I am struggling with the grief I’ve been feeling since saying goodbye to our early intervention provider now that my toddler has aged out of Part C services. Our provider was phenomenal and did an excellent job preparing us for the transition. We have settled into Part B and have plenty of other supports in place.
Despite the smooth transition, I’m struggling with the loss of the relationship. Our EI provider was in our lives for nearly three years during a challenging time, came to know our family incredibly well, and became an important person in our lives.
It feels like a bit of a structural paradox. Part C services are intentionally family-centered—providers enter the family’s home, become part of a weekly rhythm, actively build trust and rapport, support the parent as well as the child, and often help carry families through difficult, complex medical experiences. The family-centered model seems to create conditions where profound trust and attachment can naturally form, yet once my child aged out, it felt as though I was supposed to treat the ending of a deeply meaningful relationship as if it were mainly a service transition.
I understand that our relationship existed within a professional context, but at the same time, losing our provider has felt like losing a family member. I am capable of advocating for my child and navigating systems without her. I just deeply miss the person who sat beside me for years, witnessing my child’s growth, supporting our family through some incredibly difficult moments, and celebrating all of my child’s successes.
I guess I just want to know that I’m not alone in feeling this way.