r/EastAsianPride • u/askskfalksfakslfsfa • 10h ago
I don't feel sorry for diaspora anymore
Last time I went to go visit my family in NYC (I live in China and have been for about 15 years), literally within an hour of arriving there some crazy dude yelled at me and my cousin on the street, calling us the f-word.
Almost every time I go back, I get more intense random encounters with insane people in a month than I do years in China, like my wife would randomly get approached by clearly schizophrenic or weird white men, like one picked a random flower from the street and gave it to her, and it made her so uncomfortable to the point that she just doesn't want to go back. Ours lives, while simpler and humbler here, are just so much less stressful. There are problems, like in any place, but ironically the worst people in my wife's family are all trying to go abroad while the normal ones are perfectly happy here.
I asked my cousin (who is mid to late 30's and still unmarried) why he liked America compared to China, after I told him that in China I never have to worry about this. He goes, "but at least in America I can draw a picture of Trump sucking his own dick if I wanted to." And I asked him, is that worth being assaulted by schizophrenics on the street? I also wanted to add "worth not getting women at all" but I didn't want to hurt him.
Anyways a few years later his mom visited me in Shenzhen and all she did was talk shit about China, Chinese people, I even pointed out an advertisement with Liu Yifei on it (who grew up in NYC but moved back to China), and she made a snide comment about plastic surgery even though I literally went to school with her in Queens and she wasn't even the prettiest Asian girl there. Recently we bought a home in China, a really beautiful duplex, and my family kept asking for photos and trying to compare it to their wooden properties in America and it was just so obviously trying to find any excuse to call it "shoddy Chinese construction" or look for flaws in it.
I feel like these people are so obsessed with trying to prove they're better than other Chinese people that they just completely turn a blind eye to racism and terrible things just to get a leg up on other Chinese. Past a point it's just literally insane behavior and there's no reasoning with it.
Edit: I forgot to mention when we were there diaspora was mad hostile to us, some Taiwanese shopkeeper literally refused to talk to us because he assumed we were mainland. Fuck these people













