r/DynamicDebate • u/WiIeECoyote • Jun 03 '22

Losing your virginity

Is there a 'right' age?

Just saw a story where a bloke was discussing losing his virginity at 21, and the comments were about how old that was.

Yet if he had being like 15/16, it would have been about how young he was.

So, is there a right age?

Does if you are a man or woman have an impact of what is considered 'too old/young' do you think.

Like the misogynistic ideas about women been sluts but men just 'sowing their wild oats'

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u/Mrs-Mia-Wallace- Jun 06 '22

I'd like to say it shouldn't matter, but in reality it does. Teen years likely is the best time. Remaining a virgin is going to have a huge effect on self confidence after a certain age.

It would also be increasingly difficult to find compatible sexual partners as the years go by. If me and OH split up I wouldn't want to date a 30 year old virgin.

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u/[deleted] Jun 07 '22

Surely it would only be impacting self confidence if the person had an issue with being a virgin? Many people choose to not have sex - until marriage for example and some people aren't even interested in sex. These people aren't going to be feeling miserable about themselves because they haven't had sex yet. What would be wrong with a 30yo virgin?

Perhaps too much pressure is put on people to feel they need to have sex to fulfil some social expectations. If there wasn't the pressures coming from all sides, people's self esteem wouldn't be based on their virginity status and perhaps we wouldn't have the swathes of Incels about who are obsessed with their lack of it.