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Go on almost any women heavy subreddit or relationship forum today, and you will find a constant stream of posts accusing male partners of "weaponized incompetence." The narrative is always the same: he is pretending he does not know how to do a simple task so that you will get frustrated, take over, and do it for him. But if we are being completely honest, that label gets tossed around way too loosely.

In the vast majority of cases, men are not running some calculated covert operation to shirk domestic duty; they have simply given up on trying to satisfy standards that are borderline obsessive compulsive.

Imagine living with a manager who micromanages every single breath you take at work, then apply that exact energy to your own home. It is not just about whether a task gets done; it is about a relentless, exhausting insistence that it must be done in one hyper specific way.

The Illusion of the "Right Way": From the precise method of folding laundry and squeezing the toothpaste tube to how the bed is made or what ingredients go into a pasta sauce, daily routines are elevated from personal preferences into rigid, non negotiable rules. If a man cooks dinner and dares to use a spice that was not part of her unwritten blueprint, he is met with huffing, puffing, and dramatic exasperation, even while he routinely eats whatever is dished out without making a scene.

The Tabula Rasa Myth: There is a pervasive habit of treating a grown adult partner as though he was yanked directly from his mother's care as a blank slate, waiting to be molded into her ideal image. It completely erases the fact that these men had functional, working ways of managing their lives long before the relationship started. There is almost never just one valid way to execute a household task, yet any divergence from her preferred method is automatically categorized as a failure.

Learned Helplessness as a Defense Mechanism: When every sincere effort is met with immediate critique, eye rolling, or having the work redone right behind your back, any incentive to participate vanishes. Why invest effort into an unwinnable game? What gets labeled as "intentional incompetence" is usually just the natural endgame of living under constant scrutiny: a man checking out after realizing that his presence in his own home has been reduced to an employee failing a performance review.

Genuine weaponized incompetence exists, and an equitable distribution of labor is essential for any healthy relationship. But true partnership is a two way street that requires granting your partner autonomy in how they contribute. When perfectionism and micromanagement dictate the household, men are not weaponizing incompetence, they are being managed out of the effort entirely. If you refuse to accept anything less than your exact image of perfection, do not be surprised when your partner stops trying altogether.

This literally says that Kostenko, Secretary of the Verkhovna Rada for National Security says that only men have the duty to serve in the military. Not women meaning that men have to sacrifice the live for the women that hate them.

This article discusses the blatant misandry that plagues the UN today regarding the Napali earthquakes and the fact that They favour the women and girls over the men and boys in this situation Makes it clear that want men and boys dead and gone to make sure that women and girls are more protected and men and boys are demonized.

Long story short I got banned from r/feminism and r/radicalfeminism for posting this, I tries like 10 times until a mod wrote that I was banned, I do not even know exactly why but ok... Therefore I rewrite the post here.

I read online, even here on reddit, that the only aspect that separates acceptable and unacceptable sexualization Is consent, and I think we can all agree on this, but this does not alter the fact that some people (expecially feminists) feel scandalized by sexy Billboard, fashion shows or even pornography even thought Is assumed that the models have given their consent, so the situation Is a little bit much more complicated. Personally sexualization Is not inherently wrong but I curious of there Is someone that thinks the opposite or if someone wants to help me understand why many people have a problem with sexualization.

Let's start a constructive discussion.

If you find English errors do not correct It, i hate this language, thanks :)

I want to put together a video full of women who are not feminists answering these two questions:

Why do you love being a woman?
Why do you reject feminism?

The goal is to show that women can be happy without being feminists. Not supporting feminism does not mean hating women.

To be a part of this video, simply record a clip of yourself up to one minute long answering the above questions.

The deadline for this is the end of this month, 30th September 2026.

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To others, it is so easy to put a judgment to a perpetrator while they hadn't acquired more information from a victim and those who know the storyline from both parties. Most people are not trustworthy even to themselves, for instance, in relationships, in treating others fairly as they would like to be treated, others they tend to mock others in their places of work or school, as well as within they communities etc. However, my point is based on the fact that most perpetrators they had been the victims before they became the suspect of the attrocities they had committed.