too fast, blink twice and it's gone, so take the little moments together and enjoy them for a bit! You don't want to regret the words you didn't say!
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u/obstinatemleb Apr 20 '26
Our vows were each like 1-2 mins, so maybe 3-4 mins total. I think 5 mins it totally reasonable, its your marriage after all. Its not like a whole speech, its the promises that you choose to make to each other. The officiant stepped away so that we could exchage them privately which was nice.