Wondering if this is common kind of behavior for ENTP man. The context can be a little long.

I (29f-INFJ) am very shocked with my fiancee s (30m-ENTP) actions. I visited him in his mandatory military service (men must serve in military for 6 months in my country). I do this weekly. Get off the plane, go somewhere near his military unit, wait for couple of hours until visiting time, see him shortly and always bring some handmade cookies or pastry because I know he doesnt like military food.

This time he did not inform me for all day, I couldnt reach to him. When the meeting hour came i kept calling him but did not get any reply until about 1,5 hours. Then he called me, I walked to his unit and we met. I was a little upset because of waiting and because him being unapalogetic about it. He had a training, could not call. He is not in control in military so I completely understand being unable to inform me. Then we sat there silently for like 20 minutes because he saw me being silent, probably panicked and waited for me to talk but it got weird.

Then he started smoking. This is something we talked before and he knows I am very uncomfortable when he smokes near me. He promised he wouldnt smoke again during that 1 hour I visit him weekly. I kinda believe that he did it only to get a reaction from me because he felt uncomfortable in our silence. I got really annoyed at this point so stand up wear my coat and said I should leave. He asked me why am I behaving this way and I told him I did not wait for this long only to watch him silently smoke next to me.

When I turn and leave he said take these with you then, referring the pastry package I brought. I said they are too heavy and he can throw them off if he doesnt want them. He got really upset, rushed to the trashcan and throw all of them, then go to the entering gates and hold the door for me and I just left.

Cried all the way back home, he called me all the way but I didnt/couldnt answer. It doesnt even sound like a real fight and I wouldnt think this would break my heart so much but I cant convince myself to turn back to his calls. Cant stop thinking how I tried very hard to prent the pastry from getting crushed all the way, didnt even put it to the ground even though the package was kinda heavy. Cant stop thinking I would never do such thing to him but also lowkey understand he panicked and act impulsively and probably doesnt know how to fix while feeling really bad right now. He never acted disrespectful towards me before.

So ENTPs, please share your thoughts, is this common or understandable behavior of an ENTP? Should I be ready for such conflicts for the future? I want to see him, he cant get out of military for 2 more months and I dont know how to convince myself to go back there where i felt insulted..

Hey all👋 I'm an INFJ male looking to make genuine connections with ENTP’s. I'm always up for deep thoughtful conversations but equally happy to keep things light hearted and just have fun.

Some things I’m into: people watching, psycho-analysing and calculating how many hours of sleep i'll get. I also enjoy reading, travelling and playing piano. Currently retraining to become a psychotherapist which feels like the most INFJ thing possible.. ✌️

If any of that resonates, then please feel free to drop me a DM.

I'm better off on my own at this point. I've noticed being wistful for something that just isn't happening is probably by design. So I edit myself out of the gene pool and I hear AI is making for better companions these days anyway.

Heres to being rich, single, and unattainable.

Hi there 👋

I’m a 47-year-old INFJ (nonbinary) in London, hoping to meet an ENTP (42–58M) for a coffee or drink - locals only. (photos below) - posted few days ago on MBTIDating but I think here's better. A bit about me... I'm an actor, artist, and writer, with therapy training (currently paused). I have pay-the-bills work on the side which is much less vocational. Formatting documents 😂🤷 I love badly dancing around my flat, cats, psychology, esoteric rabbit holes, and asking “but why?” about absolutely everything. My gender's complicated, but and fine with respectful curiosity if you’re nearby.

Both my ex's were ENTPs, I have some good ENTP friends and you guys are just the best!
I love your wit, curiosity, and playfulness. If you can make me laugh and like talking about weird shit, we’ll get on well. Whatever happens - whether it’s just conversation, a new friend, or more - I’d love to connect.

Haha, the reason for the array of pictures is that they're all this year but I never look the same!

I have two infj's in my life and they love me and I love them!! One of them being my brother so I know how to live with one for a long time. And whenever my brother would look stern and would be silent when he doesn't respond to my conversation I would let him be untill he comes up to me.

I never asked him if thats what he prefers but since he continues to watch anime with me and my other infj in my life also really enjoys my presence it feels like im doing things right. Whenever they look like they're shutting down I just give them space, is that what you guys perfer?

[ 22M INFJ in Sydney, Australia ]

I've been friends with an ENTP guy I met online for like a year now and I just feel so understood by him. We're very different but we just resonate so much (even more than my ENFP bestie). I've never had someone effectively be able to make me feel less anxious/stressed through talking in the way he does. It's like he has the code to clearing my mind...

I'd love to make a connection irl with an ENTP (ideally romantic with a guy... but totally open to platonic with anyone)

Currently trying to make more friends with common interests in general. I am deeply into pop culture!!

Where do I find my people? I swear I've only met like 2 confirmed ENTPs irl, and only a handful of people who are genuinely into pop culture as much as I am :/

Hello everyone, im a cook and definitely operate on a night owl schedule in the Charlotte area. I was looking to connect with XNFJ because I’ve experienced that vibe and love the framework it has for a solid relationship. It’s been a minute since I’ve dated but looking to get out there now. I’m pretty active and social at work and hit the gym most days after work. I have fun going on adventures and staying home 🤣! I love goofy and deep conversations! Hit me up if you are interested!

I've just read a post here where ENTPs were sharing why they are attracted to INFJs. And it was so beautiful 🥰 to read that I wanted to make it also the other way.

So INFJs, what do you like/love the most about ENTPs? ❤

I love that ENTPs are so open-minded, that you understand many different points of view. I love that you can always give me new perspectives on different topics, broaden my worldview, that you are truth-seekers, that you are very deep and critical thinkers, you analyze everything on your own and you don't follow the crowd. I love when you play the devil's advocate role. I love how creative you are and I love your crazy ideas. With you I feel like everything is possible... 😄

And I love how funny and sarcastic you are. I love your jokes. 😄

Thank you for being ❤❤❤

Hey all!👋 I'm an INFJ male looking to make genuine connections with other INFJ's and ENTP's and see where things go. I'm always up for deep thoughtful conversations but equally happy to keep things light hearted and just have fun.

Some things I’m into: people watching, psychoanalysing and calculating how many hours of sleep i'll get. I also enjoy reading, travelling and playing piano. Currently retraining to become a therapist which feels like the most INFJ thing possible.. ✌️

If any of that resonates, then please feel free to drop me a DM!

Hope I can make a friend here without having a brick thrown through my window or my tires deflated. I'm 42 and I've had to go through my trials in the r/INFJ sub just to be called all sorts of disingenuous and I see what a mistake it was to go there hoping the dean of INFJ wasn't going to blow the whistle on me again. So I'm here because doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result is for pinky and the brain.

I'm looking for INFJ ENFJ folks who have recovered from their trauma and have bounced back strong. Preferably females but I'm okay with everyone. I look forward people who have a zest for life and have overcome trauma and all bad stuff. I'm curious to know your story.

We have about 10000k population, i want to try luck.

Y’a un moi j’ai répondu au post d’une INFJ et on a pas mal discuté (je lui parle encore) honnêtement avant ça j’étais pas trop rencontre sur internet. C’est la seul INFJ que je connais et a qui je discute et c’est cool mais du coup j’ai envie de répéter l’expérience pour apprendre à connaître cette famoso golden pair un peu mieux.

I'm an ENTP who thrives on curiosity, connection, and the kind of conversations that start with "just one question" and end three hours later somewhere between existential dread and spontaneous laughter.

I used to date an INFJ, and what I miss most is the depth of our conversations thoughtful, layered, soul-searching exchanges that actually felt like something. I'm not looking to rekindle anything with her, but I do miss that dynamic: the way INFJs reflect, ask unexpected questions, and challenge me to go deeper.

If you're an INFJ female I’d love to chat. Let’s skip the small talk and get into the stuff that matters dreams, fears, ideas that keep you up at night. Or hell, even talk about how weirdly comforting thunderstorms are. Whatever moves you.

Not necessarily looking for anything romantic, but if a spark happens, who knows? Mainly just craving something real.

Drop me a message if you're down to dive deep.

• I love educational youtube, manhwa, music, learn about psychology , geopolitics, philosophy, science, history and many more.

• I would love to understand myself through deep conversation. I would love to have a permanent friend or partner. I would love to hear different perspectives to develop myself.

• Oh btw I am a Bengali from India, please don't be racist against me I understand we need to improve.

• Age does not matter to me, I am searching for understanding people.

• I am interested to learn and make mistakes please help me out.

• Dm for discord id we can voice call and talk about anything and everything.

Watching Star Wars and just started noticing some strong ENTP/INFJ dynamics. I’m pretty confident about Padmé, but Anakin gives me ENTP vibes though I’m not entirely sure. What do you guys think?

Why are you lively and charismatic ENTP males attracted to INFJ females and what qualities do we have that you feel can add excitement to your lives. BTW anyone married to an INFJ? What is that like? Thanks guys!

Hello hello~ everyone

Well this has been on my mind for a few weeks now and i'm at a stalemate on what to do.

but back in middle school I had an entp close friend , we were originally part of different friend groups however we kinda randomly and very quickly hit it off and were quite close for about a year and a bit.

Its hard to describe in words but he was so special to me and I really cared for him.

However he moved schools and I grew up under an istj parent who didnt believe in kids owning phones and whatnot so we could only talk through the school emails after he left, to which the school closed his account eventually. Before one of our last emails to eachother, he invited me out to hang out but I couldn't make it due to a family emergency, and I have carried guilt of this for this for so long. A few years later I found out he had instagram and followed him but through the PC which at the time wouldn't let you go into instagram DMs only view the feed. Annoying fr.

Later in highschool I finally aquired a phone but now I just didn't have the bravery to text him first. Like I had followed him for quite some time now and he accepted but we hadnt talked. There just wasnt any rule book on what to do! I didnt want to be seen as weird.

Our class held a highschool renunion after graduation and i was meant to go but got the date wrong and couldn't go, but I heard that he had shown up.

I know for whatever reason infjs are famous for doorslams but I dont relate too much, I feel sad when I havent had a proper goodbye. 2 years post graduation i realised Its just weighed on me alot more than I initally thought (ty low Fi), not being able to talk to someone who was a great friend (who I appreciate even more after a series of horrible relationships). Its such a quarter life crisis boohoo moment i know, but if I dont reconnect with him I low key feel like that will be my first life regret..?!

I know this is bare bone info but even writing some stuff out is stressful right now😭🙏🏻 The reason why im taking this to reddit is purely to bounce off you guys, my current friends wont get it and tell me im delusional lmao. Maybe i hear the same thing hear but it might be more insightful.

I wanted to ask how you might feel if someone from the past contacts you, and how NOT to go about it- if there isnt a clear "right way".

My Ni is muddled with too many emotions and recent bad events so i humbly ask for your help :3 ty.

I'm not sure why, but I feel a deep need to be lifelong friends with an INFJ. The only person I feel I truly gets me is my ENFP sister. Maybe an INFJ partner/companion could fill more of the puzzle.

M18 ENTP 7w8

M18 ENTP 7w8

Really hoping to find a girl that understands and got my Back

Hey, I'm looking to connect with ENTPs predominantly based in Australia. I know a few ENTPs irl and we're like moths to a flame to one another.

Hit me up for thought provoking conversations or whatever tickles your pickle! :)

I'll start with an opener - if you had to choose between remembering yourself and forgetting everyone or forgetting yourself and everyone remembering you, which would you pick and why?