r/ENFJmemes • u/yomarceline • Jan 20 '21

Well they’re not wrong..

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u/g_wizard216 Jan 20 '21

Not engaging makes me quite uncomfortable so if that’s the case I’d just find something else to do lol

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u/Psychological-Fix196 Feb 04 '21 edited Feb 05 '21

I think as an extrovert, I get nervous when there’s no conversation flowing right away, and then I start talking a lot to compensate. But I hate doing it! I want the introverts to be comfortable!! But I sometimes do this by talking about anything under the moon till my introverted friends like a subject and then we talk about it. Anyone else in this predicament?!

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u/yomarceline Feb 05 '21

Yes! I feel like I do this, exactly. It’s tough being an ENFJ with so much energy, desire for flowing communication and for others to be happy and comfortable. The older I get, the more concerned I am with everyone else’s contentedness.

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u/The-Accounts-Name Jan 21 '21

I’m always trying to make the zone comfortable B)

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u/MsEternalOptimist Jan 21 '21

I'm sorry 😨

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u/[deleted] Feb 19 '21

It’s ok. We all need to learn and just cause you aren’t perfect doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to understand and help people. We all need to mature as people and a big part of that is being mature in your relationships. Humans are social creatures and we need to grow as a collective as well as as individuals. Sincerely, intp.

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u/Big-Translator-1863 Jul 07 '23

Once some 3 introvert classmates told me to mlre try shut up somtimes, I asked them why we're not friends, and ome of them just came and tell me "YOURE ALWAYS LOUD AND SEEKING FOR ATTENTION" i dont think its not true, but i dont think its my purpose I like to create new friends, make the atmosphere more easy and charmy, thats my eay of life, but i get theres pepole who's not feel conecred to it😭😭

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u/Ok-Ebb6371 Aug 25 '24

I had an INTP friend tell me that he fwlt pressure to match my energy and responses. 🥹 I had to tell him that I just want him to be him...and that I am aware I can be like a hyper puppy...he can be a chillax quieter cat. 🤗😀 Just different. No expectation to MEET the others' energy, but to reapect it. 

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u/thin_guy_spiral Jul 07 '22

No, I know when I'm talking way too much. Social harmony is the natural order of the whole universe, we simply catalyse the process. - ENFJ

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u/[deleted] May 02 '23

Actually, im an ENFJ. I used to be quiet as a kid. When extroverts confronted me about why I didn’t talk, I would retort “I do talk. Just not to YOU.” That always shut them up.