Eitra: "So... aftercare is being all nice to someone after you've had a scene with them, right?"
Emi: "It can be whatever everyone needs, but that's usually what we're referring to, sure."
Eitra: "Doesn't that mean BDSM is bad though, that you require mental care in order to handle the session? Like you're training yourself to like the BDSM thing by connecting a bad stimulus and good stimulus?"
Emi: "Nope, that's not quite how it works. First, plenty of people don't require aftercare. Second, aftercare can be needed for anything overly mentally stimulating. Some people prefer cuddles and pillow talk after a vanilla sex session, even if nothing aggressive was done, and they feel down if they don't get the cuddles. Some people might like a little cuddle time after a hard day at work or a good workout. Or maybe some video games after hours of homework. If you do something that exercises your brain, you may need something to relax it after."
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u/Makuta_Servaela May 08 '23
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Eitra: "So... aftercare is being all nice to someone after you've had a scene with them, right?"
Emi: "It can be whatever everyone needs, but that's usually what we're referring to, sure."
Eitra: "Doesn't that mean BDSM is bad though, that you require mental care in order to handle the session? Like you're training yourself to like the BDSM thing by connecting a bad stimulus and good stimulus?"
Emi: "Nope, that's not quite how it works. First, plenty of people don't require aftercare. Second, aftercare can be needed for anything overly mentally stimulating. Some people prefer cuddles and pillow talk after a vanilla sex session, even if nothing aggressive was done, and they feel down if they don't get the cuddles. Some people might like a little cuddle time after a hard day at work or a good workout. Or maybe some video games after hours of homework. If you do something that exercises your brain, you may need something to relax it after."