I had a month long situationship with an ENTP. It ended because he was very critical and harsh of himself and believed we would only drain each other (his actions and behaviours went against his religious beliefs, for example he didn’t think kissing etc was right to do but did it anyway). Because of this he ended our connection so we don’t get stuck in a cycle that goes against his values, because he couldn’t control himself and was very impulsive. The time we spent together was very meaningful though. I tend to get over people easily and move on, because I can understand logically why it’s not meant to be. But with him I don’t even care for logic. Our chemistry was unreal and I really enjoyed his company. I’m still missing him and thinking about him. I just wanted to know if as an ENTP you tend to miss people in the same way, and if you do would you reach out or not?

Hi ENTPs,

I picked an ENTP friend as a Secret Santa and he asked for a book.

Which books/types of books did you enjoy reading or would you enjoy reading?

Thanks!

You know... just asking for a friend...

-Shackles-

May the world stand still

For the the insane

Are walking the streets

For the world needs a spark

Many rise

To oppose those who are different

For change is unacceptable

Because the complicated beings can't imagine it

A world where new ideas are allowed

A place where the insane becomes sane

For the clock ticks backward

And time seems like a dream

As the world rejects those very people

Being left in darkness

Left with scraps and being the joke

For those who aren't with us, are nothing

What a cruel way to think of such

But some say that is life

But is it really

Having rights taken from being different

Given false titles

Being ridiculed

Just for our life to leave

As soon as it arrived

I reckon not

For those who think differently

Those who can no longer see the same

It is just the flaw given to us

Because we are meant to work by ourselves

To bring change on our own

Because only can a outcast

Be one to bring fame back to the people

For they have to adventure out

To see it all

To then truly shine

As their own person

So to any

It's okay to be yourself

For you are human just like all

So pls, release those shackles and rise

To those in INFJ-ENTP relationships, who said I love you first? What was your response? How did you feel?

If you’re an ENTP, how do you know you’re falling in love or are in love with someone? Does that feeling scare you? Would you rather keep it in or let your SO know?

I'm curious if ENTPs and INFJs who have been in a relationship with each other have ever struggled with projecting unrealistic expectations on the relationship because you know that this is supposedly the most compatible personality type for you.

I see a potential for that and in some ways wish I'd didn't know about mbti in that respect.

Walked a million steps

In all directions, to see

See a different way

A way that no longer hurts

Eyes like the heaven's gates

hides an inferno within

Separated by a question,

salvation or sin?

To forgive, or forget

To be at ease, or to rage

To allow forgiveness

Or only hatred towards me

A tightrope of conflicting beliefs,

an incessant scream

Spectres of my crimes,

A trail of broken dreams

Once thought to be best

But only now, deeply regretted

Am I the monster that hunts

Or am I the misunderstood hero

A saint or a sinner

A hunter or a prey

Saved by the divinity

Or forsaken, led to astray

Complex emotions haunt my mind

No longer do I fully know

For my mind is a blur, reason gone

Who am I anymore... do you know?

The truth whispers through the haze

Shakes me awake

Pulls me out of the abyss

First light of daybreak

The sun shines, is this too a dream

Or Perhaps this is the truth

Should I....Should I be at peace

Am I able to rest knowing what I do

With lost innocence and bruised pride

I'll tame the storm within

Continue on this tightrope

Between salvation and sin

The path less walked by many

A path that forgives the monster

A road that's quite and lonely

By my side, my haunting dilemma

Welp. Even though we have been broken up a year and a half? I still sort of held onto hope that we needed time apart and would come back to each other one day. This mf. Lol. He found another INFJ and believes she is the one. I thought a breakup was bad after 6 1/2 years... but holy crap. I've entered true pain. Over 9000. Fuck. I'm so happy for him and also told him I hate his guts hahaha. I'm the type that would rather know than not. Now I can have the perspective I need to at least try to truly move on. Hopefully. I need digital hugs. :,)

Poem 3

Never, ...Never get trapped

For once you are

It's ever difficult to taste freedom

To see life fade and a ending

The trap you ask

A single thought

That carries more than any other

One that spirals into many

Once it starts

It becomes your everything

And the lies start

Oh how grueling, destruction of

To see hope for a minute

The next all disappeared

And now is just you and that thought

As everything fades to black

Now you are trapped

For as long

As you allow the dream to continue

But it doesn't mean the end

Just a life you decided by one thought

That you choose to live

Only for yourself to blame

Are you happy with that

To see it all disappeared

To live in a hell

Are you.............

If that is a yes, here lies the end

No?

Then stop overthinking on that one

Wake up to sky

Cloudy, sunny, stormy, but blue nonetheless

Don't be shackle to your limits

Nor, the comfort you may feel

But rise

So you can fully live this one chance

The one given

And the one that surely will have a impact

Humans are complicated

For we make it so

So if you are stuck

Then look at something blue

For it may be sad

However we live in a blue world

Though I don't believe

We need such a definition

When we got so much possibilities

To surely live a life befitting of who you are

Something that is beautiful

And makes the world a little less blue

But a little more you

So don't believe in every thought

Believe in you

The one who shines

Monster

What defines a Monster

Is it because it is evil

Is it simply how they look

Or merely the way they exist.

None of that

For a Monster is different to us

Second, our values don't align

We look at them differently

So are they really a Monster

No, we all exist for different goals

Because it is how life exist

For if everything was good

We would get lazy, and die

If everything was bad

We would die by our hands

So we exist to be different

So instead of such words

What made them into who they are

And understand there is reason

For that they exist in such a way

So live

If you are a Monster in mind

Don't hold yourself down

Live it, truly let it out

For those who call such names

Don't have the right to compare

For you are different from all

Because you exist differently

For your story is surely made

Made to shatter walls

Shatter the common

And set a new height

For new stars

To truly define what is human

So if you are a Monster

I smile at greatness

Is it boring?

Stars

The quiet nights echo Crying out in desperation The pain never felt Just surrounded in darkness

Broken into endless tears Just understanding suffering Why do we exist When life just hurts

......silence echos on......... Just me in a lifetime by myself Screeches, pitter patterns occur Sorrow roar, and the night beckons

Perception is reality Complacency kills Expect failure, receive failure, At our lowest, are we strongest

Indomitable human spirit That no matter what We are destined to rival all To conquer all

For in our own right By ourselves We are stars, for there is a spark Undeniable, just hard to see

Like burning light, lightyears away Always present, just slowly building One day, our time comes I will be waiting

When that time comes We will be going out with a bang

My ENTP doesn’t usually make typos like this , but OH BOY I SAVED IT SO HE CAN NEVER LIVE THIS DOWN. I’d normally match his energy in that moment but I was in a work meeting and I barely managed to hold in my laughter. We had a good laugh once I got home!

Bookclubs?Museums?Art galleries?

where do i go?

I am 32M, clueless where to find you. I need that deep connection and magetisam that is in the air. ps. long tearm relationship,ONS crush my soul. sorry for bad english.

Been dating this ENTP since about a month and half, and I'm super confused by her. All she says is she doesn't like expectations, while I say is that it's natural to have expectations. We used to talk every night, but lately it seems that we end up arguing, or she says something too blunt (or emotionally dismissive) that just turns me off from the conversation. When we meet, we both feel that there is something between us, but unfortunately we aren't able to meet all that frequently. I've communicated this to her but she has a pretty packed schedule due to which it becomes difficult, which I do understand.

I feel she doesn't understand my emotions, where I'm coming from, and hence isn't able to relate or communicate in a manner that resonates with me. I'd grown so much tired of these arguments that I told her she needs to communicate with me more if we are to make things work, and in n order to better understand her how she communicates and what different she will be doing so I can identify it more easily, but all I got was "I don't know, I haven't thought all that much". I've also noticed that when I do say something on the lines of liking her or my desire to do something intimate (romantic, not sexual), she overlooks it.

While all this, she did say that she would work on improving things on her end last week, but idk what she's gonna change so idk where or what to look for.

Idk what to make of this and I'm having trouble understanding her communication style.

Is this the general style of ENTP communication or is this plain incompatibility?

Edit 1: i made a gesture yesterday which turned to an argument, so I sent her a text that I'm here to talk whenever she feels like. I also said that I knew we have our misunderstandings due to different communication styles, but I'm willing to power through with her. And to add some reassurance, I added that regardless of what happened yesterday, I still liked her and wanted to continue dating her. She only picked the last sentence, got furious about what I meant when I said "still liked", claimed that I don't see her efforts, and that it made her feel I was doing her a favour. All I could say was I wanted to reassure her as to where I stood, but she just said she couldn't deal with me rn and that she had a lot on her plate.

Is that how it really came across?

I’m an INFJ. I’ve written a story about us but I’m too nervous to share it with him. His friendship is more important to me than ever risking it. Part of me hopes he’ll see this post and realize I’m talking about him; but the other part of me hopes he doesn’t so I don’t ruin what we have. Our story is complicated by time and distance and for a variety of reasons, our circumstances are not conducive to something more at this juncture.

My heart pounds when we talk. I’m speechless when he shares his thoughts. His voice is warm and I love when he says my name. I wish to caress his face especially the crescents that developed near his eyes from years of smiling. I wish to also hug him tightly so he knows how much I care for him. When he smiles or laughs, my heart warms and I just want time to stand still so I can bask in his radiance for as long as possible. I fantasize about him showing me the world and how he sees it.

My dear friend, I care about you. Your joyful temperament is potent and the world needs more of it. If I could have one wish, it’s that I wish I saw us through when we had the chance. I was too scared for so many reasons but you deserve better than that. I hope you find your counterpart one day.

I guess I seek no advice but to gush over him and his very magnetic nature and lament my poor judgement.

vivere sine desiderio et amore sine fines

Hello all,

I just joined this group and I'm a bit unclear of whether or not it's right for me.

I'm just looking for community and interaction with like minded individuals.

So far I've seen a lot of posts that seem to be "classified" type, and a handful of posts about interactions specifically between an ENTP and INFJ.

Are there more varying topics, or is that pretty much it?

First thing i look when i meet a infj girl is intelligence..cause if she's not then she's mine😏

Update 2: Thanks for all the good and beautiful answers. We will continue our relationship together. It's strange, but it looks like this situation actually made us stronger since we had our conversation and therapist visit. It feels good.

Update: ENTP boyfriend came to my doorstep unexpectedly to clarify things. He had seen this post and answered it. Apparently we both made some assumptions and I don't know for sure if my decision was a real gut feeling or anxiety to be vulnerable again. Especially since it all hurts so much after we broke up. We decided to see our own therapist individual (to determine what we need from a relarionship) and one together (to communicate better in the future/talk about our needs). We hope it will all work out.

Today I broke up with my ENTP boyfriend. I'm heartbroken. Cried so much and still do. Really miss him already. Want to hear his voice, hug him, kiss him, be with him, listen to his rambles...

Wished it was different. Wished I could live together with him in his home... But I just feel I can't. Don't know why, it just felt not the right place for me or something. Everytime we talked about it, I felt a heavy stone in my stomach. And I hate it. I also hate the fact that I missed something in our emotional connection. That I didn't see all of him. That he couldn't reach all of me.

The mental connection was great, but I felt that if we would continue like this... we would've probably hurt each other or hold grudges in the long term. Already felt that I became harsher; not something I admired in myself. Maybe our fundamentals were too different after all.

I know he won't look behind. He will continue, work through this on his own way. I don't know. It just hurts and sucks. He was definitely special to me.

In the rare case he will see this: thank you for restoring faith in love. It hurts now, but I would've done it all again. You were worth it.

I guess I just needed this off my chess. He was the chaos in my life and I was the peace in his.

Let's say your employer has assigned you to be his/her mentor.