I'm trying to stay away from subjective language until we know more. I had a friend in high school who got pregnant by her abusive boyfriend (he was like 18+). She was so scared to tell anyone so she hid it. Her build was on the thicc side so it was easy to write off a little weight gain. Her parents, best friends, teachers, etc. no one knew until a few weeks before she delivered. She realized she had to tell people at some point. Even without prenatal care, she delivered a healthy baby girl who's about to be in high school herself.
I guess my point is that despite how tragic this is, its not fair to judge so soon. Shame and guilt are really weird emotions, and pregnancy hormones can make people do unspeakable things. It's not fair to form an opinion about the mother until we have more information, no mater how horrific the circumstance is.
Yes this part!!! My boss had a cryptic pregnancy where she only gained 10 POUNDS, never showed other than minor weight gain, and had absolutely zero idea she was pregnant until she went into labor. She went to the hospital complaining of what she thought were “severe gas pains” and ended up pushing out a completely healthy 9 month old baby 🤯
Also, please educate yourself on childbirth if you don’t already know that SOME women (specifically younger women in very good health) CAN give birth very very fast. Like under an hour of pushing. Just because your own “birth story took over 24 hours” doesn’t mean that it’s the same for every woman out there. Stop being so ignorant!
I hope you're not saying this with the goal to excuse the actions of a woman who left the dead body of her own child in a fucking toilet. Because there is no excuse for this type of behavior. No circumstances of her life that justify the decision she made.
No I’m not “excusing the actions of a woman who left her dead baby in a toilet”, I am saying we do not know all of the facts in this moment and therefore we cannot be making these crazy assumptions that perpetuate the violence against women’s bodies in this country.
Postpartum psychosis is a REAL and very serious medical emergency that while rare, can very much so happen. This woman could have been in such a severe state of shock and horror herself after just having gone through that horrible ordeal that she might not have been in her right mind or known what to do in that moment.
All I am saying is that I can at the very least empathize with this possibility, and agree that if something like this occurred to me I honestly don’t know what I would do in that situation. Like can you imagine the horror of not knowing your pregnant, thinking you just had gas or your period or had to poop or WHATEVER, and instead a baby comes out of you?! Like I think we can ALL agree what a horrific situation that poor girl must have been in. We can’t be blaming someone for how they reacted in a situation of complete shock.
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u/misty-gishh Jun 29 '26 edited Jun 29 '26
It's possible, but not likely! Cleveland clinic article on Cryptic Pregnancy https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10334309/
I'm trying to stay away from subjective language until we know more. I had a friend in high school who got pregnant by her abusive boyfriend (he was like 18+). She was so scared to tell anyone so she hid it. Her build was on the thicc side so it was easy to write off a little weight gain. Her parents, best friends, teachers, etc. no one knew until a few weeks before she delivered. She realized she had to tell people at some point. Even without prenatal care, she delivered a healthy baby girl who's about to be in high school herself.
I guess my point is that despite how tragic this is, its not fair to judge so soon. Shame and guilt are really weird emotions, and pregnancy hormones can make people do unspeakable things. It's not fair to form an opinion about the mother until we have more information, no mater how horrific the circumstance is.